Patience is a virtue

[CNOS128]

Hi all! I''m new here. I LOVE this forum - I need to talk to someone who understands how I feel. Because since my BF and I have started talking about the possibility of marrying I think I''ve gone a little overboard (he''s asked me to stop talking about it so much). But I need someone to talk to!

He and I have been dating almost 1.5 years (I know, it''s not SO long, but since that first encouraging conversation...) and I''m absolutely madly in love with him and at this point whenever I talk about marriage and the future he tells me to be patient! And "things will work themselves out in the next little while." And "patience is a virtue."

Now, my little while is a lot littler than his little while, and I''ve always known this. But waiting is a little agonizing. (Made worse, by the way, by my mother and his mother and everyone we know asking...)

I''m just trying for now not to anticipate a specific date of proposal because that''s setting myself up for disappointment. This is hard!! (But in a good way). SO glad I found this forum. Reading everyone''s stories has been just great!


BigT

 

[FrekeChild]

Patience is a virtue that I don''t have. I feel your pain.

We''re at about 1 year 9 months and went ring shopping the first time in Feb of ''07...since then, pretty much nothing except a random discussion here and there, with a whole lot of, "...when we move...when we buy a house...when we get to have puppies..." All of which is alluding to the fact that we won''t do any of those things until we''re married because I''ve made it clear that I won''t.

He''s given me a generic timeline in a way, but I am far from being informed. Some of the ladies here have deadlines like "end of ''08" but I don''t get that unfortunately, because he doesn''t want me to have a CLUE as to when it''s coming. But we''ve discussed that we want to be engaged for 1-2 years before tying the knot, and that we want to be married before we move for his job; and he graduates in about 2 1/2 years-ish. So...time is ticking...

But, I decided something today. I''m going to try my damnedest to not bring it up anymore. The only thing I''m not going to change is a certain *amazing* stone thats permanently up on a browser page, and is left for him to look at whenever he should feel the need.

 

[FrekeChild]

Hahaha...I just changed the background for our computer to the stone I want. He''s going to kick me.

Ah yes, and WELCOME TO THE BOARD!!!!

 

[CNOS128]

I''ve also resolved not to say anything about marriage - but I feel like the harder I try, the worse I do at that. And my little sneaky ways of getting information out of him, it turns out, aren''t so sneaky (I think because even when I''m NOT talking about getting engaged he thinks that''s what I''m hinting at).

I''d admire your tenacity in putting pictures of diamonds all over the computer. I think my BF would have a fit if I did that... I just take every opportunity to look in jewelry store windows!!

But I''ve also made it pretty clear that I don''t want to move in together until we''re married or engaged (so when he starts talking about getting an apartment together this summer, I wonder if he''s fantasizing or he''s forgotten my restriction or what!).

Oh well. It''ll all work itself out in a little while.

Good luck to you in your quest for patience!

 

[FrekeChild]

And good luck to you as well!!!

Ooo...and it''s not a diamond, instead a random colored sapphire. (I''m not a diamond girl, which is really rare in these parts.) He just about flipped when he saw it all over the comp though. Hee hee hee

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 1/28/2008 6:34:54 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Hahaha...I just changed the background for our computer to the stone I want. He's going to kick me.

Freke--that's awesome! What color sapphire is it?

I used to REALLY want a sapphire before pricescope converted me to being a diamond lover, and I still love them. Actually, my mom's engagement ring is a beautiful Ruby, so me going with a diamond will be a break in tradition.

BigT, good luck to you. Boys are so frustrating with their LACK OF TIMELINES (she hints to the man standing behind her...darn, I don't think he's paying attention

)

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 1/29/2008 12:26:24 AM
Author: ladypirate

Date: 1/28/2008 6:34:54 PM

Author: FrekeChild

Hahaha...I just changed the background for our computer to the stone I want. He''s going to kick me.

Freke--that''s awesome! What color sapphire is it?


I used to REALLY want a sapphire before pricescope converted me to being a diamond lover, and I still love them. Actually, my mom''s engagement ring is a beautiful Ruby, so me going with a diamond will be a break in tradition.


BigT, good luck to you. Boys are so frustrating with their LACK OF TIMELINES (she hints to the man standing behind her...darn, I don''t think he''s paying attention

)

Bluish greenish, but I think it''s more green. I''ve been debating stones forever (blue topaz, blue zircon, blue spinel, and sapphire) because everyone always comes up with reasons I shouldn''t get one or the other (mostly "how long is it going to last getting worn everyday?" type reasons-ugh don''t get me started!) and I was always anti-sapphire because a) I have one already and b) I don''t really like the typical inky blue or the cornflower blue as much as I probably should (I''m a blue FREAK!) and they both are so...normal? And I wanted something different. But this stones color is like nothing I''ve ever seen before-but I''m terrified someone will snatch it up before he''s ready, so I keep leaving little "hints" around.
I posted one that''s 3.76 carats and $5,640...But the one I want is more green, smaller, and way less expensive, and I''ve fallen in LOVE

!!! And I don''t want anyone to buy it. Well, except BF.
Similar to what I want
Ok. Threadjack is over!

 

[FrekeChild]

Holy CR4P!!Sorry the pic is so big guys...my bad...

 

[gwendolyn]

I don''t mind that it''s big. It''s gorgeous!!!

 

[ladypirate]

Wow--that''s lovely! Your bf better get on it.

 

[bubbly1126]

That is absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

WHOA - that things is gorgeous! SO needs to step to it quickly

 

[redfaerythinker]

I officially diagnose you with LIW-itis. There sadly is no cure,(except for a sparklie on a certain finger!) however there are things that you can do. You can try and keep busy and keep your mind off of it, new hobbies, girls nights, etc. I know it''s hard, i''m going through a bit of a relapse myself at the moment. But after being here for awhile and venting with us, it satisfies your cravings a bit. Just try and enjoy your time as a gf, it will be over before you know it!

 

[zilaras]

Beautiful!!!

I tried my hardest and made it a whole week with out mentioning anything related to the ''m'' word. However, I slipped up last night....but now i will try to go another week!

 

[CNOS128]

It''s fabulous!! I would put pictures of that everywhere, too. It kind of makes me want a sapphire instead of a diamond...
Well, not really. But almost!

Thanks for helping me to stay strong, everyone. I will do what I can to support you all!

 

[ambeauk]

FrekeChild-you are so funny!! I did the same thing when we first were talking about rings. He opened up the laptop and gave the biggest eye roll ever.

And also being a LIW, I''ve tried several times to restrict my mentioning of the ring, marraige, the wedding, etc. I last, on occasion a maximum of two days. I''ve been better about it lately though

The stone is beautiful by the way!