Registry info included in invite???

[blushingbride]

So, I am finalizing our "Details for Our Family and Friends Card" to insert along with the invitations. This card will provide our guests with hotel room blocks, shuttle info, after party details, Sunday brunch info and a link to our website for additional information. I would like to mention something about registries on the very botton of the card - something along the lines of:

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
PLEASE VISIT theknot FOR REGISTRIES, AIRPORTS AND THINGS TO DO IN THE AREA.

BUT, I heard to not include any mention of registries in your invitation (even on a seperate card). I'm afraid that a lot of our guests might not think to look on our website for registry info unless it's mentioned, but I also don't want it be a faux pas

What are you girls doing about this dillema???

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

How about "For additional wedding-related information, please visit our wedding webpage at *insert link*"

 

[staceybelle]

I would definitely not mention registries anywhere on anything that goes in the invitation. I think your instincts are right that it would be a faux pas. People will find the information on your website if they''re already looking there for travel info. If they''ve already taken the time to visit the website, they''ll probably read it thoroughly, especially if they''re wondering where you''re registered. I like HH''s recommendation -- if you tell them there''s additional wedding related info on the site, they''ll look through the whole thing.

 

[neatfreak]

No dilemma here. It''s tacky to include registry cards or even mention the registry at all on the invite. I would refer people to the website and (unfortunately) bury it there. Make sure all your close relatives are armed with the information about where you''re registered. Most people will go to them to ask.

It''s annoying, but if you include it in the invite it looks like you''re just fishing for gifts.

 

[dtnyc]

Don''t mention the word registry anywhere in the invite.

The truth is theknot.com and weddingchannel.com websites are basically vehicles for the registry info. Yes- you can use them for other info, but it''s an advertising vehicle. Putting the website info on the invite is more than enough.

I sent out our save-the-dates w/ hotel block info, my MIL sent out brunch invites and I did a booklet w/ the weekend itinerary & stuff to do in the area in the OOTGBs.
All that should really be in wedding invitation is the invitation to the wedding.

 

[onedrop]

Although it''s supposed to be proper etiquette not to include registry information in the invite, people do it all the time. I think it''s nice that there are places where you can have a website of sorts so that guests can obtain the registry information. The problem comes when (believe it or not this day in age) the majority of the guests are not *on-line* or are not technically savvy. What is the best and easiet way for them to get the info other than providing it in the invitation envelope???

 

[dtnyc]

Date: 5/2/2007 10:25:37 AM
Author: onedrop
Although it''s supposed to be proper etiquette not to include registry information in the invite, people do it all the time. I think it''s nice that there are places where you can have a website of sorts so that guests can obtain the registry information. The problem comes when (believe it or not this day in age) the majority of the guests are not *on-line* or are not technically savvy. What is the best and easiet way for them to get the info other than providing it in the invitation envelope???

People do the wrong thing all of the time... that doesn''t make it right.

The old-fashioned way - word of mouth, it worked fine for GENERATIONS before the internet and wedding websites existed- If guests REALLY care about where the couple is registered they will find out.

 

[onedrop]

Date: 5/2/2007 10:29:25 AM
Author: dtnyc

Date: 5/2/2007 10:25:37 AM
Author: onedrop
Although it''s supposed to be proper etiquette not to include registry information in the invite, people do it all the time. I think it''s nice that there are places where you can have a website of sorts so that guests can obtain the registry information. The problem comes when (believe it or not this day in age) the majority of the guests are not *on-line* or are not technically savvy. What is the best and easiet way for them to get the info other than providing it in the invitation envelope???

People do the wrong thing all of the time... that doesn''t make it right.

The old-fashioned way - word of mouth, it worked fine for GENERATIONS before the internet and wedding websites existed- If guests REALLY care about where the couple is registered they will find out.

I totally understand what you are saying. And no, just because everyone is doing something, it doesn''t make it right. I am just giving an alternate point of view. I personally wouldn''t be offended if the registry info was in with the invite. I would find that is makes my life much easier as a guest.

 

[tanyak]

I totally understand what you are saying. And no, just because everyone is doing something, it doesn''t make it right. I am just giving an alternate point of view. I personally wouldn''t be offended if the registry info was in with the invite. I would find that is makes my life much easier as a guest.

I wouldn''t be offended, either, although I didn''t do it because because so many people consider it tacky. Here''s another view. I put it on my Web site and told my mom to pass it on if folks asked. She said it wasn''t her job to do that and I should put it in my wedding invites. She thinks it''s handy when she gets invites with registry info included. She also can''t make her way around the Internet to save her life.

 

[havernell]

Date: 5/2/2007 8:37:29 AM
Author:blushingbride

I'm afraid that a lot of our guests might not think to look on our website for registry info unless it's mentioned, but I also don't want it be a faux pas

I fall under the camp of staying with tradition and not mentioning your registry on the invite.

To reiterate what dtnyc said, In the "dark ages" before the time if wedding webpages and online registries, people still managed to buy gifts for brides and grooms. They way they did it was to ask the bride and groom (or their parents) where the couple had registered. People are still capable of doing this.

So don't be afraid your guest will never find your registry if you don't beat them over the head with the info on where to find it. I promise your guests will find out about your registry even if you don't spell out where it is. Your guest WILL look at your website when either you or your parents tell guests that that's where the registry info is located when they call and ask.

 

[ammayernyc]

It''s tacky, tacky, tacky.
Don''t do it.

People will ask you if they want to know where you are registered. Then give them the information. Don''t mention it on anything printed.

 

[blushingbride]

I also wouldn''t be offended and think it''s much easier to have them listed or provided, but that''s just me. My FI is from Croatia and so, his family doesn''t really do the whole registry thing - they give money instead. But, we''d like them to buy us what we need off our registries instead so, considering his family makes up more than half our guest, I thought it might make sense to include it to help them. I mean, we can always use the money they give us and buy things off our own registries, but that''s obviously a hassle.

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 5/2/2007 1:43:45 PM
Author: blushingbride
I mean, we can always use the money they give us and buy things off our own registries, but that''s obviously a hassle.

It''s more of a hassle, but think of it this way -- most stores give some sort of completion discount (about 10% off or so), so the money that they give you would stretch further than if they just bought those things for you. So there is an upside, at least.

 

[dtnyc]

ditto the above post- you will be able to buy more stuff post-wedding using the discount.

 

[blushingbride]

Thanks ladies - I never heard of completion discounts so, that''s good to know! After reading everyone''s responses, I definitely won''t be mentioning the registries in my invite...I wasn''t planning to, but this just confirms it.

 

[rainbowtrout]

We aren''t putting it on the invite, we are putting it on the website. Probably will have tabs like "travel", "accomadations", and then at the very bottom "registry information."

 

[E B]

Date: 5/2/2007 2:31:13 PM
Author: rainbowtrout
We aren''t putting it on the invite, we are putting it on the website. Probably will have tabs like ''travel'', ''accomadations'', and then at the very bottom ''registry information.''

This is what we''re doing, too.