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Okay, before you tell me ''I told you so'' let me jump back a little.

A few months ago my FI and I broke up, very amicably I might add. We still are friends which is weird to some but I think we both realized that we most likely meant to be friends and not anything more. Well, I have always been very close to his best friend, in fact I knew him from college when we shared a lab group together. We lost touch after school but when I started dating my ex FI we met again. After my FI and I broke up ''J'', his best friend, and I became very close. We spoke to each other all of the time and hung out a lot. A lot of you were telling me that you thought it was something more on his part but as usual, I was in denial....you were right!

So a few weeks I went with J and a number of friends to the hamptons. J''s parents have a summer house there. Well Saturday night we all went out to the clubs and around 1am I became really tired and all I could think about was going back to the house. Well ''J'' said he''d drive me back even though I could tell he was having a great time out. I said I''d take a cab and after much ''arguing'' about this I said I was going to the bathroom and then snuck off and grabbed a taxi that had just pulled up to drop off some folks. So I get back to the house and all was quiet and it was so nice! So I''m lounging out by the pool listening to the sound of the ocean when I hear the sliding door open and who walks out but J. He was so mad at me for leaving because he was worried! We got into a bit of an argument because I couldn''t understand what he was so worried for and started getting really pissy. I turned to go inside when he grabbed me by the shoulders and kissed me...WOW!!!!!!!!!! I''ll tell you, I''ve kissed enough guys in my lifetime but this one literally took my breath away!!! It was like everything you''ve ever read about or seen in movies, and even better! I really got lightheaded and weak in the knees! I didn''t want it to end and grabbed him when he stopped! We both pulled away at one point and just stared at each other and started laughing, I laughed so hard I thought I was going to pee in my pants and had tears streaming down my face. When we finally ''came to'' he told me that he''s been wanting to do that for years, even when he knew me in school but I was dating his fraternity brother. It was almost as if something hit me, like I opened up to him and realized how much I liked him too. Weird isn''t it? He told me how he was sooooo jealous when I was with my ex but cared enough about me to be friends. Isn''t that sappy but sweet? I know a lot of what we discussed was because the alcohol had lowered our inhibitions...
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So here we are, a few weeks later and are still together although we''re hiding it from everyone else which is not easy. My ex is dating someone now and according to J he seems to really like her. I don''t think he''d honestly mind if he knew I was with J but I feel guilty that it happened so quickly and I don''t think many would understand. What do you think? Is this wrong?

So ya''ll were right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


YAY!
So, SO glad for you.
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Hehehehehe, so giddy for you!!!!!!
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If your ex is already dating someone else and you two are still on friendly terms, I say just tell him! I think it would be a lot more awkard and likely to blow up in your face if you hide it from him first because it will eventually come out.

Also: We told you so!
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This totally made my day!!! YAY you & J!!!
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We so called this one!!!! We knew way back when you and your guy broke up, that this guy really had feelings for you. I think, if your ex is dating someone, be open about this. Who knows where it will go, but take it slow, and see what happens. This could be a permanent relationship and it might be best to be up front. Just be aware of his ex, who I recall was a nightmare. Good luck and be happy!
 
congrats but yikes!! i soooo wouldn't want to be the new woman, after he broke up with his PSYCHO CRAZY EX. no wonder she was always jealous of you and trying to outdo you!!! this will confirm every nasty thing in her mind she ever thought about you (aka you were out to get her man even if that is not the case. girls are CRAZEE). be careful!!!
 
LOL!! I knew I'd get a 'told you so'!!!!!!!!!!!!! But I totally deserve it!
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I guess I'm just nervous to tell my ex. Even though he's with someone now, and supposedly is really into her, I feel guilty for having such strong feelings so fast, as if our relationship meant nothing. It's not true of course, what we had I will always treasure and value but with J it's just so intense and amazing! I honestly have never felt this before so fast. J doesn't think he'll mind as much as I think he will but he said he'll leave it up to me to decide when to tell him. He said he'd tell him together if that's what I wanted but I think it's better coming from just me. I just don't want to hurt my ex and I know some of my friends won't understand.
diamondfan, I can't imagine how wacko will act when she finds out! hopefully she won't go postal!!!
Mara, you are so right!!! I'll bet she will go around saying she totally knew this would happen!! maybe she knew something we didn't???
 
Awe, I love happy stories! Keep us updated!
 
I knew it too!!!

It is good advice to be careful of his ex...she was always trying to one-up you, probably because she could sense that she didn''t live up to how he felt about you in his mind, and I''m sure that was a difficult position to be put in. But that might make her lash out against you! So it is wise to be careful. Good luck!!
 
So happy to hear this!!! It sounds just like a movie!

I think you should tell your ex together... if they''re good friends, I think it will be fine, especially if he''s happy with someone else. No sense keeping it a secret.

And watch out for the psycho!
 
yay! I definitely don''t think that there''s anything wrong with dating J. I dated one of FI''s former best friends and absolutely no one has a problem with it. He''s a former best friend because he turned out to be totally psycho (had nothing to do with FI and I getting together).

I''m so happy for you!
 
Finally! Congratulations!

Just to be sure...did he ever change the locks? I wouldn''t be surprised if the whacko ex had a copy of the key made before she returned it (if she ever did return it.) Make sure J gets some new deadbolts! But yay!!!!!
 
When I saw the title of your thread I was so excited!!! I knew y''all were going to get together and I''ve been hoping for sooner rather than later. I''ve been checking the LIW a lot to see if you had an update. I''m so happy for you! That is so cute that he''s had a crush on your for so long. And because you have known each other for so long, its totally normal to fall so fast, especially since you already know each other so well.

Go ahead an tell your ex, and he''ll appreciate your honesty up front, and since he''s already moving on that will be great too. How ironic would it be if the 4 of you went on a double date.

Be sure to keep us posted on everything!
 
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"J" has 2 very important qualities: patience and self-control. It must have been so difficult for him to stay in your ex-apartment after he broke up with Ms. Evil and not say anything about his feelings for you the entire time. He''s a keeper!
Be on the lookout for Ms. Evil, and get ''J'' to change the locks if he hasn''t done that already.
 
Wow, I can''t believe how many of you had a feeling this would happen! I was in some serious denial wasn''t I?!
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I should of listened to ya''ll earlier!!!!!!!!

Well my ex knows. Last night I met him out for drinks and I just came right out and said it. He looked at me and laughed and said he was wondering when we''d get together! He said he had a feeling that J had a crush on me and felt that if anyone would take good care of me it would be J. I got tears in my eyes at that and he leaned over and gave me a big hug and said he was really happy for me. I asked him about his new girl and if you could of seen the glow on his face when he spoke about her, he''s totally smitten and I''m really happy for him. I told him she better treat him right or she''d have me to answer too!

J did change his locks, about a week after wacko showed up. Supposedly she''s been away on business but we''ll see tomorrow because my friend Jenna is throwing a birthday party for a mutual friend of ours. J and I are going and even my ex and his new girl will be there so it should be a very interesting evening! I told Jenna about J and I and she said she had a feeling it would happen (I think I haven''t given my friends enough credit in figuring me out!!!). I am a little nervous about wacko though, J just laughs it off but he doesn''t know how evil and catty women can be..especially a woman scorned! I keep telling him ''hell hath no fury like a woman scorned'' and he just laughs. MEN!!!

AND, how could I forget, J invited me to go to LA with him for his moms 60th birthday party. Talk about nervous! He showed me the invite and it was just like a wedding invitation. J laughed and said his parents like to go all out and btw it''s a black tie party (huh??). It''s at this really nice restaurant on the beach in Malibu but I can''t remember what it was called and it''s driving me crazy. I want to say it''s a persons name like Georges or Angelos or something. I think this calls for a trip to our fashion room at work. Did any of you ever see The Devil Wears Prada? Remember the fashion closet where the girl got her pick of outfits? We have one very similar for photo shoots and it''s saved many a girls first date and such. It''s dog eat dog when new stuff goes in there but it''s worth it if you can get your hands on something. It''s considered a loan of sorts although half the time things are never returned.
 
Awwwww, yay! I almost got teary reading about your talk with your ex! So happy for both - well, all FOUR of you!!!
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I''d be nervous about psycho girl too, but the locks are changed (whew!) so I guess there''s nothing much to do about it at this point...GOOD LUCK though!!!!

And so cute you''re going to the anniversary party!! You just sound sooo happy and J sounds soooo sweet, and everything just seems to be working out perfectly! YAY!
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squeaks...see if you can find me something in that fashion closet for my cousin''s wedding in sonoma next month willya? i''m having a devil of a time buying a dress! hehee.

keep us posted!!
 
awwwwe, that''s so sweet.
it''s like a story about out a book.
J must be on cloud nine rigt now.
so glad everything worked out for you.
 
Yay, yay, yay! So glad to hear this news. It sounds like your ex is quite a man for being so kind about this. And J sounds like a great guy and my guess is if we figured it out, your friends have as well. Don''t expect too much shock from them!

Have fun shopping the closet!
 
That''s great, squeaks!!! I think I remember calling this one too back in your previous thread. I am so happy for you! I am a big believer in the "everything happens for a reason" thing, and I really think that this whole situation sounds very promising. J sounds like a great guy. And when it comes to your ex, I am glad he knows- you shouldn''t feel bad-sounds like he has moved on, and so should you...and when something feels right, go for it!

Good luck with everything! And I love that movie "The Devil Wears Prada!!!!"
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I''m so happy for you, squeaks, he sounds like such a great man to be with! It''s great that your ex is happy about it too! Best wishes!
 
I''m so excited for you too!
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He obviously is the kind of man who will always make your happiness a priority, as he did so when you were dating your ex. I can''t believe you never knew how he felt about you! I''m not surprised, either, that it''s moving quickly since you''ve known each other for a long time.... Congrats! Enjoy the party and the closet and the amazing new guy -- and keep us all posted!!
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squeaks, I was following your story and I also knew that you and J would end up together!!! Good for you, you should be with someone who treats you right and I think it''s very mature of you and your ex to discuss your lives so openly. It''s way better than hiding things and avoiding the inevitable.

Regarding J''s mother''s birthday, I''m assuming the place in Malibu is Geoffrey''s. Very lovely, great views, absolutely gorgeous place. You should definitely get decked out and let your new man show you off at a fabulous event! Keep us posted!
 
Aaw squeaks ! I KNEW IT ! :)

your story is so sweet.. just like in a movie hehe and it''s nice to hear that your ex is doing well and that all of you are getting along well.

just be careful of the evil w*tch !
 
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