Ring setting that push your rock up

[oval regret]

Hi there,

I saw a couple of people that have a very high ring setting (almost twice the height as mine), and it help makes the ring look brighter and bigger. Would anyone here happen to know what style that is? I couldn’t find anything like that online.

 

[foxinsox]

Can you post pictures of the examples you saw and also your setting?

 

[distracts]

Some people just have their rings set very high. Often it is not how the setting is actually supposed to be but the jeweler for whatever reason set it that way. Personally I think it looks bulky and weird, and you're a lot more likely to hit your ring on things and break a prong and lose the stone. You'll probably need to get the prongs tightened a lot more often.

Having seen pictures of your ring, I think your setting looks great and it would look bad if the oval was higher.

 

[oval regret]

I couldn’t find an exact picture but it will be similar to something like this. There is an extra support in the middle and is a little higher than picture attached.

 

[oval regret]

Can you post pictures of the examples you saw and also your setting?

Something similar to this but a little higher .

 

[sunandsky]

If you google “high diamond ring setting” then click images you’ll start to see some pics of higher settings. They generally make diamonds look larger. They have some serious downsides as well. I wouldn’t change your setting too much as I think it’s gorgeous, fwiw. I wonder if sidestones would also help you (you could keep the center or all 3 stones haloed).

 

[foxinsox]

Something similar to this but a little higher .

Can you post a side view of your setting since you’re not happy with it? I had a look at your first thread and you have a big-ass haloed oval.
I’m not remotely an expert but I can’t think of any halos I’ve seen that have a bridge like what you’re indicating because the halo performs the same structural function that this does.
The bit your arrow points to is part of making the setting strong, it isn’t about elevating the stone to make it look bigger.
If I may be blunt, having read your other threads with all the details and reassurance that what you have is lovely, your fiancé didn’t overpay and looks huge; the setting isn’t the problem.
Nothing about this stone or setting seems to make you happy.
What were you hoping for in the first place and can you just get your fiancé to get that for you?

 

[Niel]

Setting your diamond higher won’t help it look brighter. And it’s quite possible it was set higher because it was in fact bigger.a larger stone is typically deeper and will be set higher for that reason.

 

[737liz]

This is just my opinion but, don't opt for a skyscraper prongy reset. Those kinds of settings generally look 'off the rack' as in the setting doesn't look made FOR the stone, but rather was just plopped in. To me they may help the center stone for cleaning and top down viewing, but are unsightly from the side, and cheapen the look of the ring. A ring is supposed to be about both the stone and the setting.

If you still think your oval is too small, reset it with haloed sidestones, as suggested above. You literally don't have the finger real estate to go for a bigger halo or centerstone.

 

[123ducklings]

You might try researching “cathedral setting.”

You have a lovely ring that looks huge on your finger. I’m sorry your engagement experience has been dampened by disappointment over the ring because it really is a beautiful ring on you.

 

[LLJsmom]

How about adding some side stones?
This is from Leon Mege wtih a 3 carat center.




Or this, which is with a 2 carat center also by Leon Mege. There is a video too.

r7788

Classic three-stone engagement ring with a 2.01 carat oval diamond set with diamond epaulettes.

www.leonmege.com

Your ring is fabulous, but maybe the halo is the issue? I don't know, but it hurts my heart to think of how much you may lose if you sell. But this is PS, and we get wanting what we want. So for sure if you want to sell, I hope it works out. Maybe you can find a jeweler who will give you a better deal with a trade up of some kind.

 

[distracts]

@oval regret Have you tried on other rings? Before you make ANY moves, I would go to multiple different stores and try on different rings - different sizes and shapes and setting styles. Or order CZ rings in different sizes and shapes and setting styles to get an idea of what you like. After I got my engagement ring, which is a sapphire, I loved it but also had immediate regret that I hadn't decided on a diamond instead. So I bought multiple CZ rings in the size we would have been able to afford, and it turns out I hated them all, and that dealt with that regret pretty easily. I also used to think I liked round gemstones, until I actually tried them on my hand. Turns out I don't like the way they look on my fingers.

Go to several stores. Take pictures of rings on your hand, and have someone else take a picture from several feet away so you can see what they look like from a distance. Make sure to have cleaned your oval really well before you go or get it cleaned there so it sparkles as well, and don't judge it against the jewelry in the cases but only what you took out and have on your hand (the cases are full of hundreds of lights that make everything sparkle insanely).

From what you've been saying in this thread and your past ones, I'm not sure that you know exactly why you dislike your ring, just that you do. Flailing around trying to fix it without actually knowing what the problem is or what will make you happy will just be a waste of time and money.

The ONLY move I might make right now is to find somewhere that will list your ring for consignment, to try to recoup as much as possible from selling it so you can start over. Unlike everyone else who is pained by the thought of the money you might lose by selling, I just keep thinking there's no point in having spent so much money if you don't even like the ring - better to sell even if at a loss and get something you truly love. Life is too short to wear jewelry you don't like, and $55k is way too much to have spent on something you seem to not even enjoy wearing.

Finally - have you discussed your dissatisfaction with your ring with your fiance?

 

[distracts]

My only other thought - is $55k more money than you were expecting to be spent on your ring? Are you actually upset not by the ring, but by the expense? Are you from a different socioeconomic class than your fiance or different culture where this is a staggeringly large amount of money? Would you be happier selling the real diamond and replacing with a less expensive synthetic diamond or even less expensive moissanite? That's the only other thing I can think of that could explain why you dislike it and it hasn't grown on you in months.

 

[LLJsmom]

@oval regret Have you tried on other rings? Before you make ANY moves, I would go to multiple different stores and try on different rings - different sizes and shapes and setting styles. Or order CZ rings in different sizes and shapes and setting styles to get an idea of what you like. After I got my engagement ring, which is a sapphire, I loved it but also had immediate regret that I hadn't decided on a diamond instead. So I bought multiple CZ rings in the size we would have been able to afford, and it turns out I hated them all, and that dealt with that regret pretty easily. I also used to think I liked round gemstones, until I actually tried them on my hand. Turns out I don't like the way they look on my fingers.

Go to several stores. Take pictures of rings on your hand, and have someone else take a picture from several feet away so you can see what they look like from a distance. Make sure to have cleaned your oval really well before you go or get it cleaned there so it sparkles as well, and don't judge it against the jewelry in the cases but only what you took out and have on your hand (the cases are full of hundreds of lights that make everything sparkle insanely).

From what you've been saying in this thread and your past ones, I'm not sure that you know exactly why you dislike your ring, just that you do. Flailing around trying to fix it without actually knowing what the problem is or what will make you happy will just be a waste of time and money.

The ONLY move I might make right now is to find somewhere that will list your ring for consignment, to try to recoup as much as possible from selling it so you can start over. Unlike everyone else who is pained by the thought of the money you might lose by selling, I just keep thinking there's no point in having spent so much money if you don't even like the ring - better to sell even if at a loss and get something you truly love. Life is too short to wear jewelry you don't like, and $55k is way too much to have spent on something you seem to not even enjoy wearing.

Finally - have you discussed your dissatisfaction with your ring with your fiance?

That is a good point @distracts. Maybe putting it on consignment and seeing what bites does not hurt. Just another option. Just watch out for those consignment fees.

 

[oval regret]

You might try researching “cathedral setting.”

You have a lovely ring that looks huge on your finger. I’m sorry your engagement experience has been dampened by disappointment over the ring because it really is a beautiful ring on you.

I think catherdral style is what I’ve been trying to describe. Thank you so much!!!

 

[Tourmaline]

I just read through your threads. My heart goes out to you. Have you discussed all this with your fiancé? If so, are things ok?

When I was dating my husband and we were getting close to engagement, I remember an argument that took place during a romantic getaway weekend. I told him my engagement ring preferences, and he said “it’s the thought that counts” and found my position materialistic. I explained that if I was going to wear something, I wanted to love it. I won that argument, and he came around to my way of thinking. Now he even understands that I love to change my engagement ring and wedding band fairly often. You have a long life ahead of you, and though your engagement ring isn’t all that you want, my advice would be to set your mind on a 5-year upgrade. You will be able to find a jeweler who will accept a trade-in of your ring, so it won’t be a total loss, and by then your husband will be secure and comfortable enough to let you be the driver.

Your ring is lovely. I’d love to see some pictures in overcast natural light (shade), which is my favorite diamond lighting.

 

[Moonie]

A cathedral setting is secure and nice (I have a modified version myself), but it doesn't necessarily push the stone up higher does it? I've seen both low and higher set stones in cathedral or a more simple Tiffany-style setting.

 

[distracts]

A cathedral setting is secure and nice (I have a modified version myself), but it doesn't necessarily push the stone up higher does it? I've seen both low and higher set stones in cathedral or a more simple Tiffany-style setting.

You're correct. A cathedral setting does not necessarily have the stone set any higher than a non-cathedral setting.

 

[whitewave]

Do you have a magnasonic ultrasonic jewelry cleaner? you can get one from Amazon.

 

[bludiva]

This is just my opinion but, don't opt for a skyscraper prongy reset. Those kinds of settings generally look 'off the rack' as in the setting doesn't look made FOR the stone, but rather was just plopped in. To me they may help the center stone for cleaning and top down viewing, but are unsightly from the side, and cheapen the look of the ring. A ring is supposed to be about both the stone and the setting.

If you still think your oval is too small, reset it with haloed sidestones, as suggested above. You literally don't have the finger real estate to go for a bigger halo or centerstone.

not to thread jack but I LOVE that oval half moon combo