Ring Re-Sizing Upon Purchase?

[JJ2004]

Do you think most guys propose with a ring that is sized (to the best of their knowledge) to their girlfriend''s fingers? Or is there also a fair amount of people that buy the ring, not have it resized, and then have their GF get measured herself after she receives (and hopefully accepts) the proposal.

The reason I ask this is that I had her friend take her to a jeweler (on the sly), and get her ring size. They found out that my GF is a 4.5. So I thought fine, I''m all set. But now, I''ve realized from other posts, that sizing is not just in half increments. Moreover, that ring sizing is a whole process that a girl goes through in itself -- that is, she has to consider, time of the year, temperature, providing allowance when pregnant, etc. So some have told me to just give her the ring un-touched. That sounds unromantic. Or am I just out of touch?

Should I just buy the ring in the original size, give it to her then and let her take it from there? If I do go and have it sized down to 4.5 and she wants it slightly bigger, will this ruin the integrity/aesthetics of the ring? Also, is it typical the girls have their rings sized in sizes between half sizes -- like, 4.1, 4.2, 4.3 etc? I''d really like her to wear it immediately though. Any personal opinions on this? Thanks.

By the way, not sure if this helps but she tried on a size 4 and could not get it through her left ring finger. This is when she tried the 4.5 and bingo.

 

[sumi]

My e-ring was already sized when I got it. My husband secretly took one of my rings to the jeweler. I don't know if I would recommend this route though. My husband was actually pretty lucky that my e-ring fits me so well. The ring he took to the jewelers was actually a ring that my mother gave me that I NEVER wear. The jeweler was able to basically guess my left hand finger size from that ring.

If you said that she got her finger sized and it was a size 4.5, what's the problem? Are you just getting paranoid that 4.5 might not in fact be her correct size? I can tell you that my ring does feel looser when it's very cold outside, but that's just how the human body works. Your fingers change a bit with the weather.

If you are unsure about her size, why don't you give her the ring unsized? I don't think it would spoil the engagement at all. After all, the proposal is just one instant, but she'll have the wear the ring for the rest of her life.

 

[aljdewey]

I'm a bit baffled on this question.....are you ordering the ring or buying one already finished?




If you're ordering a ring, order it in the size 4.5. If you're buying an already made ring that is a size 6, for example, I'd let her take it to size it herself. It only takes 20-25 minutes at the jeweler for them to size it, and then it's not done twice.




With respect to temperature and weight changes affecting her finger.....if 4.5 fits her, it should fit fine during warm weather. In colder weather, it may seem a bit looser, but it won't be TOO loose. If pregnancy or health issues require her to size it up down the line, that shouldn't be a problem as long as the setting isn't a channel set or other setting that is easily disrupted by sizing (eternity style comes to mind, too.)




You may want to try keeping all of this in a single thread, JJ. I notice your Tiffany's thread also asks the same thing.

 

[JJ2004]

Thanks for the replies. Please keep them coming. The reason btw, that I started another thread was that I wanted to change the subject line to focus on RING SIZING WHEN PURCHASED. The ring I am buying is a 6, when purchased.

Yes, I did mention that she went to the jeweler that I am purchasing it from and she was sized 4.5. (Note that she tried the 4 and could not get it through her left ring finger.) I just got paranoid because I started reading about girls with ring sizes of 4.1, 4.2, 4.3, ...etc, on some posts in Pricescope. I then became unsure if she was sized a 4.5 becuase that is her PERFECT size, or that because there were no 4.1, 4.2, etc to try/measure against. That's why I was somewhat curious if these finer size increments are really used commonly. I thought that they were always in HALF SIZES.

 

[Patty]

JJ, I think most jewelers size by the quarter size. So your girlfriend would probably go down to a 4 1/4 or up to a 4 3/4 if the 4 1/2 doesn't work.

 

[hoorray]

I agree -- I've never seen anything more incremental than .25. That said, I'd have the ring sized before proposing. I assume she will want to wear it right away, and there is a big difference between 4.5 and 6. You know 4.5 fits ok, and she can always have it adjusted down the road after wearing it and getting used to it with both cold and warm finger sizes.

 

[tomatoe]

imho, if she is a size 4.5 and u decide to re-size the ring at purchase time, do size it at 4.5 and not 1/4 size up.

i personally have a size 5 ring which i can never wear on my size 4.75 finger.

when her fingers swell during summer, she may have slight problems slipping on the ring but with some soap and water, it will be fine. during winter, when the ring is looser, it wont be too loose that she'll be afraid to wear the e-ring.

if u do wait till after the proposal, it certainly wouldnt be any less romantic and its much more practical