question & update !

[sparkly_stars]

hello all.
figured i''d give you a small update.
nothing is new.
quick eh?
seriously though, haha, we talk about it, i think he might even be in the process/already done getting the ring.
does that mean i think it''ll happen soon? NO!
aha.
we''ll see.
i just want it to happen.


also, a quick question,( i might make another thread for it though!) for those who ARE engaged, have you had pressing questions from family etc on "how on earth did u afford that ring" OR "why did u go so big and waste all that money!?"

i ask because although i tink my ring(center stone) will be around the .5 mark that is certainly NOT the norm where i live (oh canada! haha).
so i was wondering how you all answered these questions.

you know who we fear most (or at least i do?) my fmil! she asks how much EVERYTHING cost ... NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! hahaha.
okay,
ps. i can''t believe i''ve already gone down to #10... a year since i''ve signed up on that list.. my oh my!

 

[robbie3982]

No one''s asked how much my ring costs. Not even my mom. If someone does ask you and you don''t want to tell them how much it costs, I''d just say it was a perfect balance between what I wanted and what was within budget and leave it at that.

 

[anchor31]

Hey, fellow Canadian and .50ct-er (I hope so for you anyway!

)

My ring has a .50ct center and 26ctw sides, and it''s way bigger, way better quality and way more expensive than what you usually see on a 21-year-old girl''s finger, but I''m proud of it and so is my FI. He spent 6 and a half months saving up for it because he thinks it''s worth it. He says I''m the woman of his life and I''m going to wear it for the rest of my life, so there had to be some effort and sacrifice involved.

I get a lot of nice comments on how beautiful and sparkly it is (it''s all about cut!! thanks PS!

), and I did get two or three comments about it being too big for their taste. I don''t really care though, what do they know?

I don''t talk about how much it cost or how much it''s worth (which is even more), but I did mention to two close friends that J had spent over six months saving up and putting in a lot of overtime so I could have it. They said they would never want a ring that iis so expensive, but again, what do they know?

J takes great pride in this, and I am nothing but grateful.

I''ve never been told is was a waste of money of asked how we could afford it, though. I don''t think much people around me actually know how much diamonds are worth.

I hope it''s going to happen soon for you! Lots of sparkly vibes!

 

[allycat0303]

sparkly_star,

Oh fellow canadian! I have a 1.27 RB in a halo. No one asked any questions because my boyfriend is making a very big salary, however I have gotten comments in the past that it's a waste of money. My mom thought I was a psychopath for getting something so small when my boyfriend could have gotten much more, and his mom said "it was beautiful"

As for me, I think I DSS has settled in, and I'm currently pinning away for a new addition I just saw on WF. Three of my friends recently got engaged, one girl has a 1 carat princess, the other a 0.75 emerald (SO gorgeous) and the last one got a 3 stone ring, with 0.5 twc. My favorite of them all is the emerald. WHAT A STUNNER!

And where are you from in Canada? That might make a difference too, I know in Quebec they tend to wear tiny rings. My tutor (a doctor) today was wearing a 0.1 solitaire with a wedding band. It was very discreet (I know this because my boyfriend gave me the exact same ring as a promise ring 7-8 years ago).

SO I'm going to say, go as big as you can go, even if you don"t initially feel comfortable with the size. I think 0.5 is a lovely beautiful size, and you should wear it with pride. It all depends on what you feel comfortable with, because no matter what you can't please everyone else.

 

[FacetFire]

Oh, I know what you mean. FI made the mistake of telling his parents how much he was spending. They basically told him he was insane and that the money would be better spent on something else. I wish he had at least rounded down a bit when he gave them the number, but oh well. In the end, it''s what he was comfortable spending on it, and that''s all that matters. And I love it!

Anyway, good luck on the proposal coming soon!

 

[firebirdgold]

While not from Canada, both of our families (well, half of his) tend to be non-ostentatious. At .57 I may have one of the largest diamond rings in our near family including (non-italian) aunts and cousins. So far the only reaction to the size has been to grab my hand, inspect the ring, and then turn to my Fi and say either ''Good Work!'' or ''You did good!''.

The major OEC sparkle factor helps alot as even the italian contingent was impressed!

 

[sparkly_stars]

aweee ladies. thanks so much for the replies!
I kind of got distracted today, and was like oh i should check ps. then thought to myself OH! I started a tread. haha silly me.
to answer, i am in New-Brunswick.

I am also 21 anchor!! so i''m preparing myself for the outcome. the fact that i have small hands will add to the size (to me YAY to others "waste of money")
but the ring of my dreams (that i think bf got/is getting) is PERFECT for me!
bigger someday?
i dunno. i think i''d prefer to get a LARGE eternity band someday to wear alone once married
one day at a time i guess!


basically, this was to inform you, yes i''m alive. yes i''m TRYING to be patient. AND YES sometimes i feel like strangling him. period. haha
<3

 

[sparkly_stars]

oh, and because i know theres pics of us SOMEWHERE here, i don''t think ages ago, the same ladies in waiting are around. haha.
so here''s us.
this is our "love face" HAAHAH.
and i suppose this picture is the one that is most "us" in all our bunch of pics we have (''magine that)

 

[sparkly_stars]

but now i kind of feel obligated to post a more "normal" picture of us, so you dont think our faces are THAT deformed haha.

 

[sparkly_stars]

Oh! I also think my family will be supportive, like I can picture my mom just saying what a nice ring it is bla bla bla.
its just his mom, I can SEE her saying something like "where did you get the money for that?!"
(since we are still young etc!)
WELL. he saved up some of his money forever, not large sums, but I DO know he''s been saving for a long time.
how much? i don''t know, for how long? again, not my concern.
but I just hate the way some family members butt into EVERYTHING!.


end rant

 

[Fancy605]

I think that people who say large stones are a waste of money are jealous somewhere underneath all that practicallity.
I will never have a 2 carat ring, but it isn''t because I think it''s frivilous; it''s because I don''t picture myself ever falling into the demographic that can set aside the money for it (especially because I am more obsessed with real estate than jewlery).

If you have money set aside for a larger than average ring, go for it! It''s only a waste if you don''t get exactly what you want.

 

[RoseAngel04]

Noone has asked about the cost of my ring, and if they did I wouldn''t tell them! I have my DREAM ring that my fiance and I both love to pieces! I do get comments on "how good he did" and that how my ring is so amazing, but no negative words thankfully. I am also a young bride-to-be (turn 21 in November) and IMO have a very nice looking/quality ring compared to other people in my age range. Not that I''m boasting or anything... And FI and I have discussed that this is my ring for the rest of our lives...no "ring upgrades" for us. My halo setting can handle a larger diamond, and FI has said if in the future I want a bigger stone we can talk about it...but I think it''s PERFECT!!!

FI worked so very hard in saving money to get me a ring that we both thing is an amazing symbol of our love. Not that you need a great ring for that, but he WANTED to give me something nice....I''m so thankful that I have such a wonderful future husband.

 

[sk8rjen]

Good to get an update from you, SS! Love the pics

Nobody''s been that rude to me yet, but I''ve gotten comments on how BIG the diamond is, etc, and lots of hand-grabbing and diamond-touching (eek!) One of what I call the "upper class" (read: wealthy) rink mom''s said she wanted to trade hers for mine and one other said something about my fiance having to work extra time to afford it, but no downright rude questions -- to me.

Fince on the other hand got a few from his family, nothing major.

I hope you get the ring of your dreams soon! I''d love to take a top-10er off the list!

jen

 

[Larissa]

His mother thinks it''s huge. At .47 carats my ring is small slghtly larger than the average British size, but cost far less.

Compared to all the rings in my American family, mine is the largest so far, but I''m also one of the first to get married. I imagine the rest will have larger rings due the ages at which they get married.

If anyone asked how much it cost, I''d laugh. The British simply aren''t that rude and the Americans simply don''t care that much.

 

[sparkly_stars]

you know what though?
as much as i wish i could just let little comments slide, sometimes i cant.
especially if they come from his side.
and for him, they just don''t bother him, and he''ll never say anything.
but for me.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
example. we bought a mini fridge the other day (we live in the basement section of his mothers house, because she is a single mother , we are young. it evens out to helping each (but.. i have a hard time dealing with this arrangement, and i doubt it''ll last much longer) ANYWAYS.. to continue. as we are coming homne, she is like "oh thats a nice/big one, how much was that?! refering to the fridge hahaha *ironic- same words* K ANYWAYS
and as D was just about to answer, iwas just like.. mm enough.
SERIOUSLY. i work for a great company, and make a pretty good salary SO honeslty, it ISNT up to me to disclose my expenses, AND it isn''t my fault I make more money then she does.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.


can you tell something is eating me uP ?ahhahaha.
i cant handle the living situation much longer, but I want to pay off some student loans AND save a bit to get a house/save for marriage...
BAAAAAAAAAh (so affordable IS what i need)


haha.
vent over.

wow. i definately NEED to update more often, look at the vents in the past TWO days.
bah!

ps. sk8rjen.. haha yes well i never thought i''d make it under the 20 mark.. BAH!
lol so here i am, sitting at 10.... and although i hope EVERYONE on the list gets engaged, i''d be quite comfy not moving lower then 10.. lol..
d oh d. GET GOING ALREADY! lol.