Please help, I lied to a Tiffany salesperson

[1964pandora]

I am having a ring made by a well known jeweler mentioned on this Board. I won’t mention who it is because I don’t want him publicly associated with what I just did.

I went in to Tiffany Co. today to try on a similar ring style, obviously to make sure that the ring I am having made will fit and that I like the number of carats, etc.

I did not intend to lie to the Associate about what I was doing but I did. I was so uncomfortable with just being vague that when I was asked if I wanted to put the one I liked aside, I said yes. No doubt I said I was buying it. If you think this is deplorable you are right.

I think it’s because I felt badly about doing it to begin with. Ugh you get the point. So he has already texted me. Would you say that you’ve changed your mind even though that’s a lie too?

Yes I am a liar and I can’t believe it. I went in there thinking I would say that I was just looking and thinking about it, etc. and what did I immediately do instead? I lied.

So does anyone want to take pity on me and suggest what I should do now? I mean I know from this Board that Tiffany diamond quality is frequently not up to snuff so I shouldn’t have gone in…

Thank you.

 

[MissGotRocks]

Just tell the associate you aren’t going to purchase it. He can then put it back into the case for sale.

Do not let anyone pressure you to make a decision about any large purchase that you are not prepared to make. If you are looking, tell them you are just looking. Thank them for their time but don’t be browbeat into saying anything except that you are just looking. You are able to look and browse without any commitment to do anything about a purchase. These practices are not uncommon and not limited to Tiffany either.

 

[Slickk]

I would just say, “I really wasn’t ready to purchase at this time but thank you so much for all of your help.” I think that implies they might have been a tad pushy (because it sounds like you felt/were pressured to buy an engagement ring on first visit) as well as being honest about not being there to buy at that time.

Edited for clarity

 

[1964pandora]

Thank you so much. I should have seen it coming and known that of course he’d have strategies. No excuse, but I should have thought about the fact that I would need to really say “just looking!” So I am going to text him back now.

 

[1964pandora]

Ok I just texted him. Thank you for giving me the courage to at least do the right thing now!

 

[lovedogs]

I would just say, “I really wasn’t ready to purchase at this time but thank you so much for all of your help.” I think that implies they might have been a tad pushy (because it sounds like you felt/were pressured to buy an engagement ring on first visit) as well as being honest about not being there to buy at that time.

Edited for clarity

This. I always say "I'm just looking" to avoid sales pressure

 

[DejaWiz]

There's no harm in kicking some tires...I've been in (auto) sales before and it's quite normal to deal with since it's about one in every forty people that becomes buyers. The sales associate will brush it off and simply move on with their day to help the next person in line, I assure you.

 

[musicloveranthony]

I usually go with "I'm just here to appreciate. So if you need to help other people, please do. Otherwise I'll let you know if there's anything I'd like to see"