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Smurfysmiles

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I''ve compiled a list of questions that I thought were really good. I found these on the internet, enjoy!




1.) What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis?

2.) Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization? Is one or both of us neat? Messy? A "pack rat?" An organizational wizard?

3.) How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?

4.) What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means, and through what efforts?

5.) What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?

6.) How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening?

7.) If one of us doesn''t want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay?

8.) How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other''s level of ambition?

9.) Am I comfortable giving and receiving love, sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her?

10.) Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More?


11.) Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward?

12.) Is each of us happy with the other''s approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)?

13.) What place does the other''s family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How often? For what length of time?

14.) If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have to their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together?

15.) Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us?

16.) How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want or be able to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? In the months or years following the birth of our child, will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?

17.) Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially, and do we need to cut back on such commitments?

18.) What are my partner''s needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside of our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way?

19.) Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?

20.) Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other''s choices?

21.)Would you still be faithful to me if I got fat and ugly?

22.)Would you nurse me or care for me if I fell ill with some chronic debilitating disease?

23.)What are the faults which I have which you can''t stand ? How do you intend on dealing with them?

24.) What are the most important things you would teach to your children?

25.) Is "keeping up with the Jones" more important to you than simply living the comfortable life minus those extra luxuries? Would you rather spend time doing extra hours at work or spending it with me?

26.) How will you keep our romance alive?

27.) What does success mean to you? What does happiness mean to you?

28.) Will you give me space to devote to my hobbies and have free time for myself (girls night out , working out , etc.) ?

29.) What do you think about my parents? What do you like/not like about them?

30.) How do you feel about yourself? How do you cope with stress? Do you use recreational drugs or alcohol to elevate your spirit?


That''s all I''ve got for now but I hope it helps!
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How ''bout this one:

Will you let me eat whatever weird foods I want, without question, while I''m pregnant?
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Last night I had to go to the grocery store because I was craving both apple sauce and horchata. FI said I was gonna be crazy with weird foods while pregnant! HA, apple sauce and horchata is gonna be the tip of the iceberg, my friend!!
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