problem with the wedding party

[brazen_irish_hussy]

I am having a problem with what to do with my brother during the cermony. My FI has three brothers who will be standing with him and I have my best friend, a guy, my bro''s FI and a female friend. The problem is that I hate to leave my brother out but I don''t know what to do with him. It is a wedding of less than 100 people and we are doing it on the stairs outside of the mansion which limits the number of attendents. My parents suggested adding him to my FI''s side, but that would be a lot of attendents for what we have in mind. Plus, I don''t have many female friends so I would have to ask my female cousin, but then her brother gets left out and I am in the same dilema. If we add him to my side, there will be a lot of guys to girls, we have to find someone for my FI''s side and he will be pawing his FI during the cermony.
I don''t know much about this sort opf thing, but I want a solution that shows him that he is as important as my FIs brothers. Especially sice I am closer to him than my FI is to any of his brothers.

 

[musey]

Is he an outgoing guy? What if you gave him the honor of doing a special reading (poem, anecdote, etc.)?

Do keep in mind that you don''t have to be symmetrical with your wedding party. He could stand with you or with your FI, no one will think it looks strange.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

I would agree, but because we will be standing on different levels of the steps, I think it might be kind of obvious.
Here is a wedding where we are having it to give an idea:

 

[musey]

I think it''s probably just personal preference. I don''t think there''s really any visual difference between having everyone on one level and having them split up on steps.

However, if you know it will bother you, that''s a different story! Hopefully someone else will chime in with a creative idea, because those were my only two

 

[partyjewels]

I think it would be fine to not have even sides. If it's going to bother you because of the step thing, then don't do it, but if you're ok with it, go for it! I was at a wedding where they did pictures on the steps and the number was uneven, and it doesn't look odd at all to any of us! (Us being the people who got married and the rest of our friends and family)

I would really like to include my brother in some way, and since he plays the piano I asked if he would play a song at our wedding ceremony. It's still a bit up in the air (which is ok, we've got time) if he's going to or not, but if he chooses not to, I've let him know that I'd really like him to be a part of the wedding and if he would rather not play a song would he do a reading.

What kind of a wedding are you having? Is the actual wedding on the steps? Or just for pictures?

ETA: Ok, looking back again at your post with the picture it would seem you are having the actual wedding on the steps.. So my new question is: do you think you brother will be hurt that he's not in the wedding? Or is it just that you really want to include him in that way?

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

The actual wedding is on the steps.
My brother is not good about thinking ahead so at the moment it doesn''t bother him, but I think having the rest of the family, my FI''s family and my bro''s FI up there but not him would be problematic when the day came. I mean, he would essentially be the only close family member who wasn''t up there.