Potentially in the next 2 weeks...

[Cravin My Emerald cut]

Well, next Friday, June 27 my bf and I are going to New Orleans for vacation/convention for work (we are in the same industry). We don''t technically have an anniversary, but you should say this event is our 3 year anniversary. This and other things have made me think he will propose in NO; however, I was driving his car today and opened the console...only to find a receipt for a deposit on my ring. Problem is it was a 25% deposit made 5/30.....I know it should be finished by now and I was sure he''d pay it all (he can afford to; just for some reason prefers installments). So, basically I''m now worrying that it won''t happen in NO and I''ll be really upset because it''s the "perfect opportunity." Granted we are going to San Diego on vacation the first week of August and he could do it then......NO is just so much better because it''s meaningful to our relationship.

Also, it will be interesting for me to be in NO (loads of alcohol) and thinking of a proposal constantly........I may get a little mean in my drunkenness

I just don''t know how to contain myself because I''m excited at the impending proposal yet I constantly worry too. ARGHHHHHH

 

[KCCutie]

New Orleans would be a great place for a proposal, but so would San Diego. Just try to remember that this is his thing his one thing and trust him to do something perfect(easier said than done, I know). Try to enjoy your time in NO as a couple and if it happens you''ll be even more excited.

What is it about guys and making payments when they have the money? I think my SO is doing the same thing (I''m not snooping I had to fax his bank statements to the loan officer since we''re making an offer on a house) I saw 2 different large withdrawals about a month ago. Sneaky taking it out in cash so I''ll never guess where he''s getting it from.

Here''s hoping both of us find answers soon. Sounds like we both expect something before mid August!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Try to trust that he will plan for the proposal at the best time. It may not be NO or San Diego for all you know. He may not feel like a trip that is business related is the best time to propose.

At this point, you have only found one piece of the puzzle. You can''t have one piece and know that the entire puzzle will look like. Perhaps you found an old receipt. Perhaps he is keeping the real receipt under lock and key with the ring itself or perhaps the final receipt is tucked away someplace far safer than his glove box.

Try and enjoy NO without any expectations. I''m sending lots of good thoughts your way though!!

 

[lamer]

I feel your frustration! The best part of a proposal is a surprise, but once you have a glimmer that it may happen soon, you start expecting and worrying and hoping and going nuts. I am leaving for a three week vacation to the Northeast and then Europe with my BF next monday. I know he has the ring, and I know i really really want it during that trip!! But, i have to remind myself that he may have another time in mind, maybe even the fall. It is so hard not to think about how perfect certain times would be, but trust that your SO will choose the BEST time.........and only in the moment will you know. Enjoy your trip and pretend like the ring does not exist. That is what I have been reminding myself to do for the past two months.

 

[kittybean]

I know it''s really hard (I was in the same position for the last few weeks), but try as much as you can to get all thoughts of the ring out of your head. I knew that my fiance and I were going on a surprise anniversary trip this past weekend, and for weeks I had been hoping that it would involve a proposal, but as soon as we got on the plane, I convinced myself that it wasn''t happening during the trip. I had heard from so many people that their fiances had been really nervous before they proposed and mine was cool as a cucumber. Well, as it turns out, he did end up proposing on the trip, but at that point, he really caught me by surprise. That is what he was going for from the beginning, so he was really happy, and I was really pleasantly surprised. It was a great feeling.

Moral of the story: do your best to get any time/place/manner ideas or prejudgments out of your head right now. You know that it''s going to be soon--trust that he will do a good job. No matter where it is, you will be blissfully oblivious to your surroundings the moment you get to say "yes." Enjoy your trips and remember how fortunate you are to be able to travel with your SO.

 

[that_someone_special]

Remind yourself-- if you can wait 3 years.. you can wait 3 more weeks!! It WILL be yours!

 

[Cravin My Emerald cut]

Thanks everyone for the advice...I will do my best to not think about it.

What''s funny though is that over the past few weeks I''ve not brought up the ring or proposal at all (as opposed to before during the search).....well now HE brings it up at least once a week. He''ll make comments about how he called or visited his "friend Al (the jeweler)" today for example. The other day he said something about how he hasn''t gotten down on his knees for me yet, but he will soon. Yesterday, he even got mad at me when he referred to himself as my fiance as I said "you haven''t earned that title yet".....he jokingly bent down on one knee and was like come on, you know I want to spend my life with you.

Now that I''m not stressed about it....he is....lol