Paying for BMs Hotel??

[Rose_Dust]

I was in a wedding this past fall as a bridesmaid and the bride paid for my hotel room. Now it is my turn and she is one of my bridesmaids. Do I need to pay for her room too?

I had been expecting to pay for my own room in the fall. I kept asking her where her room-block would be so I could make my reservations. I didn't think that her paying for me was necessary or customary. I wasn't planning on paying for her room but I don't want to seem rude.

What are your thoughts?

 

[sillyberry]

It was very kind of her to pay for your room, but you are not obligated to reciprocate.

 

[Clairitek]

It was very kind of her to pay for your room, but you are not obligated to reciprocate.

Big ditto. The only time a friend has paid for my hotel room was when I was a poor graduate student. I did pay for a flight out there, my dress, shoes, and hair. I considered it a really nice gesture for her to pay for my room (she didn't pay for anyone else's though) since she knew it was a financial stretch for me to be in the wedding in the first place. When she was in my wedding I did not reciprocate. I don't think that your friend expects it out of you, as well.

 

[lucyandroger]

You're not obligated to pay but if you know it will be a financial stretch for her, it would be a very nice thing to do. If she's a poor student and paid for your hotel room, then in my opinion it would be kind of crappy not to pay for hers. BUT if she's well off or working and making a good salary, then I think it's fine not to pay.

 

[Rose_Dust]

We're both working and making good money which is why I was surprised she picked it up for me. I wasn't financially stretched at her wedding, and I dont' anticipate her being at mine but I will be conscious of it.

Thanks all for yours words of advice.