Ring shopping-eek!!!

[babygirl]

Hi ladies,
I''m going to visit my boyfriend this weekend and we''re going ring shopping (for the second time!) I talked to him a few nights ago and he asked me to send him more pictures of rings I like so he can get a better idea. (Sometimes I just sneak links into random emails- like, "oh did you see the game last night? could you believe that play in the 4th quarter?? Sparkly Ring! ". I have a feeling that he really appreciates this So after his request, I obviously emailed him links to literally about 20 rings- no lie. And then emailed again to apologize for being such a lunatic. And he emailed back like, no, this is really helpful- also how long does it take to plan a wedding? Hahaha, in his mind, I think we can get engaged and married in like, 3 months.

Anyways, I''m pretty excited about everything and can''t wait to check out more rings with him this weekend. Ring shopping is seriously the most fun!!

 

[gryffindor]

babygirl, I agree! My FF also doesn''t understand the "how much time is needed to plan a wedding" timeline. He thinks 6 months is plenty, but I have to gently explain that it takes about a year and that the planning can''t actually start until he gives me the ring and makes the engagement official. I also keep reminding him that I will not move in with him until we are married, so he should get on the ball if he wants me to live with him sooner rather than later.

I''ve had a really good time ring shopping, so much so that I don''t want it to end! Well this can only mean one thing, he will have to buy me more diamonds in the future!

 

[LoveRoundBrillants]

awesome! Very exciting..?

Youd be surprised i have seen amazing weddings thrown together in 5 or 6 months.

 

[misskitty]

Very nice! I can''t wait to go ring shopping, although I''m a little worried that it will be overwhelming.

 

[mrscushion]

Enjoy it, babygirl! Ring shopping is so much fun!

 

[jitterymo]

Exciting news about ring shopping, I’ve never been and doubt I will ever go. I''m leaving everything up to the boy... I’m pretty sure he''s taking my sister, so it should be fine...

I’ve always wanted to go, but feel weird going by myself, and my sister won''t go with me because she thinks it will spoil my future ring (like if i fall in love with something and then don''t get it).

I''m actually glad that I don''t have a hand in picking it out, that way when he proposes it will be a total shock and surprise!

 

[Still_Waiting]

Date: 1/22/2009 1:14:02 AM
Author: gryffindor
babygirl, I agree! My FF also doesn''t understand the ''how much time is needed to plan a wedding'' timeline. He thinks 6 months is plenty, but I have to gently explain that it takes about a year and that the planning can''t actually start until he gives me the ring and makes the engagement official. I also keep reminding him that I will not move in with him until we are married, so he should get on the ball if he wants me to live with him sooner rather than later.

I''ve had a really good time ring shopping, so much so that I don''t want it to end! Well this can only mean one thing, he will have to buy me more diamonds in the future!

Hmm...sometimes I regret moving in with SO for exactly that reason. I LOVE living together, but for all the reasons discussed over and over again, I probably should have waited until I at least had a ring on my finger. I''m proud of you for sticking to your guns! It''s a hard thing to do!

 

[Still_Waiting]

Date: 1/22/2009 12:51:11 AM
Author:babygirl
Hi ladies,
I''m going to visit my boyfriend this weekend and we''re going ring shopping (for the second time!) I talked to him a few nights ago and he asked me to send him more pictures of rings I like so he can get a better idea. (Sometimes I just sneak links into random emails- like, ''oh did you see the game last night? could you believe that play in the 4th quarter?? Sparkly Ring! ''. I have a feeling that he really appreciates this So after his request, I obviously emailed him links to literally about 20 rings- no lie. And then emailed again to apologize for being such a lunatic. And he emailed back like, no, this is really helpful- also how long does it take to plan a wedding? Hahaha, in his mind, I think we can get engaged and married in like, 3 months.

Anyways, I''m pretty excited about everything and can''t wait to check out more rings with him this weekend. Ring shopping is seriously the most fun!!

I LOVE it!!!

Have fun this weekend!!! I''m jealous, for sure.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 1/22/2009 5:55:59 PM
Author: Still_Waiting

Date: 1/22/2009 12:51:11 AM
Author:babygirl
Hi ladies,
I''m going to visit my boyfriend this weekend and we''re going ring shopping (for the second time!) I talked to him a few nights ago and he asked me to send him more pictures of rings I like so he can get a better idea. (Sometimes I just sneak links into random emails- like, ''oh did you see the game last night? could you believe that play in the 4th quarter?? Sparkly Ring! ''. I have a feeling that he really appreciates this So after his request, I obviously emailed him links to literally about 20 rings- no lie. And then emailed again to apologize for being such a lunatic. And he emailed back like, no, this is really helpful- also how long does it take to plan a wedding? Hahaha, in his mind, I think we can get engaged and married in like, 3 months.

Anyways, I''m pretty excited about everything and can''t wait to check out more rings with him this weekend. Ring shopping is seriously the most fun!!

I LOVE it!!!

Have fun this weekend!!! I''m jealous, for sure.

Hey, I''ve never THOUGHT of that move before....I just might have to try that myself

 

[tlh]

I LOVE RING SHOPPING AND I AM MARRIED! HAHAH!

IT IS SOO FUN, TRY ON EVERYTHING!!! There is stuff you may not think you like... until you see it on. Trust me... I HATED RB''s and now I LOVE THEM. SPARKLE SPARKLE!
So It is funny, at first I wanted a cushion or a princess... but after seeing the princesses I decided it wasn''t my favorite... though now I''d lve to have one to switch things up. I also decided I love cushions and pears, when they are larger. So I drive my DH nuts.

So enjoy, every time you go.... I honestly think the only time they seem interested is BEFORE the purchase! HAHA

So have fun... and really- try on everything!

 

[Tuckins1]

He sounds very sweet. Enjoy your shopping and planning time! It's so exciting and fun!

 

[adhesive]

Date: 1/22/2009 1:14:02 AM
Author: gryffindor
babygirl, I agree! My FF also doesn''t understand the ''how much time is needed to plan a wedding'' timeline. He thinks 6 months is plenty, but I have to gently explain that it takes about a year and that the planning can''t actually start until he gives me the ring and makes the engagement official. I also keep reminding him that I will not move in with him until we are married, so he should get on the ball if he wants me to live with him sooner rather than later.

I''ve had a really good time ring shopping, so much so that I don''t want it to end! Well this can only mean one thing, he will have to buy me more diamonds in the future!

My FF is the POLAR opposite. He seems to want to delay the marriage by extending the amount of time we will be engaged (he wants to save up for a house so that we can move right in to our "dream home" when we come back from our honeymoon - sweet, but not do-able.) I''ve told him that I wouldn''t want to be engaged for longer than a year and a half, but he claims "I don''t see what the problem is. You''ll be able to finish school, I''ll be able to save up for a house, we won''t have to worry about you getting pregnant while you''re in school [[we''re catholic, so we''re saving ourselves for marriage]] - it seems perfectly reasonable to be engaged for 3 years..."

While it may take me that long to actually plan a wedding (I''m SO particular), I think the purpose of an engagement is to let everyone know that you are planning a wedding and will be married as soon as possible. Bottom line.
I WISH FF wanted to be married in 3 months! At least he''d be showing some excitement!

babygirl: Ring shopping is one of those things that reminds us how wonderful life really is. It has to rank in the top 10 most exciting/romantic/indulgent activities of all time - and I absolutely believe that! I have only had the good fortune of being able to go e-ring shopping ONCE with FF and it was all in good fun - nothing serious. I somehow managed to convince him that it would be a good idea to take me into a jewelry store and let me try on "a couple of things" - big mistake on his part, as we didn''t leave before I tried on every single ring in the entire store (including the non-engagement rings and all of the other jewelry as well.) I guess that''s WHY I''ve only gotten to go once, huh?

I hope you have an AWESOME time (then again, how could you not?)!

 

[gryffindor]

Date: 1/26/2009 8:11:51 PM
Author: adhesive
My FF is the POLAR opposite. He seems to want to delay the marriage by extending the amount of time we will be engaged (he wants to save up for a house so that we can move right in to our 'dream home' when we come back from our honeymoon - sweet, but not do-able.) I've told him that I wouldn't want to be engaged for longer than a year and a half, but he claims 'I don't see what the problem is. You'll be able to finish school, I'll be able to save up for a house, we won't have to worry about you getting pregnant while you're in school [[we're catholic, so we're saving ourselves for marriage]] - it seems perfectly reasonable to be engaged for 3 years...'

Hi adhesive, I read your other thread so I sense what you're going through. I know we all come from different situations, but for me, FF didn't get serious after 4 years of dating until I decided that I was ready to leave him behind if he wasn't going to commit. I finally got tired of the wishy-washy pseudo-commitment and convinced myself I needed to move my life forward because I was 28 and not getting younger. If he wasn't the one I was meant to marry, then I needed to find that person and it wasn't going to happen with him being a road block. He thought about what I said, and has since stepped up and is slowly becoming a more mature and genuine person. I couldn't be happier knowing that he is the one but if you had asked him a year ago if I was the girl he was going to marry, he would would've said "Marriage? What? Not now, NO WAY!" It didn't help his friends think and act the same way. However, in the past 6 months many of his friends have started settling down too so I think that has influenced him a bit as well. We might have done a longer engagement of 2+ years if we were younger since we have been long distance for the past few years, but by the time everything falls into place, I'll probably be 30. If it was up to me, I would've been married 2.5 years ago but again, as my mother would say "It wasn't your time dear."

 

[babygirl]

Thanks so much for all the love, ladies. We went shopping over the weekend and had so much fun! I tried on tons of rings and we found a few settings we both really love. Very, very exciting!! It''s tricky because I know he isn''t all the way there with saving yet and I think is taking me shopping to make sure we''re on the same page budget-wise (so practical- ugh!).. so I''m trying not to get myself too worked up about anything just yet or I''ll drive myself nuts! But it was so much fun!

Gryffindor, our situations sound verrry similar. As my bf is trying to figure out how quickly we can get married post-engagement, I''m sweetly reminding him that I can''t plan a wedding without a ring. And I also have no plans to move in with him beforehand, so if he wants us to live together, he''d better hop to it!

Ilovespinel- You should take your sister ring shopping with you. She doesn''t need to tell your boyfriend "SPINEL WANTS THIS RING AND THIS RING ONLY", but this way she''d be able to get a pretty good idea of what you like AND you''d get to experience the amazing fun that is ring shopping!! Seriously, I tried going by myself one time (just to get an idea of what I liked) and I felt really awkward. Hahah, I know I shouldn''t have but I did. I bet it would be much, MUCH more fun with a girlfriend (or sister!)