Reasons Why I Love My SO

[lktx]

Hi girls,

I've found that I sometimes overlook the good in my SO and focus only on the negatives and the waiting process. I thought it might be nice to have a thread where we reflect on all the reasons why our SOs are totally and completely awesome.

SO drove 3 1/2 hours to see me this weekend and brought me the Christmas present he picked out. He also tried to bring some yummy cookies as well, but the bakery he had heard great things about was closed for the week. He still gets credit though! He does things like that just to make me happy. He graciously puts up with my LIW cray. AND he's incredibly smart, trustworthy and quite easy on the eyes.

So what are some of the things you love about your SO?

 

[Lady5]

I like this. I tend to overlook a lot of positives as well. Sometimes its easy to take the little things for granted and focus on the negative things (like keeping us waiting ). SO is actually very sweet and does a whole lot of little things....like run out to my car for me, or refill my glass of wine for me so i don't have to get up, or automatically get up to give me his seat if theres no other chairs. Thinking about it now it kind of makes me sound super lazy! But I think he just likes to take care of me and I appreciate that. I think above all what I appreciate the most is the emotional support he's provided during grad school. It has been really hard on both of us...all the hours I've spent writing papers and doing projects...but when I get really frustrated he's always there to tell me that I will get through it and that I'm almost done and it will all be worth it in the end.

 

[wakingdreams53]

I'm definitely not in the same boat of dwelling on the negative, but I'll name reasons why I love him anyway

He's brilliant, surprises me with everything ranging from decorating the apt with lights when I'm gone to aerial tours of the city, he's always on-guard with what/how I say things (I can never use the term "Fine" because that's a huge red flag for him... even though I really am not that kind of girl, when I say something's fine, really, it is, or I'd say so lol), he's always looking to improve and ensures that life doesn't stagnate. The way he looks at me, the way he shows me off even when there's no one around, the way he appreciates and notices the little things I do. I love that he introduces me to people as the love of his life. I can go on and on, but what I really love is that we make a great team. We make some incredible things happen when we're together and I wouldn't change it for the world.

I'm a sap, but it's a new year and I'm so excited about what the future will bring for us. He's the love of my life and not only is he my future fiance, but he's my future husband and that's just such an amazing thought. Mush mush mush...

I need to end this less sappily. Our life is f*ing (pun intended) amazing.

 

[Impudent_Crumpet]

My SO is absolutely fantastic. He is supportive of the fact that medical school takes up about 90% of my life, loves my cat (and takes care of her when I'm away) even though he claims to be a dog person, and brought me French Onion soup when I was sick even though his parents were visiting from out of state. For Christmas, he got me absolutely the sweetest, most heartfelt gift I've ever gotten from an SO: an American first edition of a book I love, but have only mentioned liking once or twice. He even stayed within a budget that he found ridiculously low, since I'm currently not making an income (hi, medical school, thanks for that) and he is making a healthy one. Most of all, he just likes taking care of me. He genuinely cares about my well-being: physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional.

He makes me crazy sometimes and I make him crazy sometimes, but I just love him to bits. And he just GChatted me, so I'm going to go talk to the man friend now.

 

[advokait]

SO is just so endearing, everything he does he puts compassion and thought into. He's been there for me when I went through a really hard time even though we hadn't been dating that long-- he stepped up to the plate and went completely above and beyond the normal protocol for all the situations that presented themselves during that time. His sense of humor and that fact that's he's my best friend are probably my favorites though. I think I mentioned this in another thread but he's always said to me that if he can put a smile on my face by the end of each and every day that he's done his job.

 

[LoveLikeCrazy]

Too many to list...I guess I'll choose some of my favorites!

He opens every door for me, car doors too (even if I'm driving!) When we started dating I was the independent type. I told him I felt silly with him opening my door all the time - but I guess chivalry isn't dead and now I appreciate it more.

He always asks me if I need anything. Even if I'm in the other room studying, or watching a girly show - he will come in and offer a drink or a snack.

He leaves me adorable post it notes....in my car, bathroom...in my laptop etc...he just writes something cute nod posts it. They melt me. I wish I would have saved them all to put in a scrap book! I have started saving them recently and I have a bunch stuck to my nightstand.

He's my rock. When I'm grumpy, burnt out from working and school - he lets it roll off his shoulders and tries to comfort me, even when I'm being impossible.

I'm in a nursing program and work full time which is almost impossible, so I have no free time...he's alone most weekends even if I'm home. It sucks. I wish I could work less.

He is super clean and doesn't like anything to touch him....but he lets my dog Bella(she lives with my parents bc of our apt ) kiss his face all up! Haha! It melts me. He loves her so much, I can't wait to have fur babies of our own some day when we buy a house. I miss having my four-legger around

One thing he did last week - I had to work and we had a huge snowstorm. There was about 8in. of snow when I was leaving at 11:30pm. When I want outside I saw in the distance a car....so I was like wtf? I got closer and it was my SO! He found my car in he parking lot (I work at a hospital), used his extra key to preheat it, brushed it off and then followed me back to our apt to make sure I made it OK.



These are just a few of the things I love. He really is my better half! I am so lucky!

 

[madelise]

One thing he did last week - I had to work and we had a huge snowstorm. There was about 8in. of snow when I was leaving at 11:30pm. When I want outside I saw in the distance a car....so I was like wtf? I got closer and it was my SO! He found my car in he parking lot (I work at a hospital), used his extra key to preheat it, brushed it off and then followed me back to our apt to make sure I made it OK.

WTF, hello best boyfriend of the year award?!?!

 

[pandabee]

We started planning our dream house and we pretty much agree on everything that we want and it's fantastic. Except for bay windows and a jacuzzi tub but he said I could have those. And a wrap around porch.

Also, I found this story on pinterest of how this one couple saved a dollar from each time they made love, then when they were old and married for like 50 years, they took that money and used it to go on an awesome vacation! I told SO about it and then he went along with it so now I'm going to have to make a box for us to keep all our change in so we won't dip into it or try to count how much is there. I think that is a pretty cool way to encourage intimacy throughout your marriage and a good way to save for something fun!

 

[lkc84]

Also, I found this story on pinterest of how this one couple saved a dollar from each time they made love, then when they were old and married for like 50 years, they took that money and used it to go on an awesome vacation! I told SO about it and then he went along with it so now I'm going to have to make a box for us to keep all our change in so we won't dip into it or try to count how much is there. I think that is a pretty cool way to encourage intimacy throughout your marriage and a good way to save for something fun!

Cute!! SO gave me a cute piggy bank for Christmas...that might become its use!

As for the reasons I love my SO...he always can make me laugh/smile no matter what. I appreciate it, especially when it helps diffuse tension after we had a fight or if I'm really stressing out. He listens to me, even when I think he doesn't, and surprises me with little things like spinach from the grocery store when I say I forgot it, or trying to hang up Christmas lights when I said I was sad we didn't get around to it this year. I love him just because we have fun together. Always.

 

[pandabee]

Also, I found this story on pinterest of how this one couple saved a dollar from each time they made love, then when they were old and married for like 50 years, they took that money and used it to go on an awesome vacation! I told SO about it and then he went along with it so now I'm going to have to make a box for us to keep all our change in so we won't dip into it or try to count how much is there. I think that is a pretty cool way to encourage intimacy throughout your marriage and a good way to save for something fun!

Cute!! SO gave me a cute piggy bank for Christmas...that might become its use!

As for the reasons I love my SO...he always can make me laugh/smile no matter what. I appreciate it, especially when it helps diffuse tension after we had a fight or if I'm really stressing out. He listens to me, even when I think he doesn't, and surprises me with little things like spinach from the grocery store when I say I forgot it, or trying to hang up Christmas lights when I said I was sad we didn't get around to it this year. I love him just because we have fun together. Always.

Yay! That would be a good use for sure

Aww those are all very sweet. Also reminds me of some I forgot...his texts always make me smile even if they are something silly and then I'm just sitting by myself with a goofy smile on my face that I can't wipe off because of something silly he says. Fave!

 

[princesss]

He's a mystery to me. We have similar tastes but come from very different backgrounds and he always manages to surprise me somehow. Even with that, though, he understands me really well. Our first visit he rented a car (he doesn't have one) to take me to a bookstore in a town 30 miles away. It's this huge, gorgeous converted train station filled with beautiful books and it was so wonderful I couldn't stop staring for about half an hour saying, "Are you sure we're not just dead and this is actually heaven?" And when we went to Edinburgh, he got us the 24 hour tourist bus pass and took me to places he thought I'd like - things like the pub in the spot of the last public hanging (pub name: The Last Drop), a long row of tiny used bookshops, and past the hike he'd been planning before I hurt my knee - and they were all so perfect and so completely me that I was just stunned. And he'd insist on finding the flattest surface for me to walk on and make me walk there, no matter what he had to do to make sure I was safe. (About a month before the visit I was playing ultimate frisbee and tore my ACL, so I was in a knee brace and still pretty unsteady when I went to see him.)

He constantly asks about things I'm interested in, like church and jewelry, even though he's not interested in them at all, and he remembers what I tell him. He has unending, unshakeable faith in our relationship, even when I'm overthinking everything and cranky and we're separated by thousands of miles.

He takes what I need seriously.

He's hilarious. The first time we met, my friend and I were sitting down in a coffee shop and he invited himself over and spent over an hour making us laugh. (All I remember about it now is him saying, "Look, llamas. I've figured it out. On the third day, God got stoned and said, 'Sheep. Giraffe. LLAMA!'") I laugh every single time we talk. And I make him laugh. It's silly, but it makes me happy to see him laugh and know that I made it happen. I like making him happy.

 

[MBKRH]

One thing he did last week - I had to work and we had a huge snowstorm. There was about 8in. of snow when I was leaving at 11:30pm. When I want outside I saw in the distance a car....so I was like wtf? I got closer and it was my SO! He found my car in he parking lot (I work at a hospital), used his extra key to preheat it, brushed it off and then followed me back to our apt to make sure I made it OK.

WTF, hello best boyfriend of the year award?!?!

No kidding!!!! What a great guy, Love!

As for me, there's sooo many reasons, and I know I've listed them before in other threads, but I'll attempt to do it again:


- He's paying for my (our) car. Even though we are both on the title, it was my ol' thing that went as a trade-in.

- He always kisses me goodnight. Some nights, when I go to bed before him, I'll hear him come in, get under the covers, but before he lies down, he gently kisses my forehead and says "goodnight my love." Melts my heart every.single.time.

- He makes the bed everyday. I get up for work before him, so the only days I make it are on the weekend. He's always done it, though, ever since I've known him.

- He never leaves the toilet seat up (well, maybe once or twice...)

- He does laundry once a week (and I get another day), and he has yet to ruin an article of my clothing. Once, when I was gone for a long weekend dog sitting for my sister, not only did he do my laundry, but I came home and he put everything away for me.

- He loves to cuddle, and we always fall asleep as big spoon/little spoon. Sometimes he'll let me be the big spoon, which rocks 'cause I pretend to be a jet pack.

- He listens to me, and remembers things that I forget that I say. That's something I'm not used to.

- While he's not the greatest at saving money (nor am I), he pays his bills, and isn't a frivolous spender. He goes to work everyday, and works hard. (While this may not seem like much, Stupid #3 "worked" 2 days a week part-time, quit his full-time gig 'cause it "sucked and my boss sucks", and his mommy paid his bills. How cute, I think I was dating a 12 year old! Oh, not to mention that nasty boy wasn't a fan of brushing his teeth. And he wondered why I'd never kiss him. Ewwwww). M is the opposite of all that, thank god.

- I came home from work today, and the apt was spotless. He cleaned from top to bottom, including the toilet and vacuuming, took down the outside holiday lights, and ordered a pizza for dinner (which completely negates the fact I came home sweaty and exhausted from the gym after work, but I really didn't care! I was starving!)

There's more, obviously- but these are the things that stand out most in my mind.

 

[MBKRH]

I found this story on pinterest of how this one couple saved a dollar from each time they made love, then when they were old and married for like 50 years, they took that money and used it to go on an awesome vacation! I told SO about it and then he went along with it so now I'm going to have to make a box for us to keep all our change in so we won't dip into it or try to count how much is there. I think that is a pretty cool way to encourage intimacy throughout your marriage and a good way to save for something fun!

I saw that on there, too- I think I am going to start one.

 

[Chewbacca]

The main reason I love my SO is because he makes up the things I lack in so many ways! He makes me want to be a better person.

 

[maple2012]

Reason's Why I Love My SO

1) He has the biggest heart for animals. He's 30 and still refuses to watch Marlee and Me because he knows he'll cry (though he won't admit it!)
2) He makes me laugh and is my best friend. We can talk about anything and I feel so very comfortable around him. We play video games together.
3) He is very supportive. I recently decided to go back to school (in addition to having a stressfull full time job) and he has already offered to care for the both of us so that I can quit my job and focus on school... he doesn't like seeing me stressed out.
4) We make each other better people. He brings me back down to reality (yes it's needed sometimes) and I push him to think outside the boundaries.
5) I am horrible at communicating my feelings and he is awesome at it. Whenever we have a disagreement, he is always the one to initiate a grown up conversation about it so we can resolve it. I on the other hand just run into another room and close the door. Gosh I'm horrible.
6) He has a rule that we are never allowed to leave the house without kissing each other and saying I love you... even if we have just had the worse argument or disagreement of our lives. He has a dangerous job (police officer) and has gotten in a few situations where he is lucky to have came home. Having been with him for 3.5 years, I now understand why he has this rule and I really respect him for it. I'm the type that use to stay angry for days but because of him, I've learned to cherish every moment because you don't really know when that person you love so dearly can be taken from you. And I am a better person because of this.
7) He has a zombie-apocolypse survival kit for both of us in the basement. It includes about a years worth of water bottles and EMR's. Haha.


Love the thread topic! And you're right... it's important to focus on the positives and not just the "waiting".

 

[fabulousfindk]

I LOVE the Pinterest idea of saving $1 per time.. LOVE that!!!

My SO

1. Listens so well. He remembers EVERYTHING I say, and if I complain about something he's doing or not doing, he always makes a point to do it differently or again, depending on the complaint

2. Opens doors, offers me things first, etc.. he's a gentleman.

3. Takes good care of our dogs and loves them like they're his children. I know it's not the same, but watching him care for them when they're sick or hurt, play with them, or cuddle with them does make me look forward to seeing him do those things with our babies one day

4. Compliments my appearance. He doesn't throw the compliments out casually so when I get them they mean a lot!

5. He's not always as affectionate as I am, but knows that's something I want and need. So at least once a day, he throws his arms wide for a hug. Taking that minute or so per day to just stop and show me love really means a lot, and he knows it.

I could pretty much go on forever and I promised myself I'd stop at five.

 

[alma123]

Awww gee where do I begin? Well, I've always considered myself a lucky girl. I am a person of average intelligence, yet I've managed to get into the very best schools and now working my dream job at a very good company. I've worked hard to get there, I'm ambitious and I'm try to play my strengths but I've also had A LOT of luck. But where I really got lucky... was meeting HIM. It's so important who you choose to spend the rest of your life with and I honestly feel like I won the "life" lottery.

The big things. We dated in college when we were both very young. After graduating college in the East Coast, I went to grad school in the West Coast (to be closer with my family and to go to the best school). My bf followed me to the West Coast. After 6 years in the West Coast, I finished with my school and training and got a job... in the East Coast. My field is small and most companies are out East-- I simply couldn't find the job I wanted in the West Coast with little to no work experience. So my bf followed me again, to the East Coast. Every time he moved, he gave up everything to be with me. He did this without hesitation, without a second thought-- he always put me first.

The little things. My bf is a genuinely nice person. He is very smart, kind, conscientious-- honestly I look up to him because he is the person I want to be. I am not exaggerating--- here's an example: I have a doctorate and a post-doc but he makes more money than I do because simply he is so smart and so good at what he does! We moved in together almost 6 months ago when I got my East Coast job. He will do anything I ask of him. I hate washing dishes so he always does it. If I need help in the kitchen he'll help me. He will clean without me asking. I love being around him and I love our life together.

I don't know how I got so lucky. He is a greater person than me. He loves me and treats me better than I have treated him. All these years I had nothing to offer-- and he's always helped me with whatever I need. But I love him with all my being and want to treasure and cherish him every day.

 

[teacup]

Okay I'll have to limit myself...I'll try to stop at 5.

1. He is extremely down to earth. I am neurotic and anxious and he is almost always calm. He doesn't stress the little things, which really balances me out. He has NO temper at all; he doesn't even raise his voice. That really keeps me in check when we argue, so things never turn into horrible fights.

2. He is extremely intelligent, creative, and hilarious. He makes me laugh more than anyone else ever can. He's also pretty smokin'

3. I LOVE spending time with him. We are so similar and we get along ridiculously well. No one knows me like he does. And no one else is as fun.

4. He takes AMAZING care of me. All the time. He's helping me pay my tuition and taking care of most of our bills while my tiny income goes toward school. He is an amazing listener. He lets me vent and he never tells me that I'm acting ridiculous. He's just 100% supportive, all the time.

5. He is romantic as heck. He gives me little surprises all the time, and they're always extremely thoughtful and beautiful.

Oh and this is little but...a few months ago I was cleaning and I mentioned how dirty our walls looked (they were flat white and that dirt wasn't going anywhere). I didn't expect to do anything about it because we don't own the place, but a few weeks ago he surprised me by painting all the walls and steam cleaning the carpets while I was at work. He did this all during his days off. He said he wanted me to have a "new" apartment for the new year.