placecard name help

[tiffanytwisted]

Hi. I need help. My placecards were pre-printed with our name and date. So I am handwriting the guest name and the table number. My problem is, they have the M on the name line, like this:

M____________

What do I do if the person is a doctor?
Thanks!

 

[monarch64]

I''m assuming you didn''t order any blank placecards just in case? If not, I think the best thing to do may be to find a liquid "wite out" type of thing in the same color as the place cards and "erase" the "M" and nicely print "Dr." I''m no expert, though, maybe someone else has a better suggestion?

 

[bravesfan]

hmmmm.... this is a hard one. could you order a small amount of place cards that have Dr. on them? Maybe like 5 or 10? If not how complex is the place card... could you make a similar one on your computer and take it to kinkos to have it printed on a card?

I dont know what else to suggest...

 

[FireGoddess]

Well, I have my doctorate and I didn''t care that all the place cards I''ve ever been given have said Mrs. FireGoddess. Would these people mind? Seems silly to have to go out of your way for a placecard that won''t be noticed once they sit down at the table!!!

 

[neatfreak]

I don''t think people should mind...but that''s just me.

When I get my doctorate I certainly don''t expect people to call me Dr.!!!

 

[luckystar112]

Most Doctor''s don''t care...some however, need to get a GRIP.

Is this the type of Doctor who will return mail back to sender if he isn''t addressed as "Doctor" on the envelope--including birthday cards and xmas cards? (My boyfriend''s chiropractor did this. He was the father of a friend, which is how we know he does it to everyone.

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Does he/she ignore you if you don''t call him Doctor when trying to get his attention? (My Biology teacher does this.)
Is he/she overly-proud of their status and makes sure to let everyone know that they are a doctor within the first 5-10 minutes of meeting someone?

If any of those are the case, then I say you should definitely make a new placecard. If not, don''t worry about it! A 2x3 inch card that has an "M" instead of a "D" shouldn''t be the end of the world. Who would look like the idiot in this scenario? You for not thinking ahead and ordering a special card for this guest, or the doctor complaining to people how offended he/she was at their placecard?

 

[xiuying]

I tend to agree on the "doctor" part. I know my father has gone by both Doctor. and Mr. Xiuyingdad, and I doubt he''d even think to question a place card that had Mr. labeled.

However, if there IS someone you know about that greatly prefers their title, that can make it a bit tricky.

This might or might not work, but could you get a sheet of sticker-paper that you could print some elegant "D''s" onto that match the "M''s" ? There''s a lot of nice fonts you can download for that sort of thing. The sheet you get could be one with the stuckers pre-cut (in circles or whatnot), or you can find sheets where you peel the entire thing off as one big sticker, in which case you''d want to cut them out individually before peeling. Plus, you can also get (sorry if this is complicated!) some of those really cute punchers that have intricate designs and cut it out using those. That way if people notice the sticker, they''ll also notice the intricate borders and it will look just as nice as the ones without the sticker at all.

Best of luck!

 

[FireGoddess]

That is a great idea about the sticker - if you have white cardstock for the placecards, and some people who might get offended by the designation, it''s a good way to go.

 

[basil]

I don''t know what I would do with the cards, but I disagree with the people who don''t think it''s a big deal to call someone whose title is "Dr." "Mr." or "Ms."

It''s not really a matter of ego or pretention or "I earned it" nonsense. And I don''t know any doctors who would seriously be offended. But really, it''s part of their name and you should try to use their name as correctly as possible. It''s like saying "oh, my cards didn''t have enough room for my friend Mrs. Krystolikyshytz, so I''ll just put Mrs. K". Fine in a casual setting, but not in a wedding, in my opinion.

 

[zoebartlett]

A female doctor gave me her take on this issue once. According to her, she is a "Mrs." when her name is written in relation with her husband. She is the wife of a Mr., so she considers herself the "Mrs." in that scenario. On her own, she is a "Dr." although she doesn''t balk when someone addresses things to her as "Ms."

Some consider the title part of their name, some don''t. I personally don''t think it''s a big deal. Like the woman I spoke of above, I think it could depend on the context in which the Dr., Mrs., etc. is used.

 

[dtnyc]

My dad is a physician- he wouldn''t be impressed- he wouldn''t be upset, but he would be slightly irritated.

For the longest time when telemarketers would call and ask to speak to Mr. MYdad''slastname, my dad would answer that he lived in PA (where my grandfather lived.)

For our reply cards we didn''t have the M at the beginning of the line- just the line...

Also this isn''t just a doctor thing, but also for Ministers and Military officers- they also have titles.

 

[Independent Gal]

FF and I are both ''Dr''s'' of the Ph.D. variety, and we just got a wedding invitation addressed to Dr. Indy Gal and Dr. Indy Gal''s Guy and I did a double take. I would only ever use my title in professional situations that seriously called for it.

There was a thread recently about why medical doctors are so weirdly fussy about this (no offence to anyone) but I guess if people are your guests and some of them MIGHT actually care, you may''s well indulge them and you don''t want to offend them.

White out?

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 5/10/2007 6:14:45 PM
Author: dtnyc

My dad is a physician- he wouldn''t be impressed- he wouldn''t be upset, but he would be slightly irritated.

For the longest time when telemarketers would call and ask to speak to Mr. MYdad''slastname, my dad would answer that he lived in PA (where my grandfather lived.)

For our reply cards we didn''t have the M at the beginning of the line- just the line...

Also this isn''t just a doctor thing, but also for Ministers and Military officers- they also have titles.

This made me smile because it reminded me of something from a while back. My real first name begins with an M (Zoe is actually my cat''s name). A long time ago I got an invitation that had the M_________________ on the reply card. I thought it was "clever" that the people holding the event I was invited to thought to begin my name for me. So instead of writing, "Ms. M_____________," I just finished the line: "MXXXXX." Duh.