Rethinking My Proposal Plan - Need Opinions

[esguy27]

Have you ever had one of those moments when you hear about something and you wish you hadn''t? It''s not bad news at all, but I just noticed something and now I''m rethinking my proposal plan. I could really use some LIW opinions on this.

I''ve already described my current proposal weekend plan previously. For those of you who haven''t read it, here is the link to the current plan.

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/upcoming-proposal-weekend-female-opinions-wanted.38817/

I''m signed up for a bunch of travel websites and I get their weekly specials emailed to me. I just got one today and in the email is a really nice sounding trip. I live in Los Angeles and Pleasant Hawaiian Vacations has a special at the Sheraton Princess Kaiulani in Waikiki. It includes a 3 night stay and airfare to and from LA.

Here is why I''m feeling conflicted. The inn that I currently have reservations for in Carmel is a small, quaint, B&B type place and it runs $389/night. The plan is to stay 2 nights, so for the lodging alone I''m looking at $389 x 2 + taxes = approximately $850. This Hawaiian deal I found is going to run about $950 total (hotel and airfare for both of us) and it is 3 nights instead of just 2.

So my question is, which sounds better? My gf would LOVE either one and would I. It''s still early enough for me to cancel the reservations I currently have without penalty. I really like the plan I currently have but this new trip is so very tempting.

Help!!!

 

[Cailet]

Hmmm both sound awesome - but just my thoughts:

Your first proposal plan feels more personal to me. You get the horse back riding, the couple massage a cute inimate b&b. Plus you get to tell her family in person right after the big weekend.

Your second idea sounds great too -- but you don''t get the family face-time and Hawaii might not be as intimate as plan #1?

Really you would just have to figure out how excited would she be to be able to tell her family face to face right away versus being in Hawaii? (some gals are big into sharing the news in person and some gals think a phone call will be just fine)

Looks like the hotel in Hawaii is pretty nice (ranks #34 out of 102)- I''ve linked the tripadvisor page for reviews in case you are interested and haven''t seen it yet (although you said you subscribe to a bunch of travel sites already - but just in case!!)
http://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g60982-d87104-Reviews-Princess_Kaiulani_Hotel-Honolulu_Oahu_Hawaii.html


ok so I wasn''t a whole lot of help.....

 

[GGLW]

This might make you feel better...
My BF and I stayed at that hotel for a wedding last year and it wasn''t the nicest hotel. I have a feeling whatever you picked in Carmel (just because it''s a classy little area) will be nicer than that hotel. Maybe we just had a bad room, but it was not romantic at all inside. Reminded me of a Motel 6 or Holiday Inn...not the stuff of a romantic proposal trip.
Granted Hawaii itself is awesome...but this may not be the deal you think it is for this particular trip. It''s a fine hotel for just bumming around the Island, but NOT for a proposal.
I would stick with Carmel. It will be AWESOME!!!

 

[sunkist]

Hmmm, this is a tough decision, Esguy.... Hawaii is very tempting to me as well. I agree that Carmel will probably be more romantic, personal, and relaxing. In Hawaii it will be much more touristy. If it''s a low price hotel you''ll have families with noisy kids staying there, where at an expensive place like your Carmel place there probably won''t be too many noisy kids. ( I love kids but they can spoil the moment, you know!) But then if you guys like laying out on the beach or snorkeling/diving or hiking I''d say go for Hawaii. I forget what month you''re doing this, but Carmel probably won''t be swimsuit beach weather. I guess you said you''re planning horeseback riding which is awesome!

Hmmm, I know Hawaii is hard to pass up, but you''ve put so much of your own thought and planning into the Carmel trip and if this surprise was for me, that is what would really count!! Plus, Carmel might be easier for you two to go back to in the future for anniversaries. In conclusion, I''d pick Carmel for engagement, and save Hawaii for honeymoon!

 

[esguy27]

Thank you all for your input. I think I''m going to stick with my original plan. You all made good points about Hawaii feeling much more touristy and not nearly as intimate. As beautiful as Hawaii is, I don''t think anything can match the beauty you experience driving up California''s coast highway. Thanks a bunch!

 

[anchor31]

Of course Hawaii is tempting, but personally I would prefer my proposal weekend to be in that beautiful and cosy place you first chose than in Hawaii. It''ll be more personal and a lot more romantic. Don''t change a thing.

 

[XChick03]

Depends on which island in Hawaii, but I am sure both would be great.

 

[firebirdgold]

I''m glad you''re sticking with Carmel.

I think it''s one of the most romantic spots in the US! Good luck.