Poor College Students

[pookie]

I accidentally posted the same thing twice because my computer was acting up, so I'm just going to get rid of what this one said.

 

[robbie3982]

Awe, Pookie, I definitely understand what you''re saying! I think that you need to find a way to make him understand that marriage is a compromise, it''s give and take and at this part, he should be giving. He doesn''t need to give up everything, but he should give up a little. I think if you guys don''t talk about money concerns now, it will come up again later. Once you''re married will be collective money, not yours or his, and he''ll probably still be spending that collective money the same way that he does now.

Try to come with a "how would you feel if I..." story that puts it in terms that will be clearer to him. TV''s (my guy wants a big screen tv as an engagement gift)? Video game systems? Cars?

I hope this helps!

 

[JulieN]

Is he otherwise generous with you?

 

[RoseAngel04]

First of Welcome to Pricescope!!!

We (my ff and I) are also college students looking to get engaged in the near future (I'm hoping for by 2007, but who knows!). There aren't that many of us students on PS, but with you the number just increased by 1!

I understand the whole not having enough/a lot of

moolah to get the most amazing ring out there. I do think that ya'll should definitely sit down and have a very serious discussion about finances before the proposal and talk through how things will be once you're married etc. My ff and I did this a while back and it helped a lot for me to realize I am not going to be getting a 10k ring that some other couples can afford. Now, my ff is WONDERFUL with money, thank the Lord. He works full-time and supports himself so he knows that he can't just splurge anytime he sees something he wants. He very rarely splurges on big items on himself...you could call him money conscious, which IMO is a good thing. I need a little more of that trait!

But I am learning...I know his budget is in the 3-7k range for my ring, which I am perfectly happy with! We have gone ring shopping together and I found many different rings within this budget. While like you, I would take a simple silver band if that's all we could afford just to be with my man, but since he is good with money and saving, I know that won't be happening.

My FF recently made a large purchase, taking the plunge to buy a LCD TV. He analyzed the situation, price, and quality etc of his purchase around a month before going for it. This sparked a little idea in my head "Hey if can afford a LCD, then he can afford an engagement ring." I calmly explained to him how much I thought he deserved to treat himself etc with this purchase but that I couldn’t help but think this money could help US in other areas.

He got the point gave me his sexy smirk and said "Don't worry babe, that's all under control." So I trust his judgment and that was that. He loves spoiling me and making me happy as much as he is able, so I know he isn't selfishly putting our future on hold.

I would discuss with your bf about how much it would mean if he gave up a little to get you a nice ring that you would be happy with. If ya'll are serious about marriage he should be willing to put his wants aside at least for a few months and sacrifice to give you something you will wear for the rest of your life.

Hope this helps. Keep us posted and good luck.

 

[pookie]

He certainly doesn''t just shower me with gifts all the time, but he is generally fairly generous with me.

 

[galeteia]

Are there two identical threads? I posted on another one by Pookie with the same title. I''m confused.

 

[pookie]

Yeah, sorry. My computer was being dumb, and I didn''t think it saved the first time.