Riding in the limo

[So_happy]

If you''ve been IN a wedding and came with a date.......did you prefer to ride with your date to/from the ceremony or did you prefer to ride in the limo with the bride and groom sans date?

I''m thinking this is along the same lines as being seated with your date at dinner vs. sitting without him/her at the head table............in which case I would think most would prefer to not leave thier date alone.

Any opinions?

(sorry, the option of riding in the limo WITH the date just won''t work in our case. We only have one limo and we''re trying to coordinate transportation to/fro)

 

[Munchkin]

Well, I haven''t been in a wedding with a date, but I''ve been the date when FI was in weddings.

I was not offended at all that FI was in the limo without me. If nothing else, I was able to take more time getting ready since I didn''t have to be at the church as early as he did. Both times, he was really good friends with the groom and I barely knew the family. To be honest, having to hang around during the pre wedding time and the post wedding photos would have made me feel awkward. I liked being able to "escape" to my hotel room between ceremony and reception. (I''m shy person.) I was grateful I wasn''t his mode of transportation.

At one of those weddings, I was seated with him, at the other, we were apart. If you could possibly seat the wedding party with their guest I think that would be a kind thing to do. (We aren''t having a true ''head table'' so that our wedding party can be seated with their guest.) I felt a bit uncomfortable when I was seated at a table with all the other wedding party guests.

 

[zoebartlett]

I''ve never been in this situation but it wouldn''t bother me in the least to ride to the ceremony and reception alone if my FI were in the limo. For me, sitting at a table with potential strangers while my FI sat at the head table would be a little uncomfortable. I''m sure my FI would feel the same way about that one too.

 

[So_happy]

I was my FIs date to his best friend''s wedding and while I did not get to ride in the limo with them (I totally understood), I did get to sit with him at the head table. I thought that was a very kind thing to do as they really didn''t know me that well at the time and I sort of "took up a seat" lol. My wedding will be a cocktail reception so there will actually be no seating chart madness for me

FI and I will have a sweetheart table because I think it''ll be a great place to put our stuff and hopefully sit down for a couple minutes here and there If I was having a sit down reception though, I would always remember how nice my FI''s best friend was to seat me with my FI and I''d pay it forward

Here''s the limo issue with me: FI and I really want to have that 1/2 ride alone in the limo after the ceremony on the way to the reception. We figure it''s that built in moment where we can be uninterrupted and just breathe and get ready for the following phase. We realize there are maybe other times to have alone time, but this particular one sounds particularly nice.

So, the question is, do I offer the limo to my BMs for the ride to the ceremony? It would be another nice time to spend with them also before the big moment, but after all the hair and makeup and dressing stuff is over. But then there''s finding rides for them on the way back. Most will have dates that I''m presuming will be riding down there alone if they choose to ride in the limo so thier dates would be thier ride back...........but is this just odd? Would it be better to just ride in the huge thing alone to the ceremony so that the confusing ride situation doesn''t become just that? Or is ride-mixing also something y''all would understand and not feel put out over?

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 7/7/2007 11:45:10 PM
Author: So_happy

So, the question is, do I offer the limo to my BMs for the ride to the ceremony? It would be another nice time to spend with them also before the big moment, but after all the hair and makeup and dressing stuff is over. But then there''s finding rides for them on the way back. Most will have dates that I''m presuming will be riding down there alone if they choose to ride in the limo so thier dates would be thier ride back...........but is this just odd? Would it be better to just ride in the huge thing alone to the ceremony so that the confusing ride situation doesn''t become just that? Or is ride-mixing also something y''all would understand and not feel put out over?

I think offering your BMs the limo ride to the ceremony is a nice gesture, and as you put it, it would be one last time you''d spend with them before the big moment. I don''t think it''s odd at all to have them ride with their dates to the reception so you and your husband could have some time alone on the way over. I would actually assume that would be the case, if I was one of your BMs.

 

[So_happy]

Date: 7/8/2007 10:21:56 AM
Author: zoebartlett

Date: 7/7/2007 11:45:10 PM
Author: So_happy

So, the question is, do I offer the limo to my BMs for the ride to the ceremony? It would be another nice time to spend with them also before the big moment, but after all the hair and makeup and dressing stuff is over. But then there''s finding rides for them on the way back. Most will have dates that I''m presuming will be riding down there alone if they choose to ride in the limo so thier dates would be thier ride back...........but is this just odd? Would it be better to just ride in the huge thing alone to the ceremony so that the confusing ride situation doesn''t become just that? Or is ride-mixing also something y''all would understand and not feel put out over?

I think offering your BMs the limo ride to the ceremony is a nice gesture, and as you put it, it would be one last time you''d spend with them before the big moment. I don''t think it''s odd at all to have them ride with their dates to the reception so you and your husband could have some time alone on the way over. I would actually assume that would be the case, if I was one of your BMs.

Great My mom said the same thing. I just happen to have a group of women where 2 or 3 of them seem to get pissy really quick and I walk a bit on eggshells around them. It''s funny..........it''s like THEY are the bridesmaidzillas in this wedding

 

[jcrow]

bm''s and i rode to the ceremony together and then they were on their own to get to the reception. we had 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen and it wasn''t a big deal. period. they knew pre-hand about the arrangements so that they could figure out their car situation to get home after the reception.
it worked out fine for us.