RUDE PERSON ASKS "How big is it and what did he pay?" LISTEN TO THIS!

[treysar]

My guy friend just got engaged, and I went to dinner with him and his fiancé. She received a beautiful princess diamond with sapphire side stones –a lovely ring! While we were at dinner she compared our rings and asked me what the specs were on my diamond, ie, “what color is it? And inclusions? How much did he spend on it?” It was so weird- especially because it was smaller than mine and I felt like she was trying to make my guy friend feel bad!

I was mortified. Normally I would jump at the chance to talk about detailed specs of my ring, but it was just weird with someone I’ve only met a few times. Then she went on to say how my other friend had a big diamond but it was so yellow, and how her fiancé paid X for it, blah blah, etc, and she would rather have her good quality etc. I was so embarrassed! I did not tell her the exact size nor the price my FI paid for it. It was just awkward. And it wasn’t like hers was bigger or anything like that at all, it was just a tacky, rude thing to say!

 

[icelady]

Good thing you didn't give her any details or she would have been "blah, blah, blahing" about your ring to the next person. Instead she'll have to say "Treysar wouldn't tell me anything about her diamond!" I'm sure the next person will understand why you wouldn't.

People like that really irritate me!

 

[ame]

Jeez. I hate people.

 

[Bethanying]

A guy at my church said, "That's not real" when he saw my e-ring. Well, my grandmother said the same thing but I think she was just stunned. She said it came from QVC. Ha! I said it better not have come from QVC- and by QVC she means "diamondique".

 

[Jennifer5973]

Unreal.

 

[Julian]

Jennifer! I love it when I see your posts bc your rings are SO gorgeous! I also love Bethany's. Wow.

I don't know what the deal is... Most of the time when occasional strangers ask if my ring is fake I don't mind because they don't know me. But this weekend when my cousin asked me and then inspected my ring as if it were fake, it really really hurt my feelings. I don't know why! Usually stuff like that doesn't bother me as much.

Then again, maybe they're just curious! I read somewhere that one woman thought her friend's ring was a CZ so she ran her nail over the facets! (Not that I think that would be a giveaway) but can you imagine how hurt you'd feel if you saw your friend "scratching" at your engagement ring with her fingernail?

Truth is soooo much stranger than fiction.

Sometimes ya just gotta laugh!!!

AME -- love your solitaire!

 

[Diamond Angel]

it seems like people think its ok to ask questions this personal these days...car, house, even clothes...and yes e-rings. though i don't have my e-ring yet i feel like when i get it i should put a tag on it that says dont ask dont tell...just look!!

 

[ame]

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On 10/25/2004 1:40:56 PM Julian wrote:

Jennifer!


Then again, maybe they're just curious! I read somewhere that one woman thought her friend's ring was a CZ so she ran her nail over the facets! (Not that I think that would be a giveaway) but can you imagine how hurt you'd feel if you saw your friend 'scratching' at your engagement ring with her fingernail?

AME -- love your solitaire!----------------

Thank you!

That woman would be beaten to death if she ran her nail over my diamond. I nearly beat my fiancee if he grabs that hand and gets his oils on it.

 

[innerkitten]

Bethanying you brought up the subject of diandique and it reminded me of a something that happened to a friend of mine. She married a man that she hadn't known long, I think maybe 6 months. It was love at first sight, a very exciting relationship they were infatuated with each other from the start.
Anyway his parents weren't to happy about the fact that the couple was getting married after only knowing each other for six months. But since they owned a jewelry store they helped him with the rings.
Sadley the marriage only lasted a little over a year. many years later she and a friend brought her solitaire and band to an appraiser just to see how much it was worth. Guess what his parents had given her a cubic zarconia. Isn't that carzy.

 

[Julian]

AME, that is SO funny!

I do the same thing -- diamonds are happiest when clean and sparkling! I'm always wiping it with a soft cloth or soaking it in a warm ammonia/soap bath.

 

[Rowan]

Me too. I just love getting compilments on how sparkly my ring is, so I like to keep it clean.

And I have never even asked my best friend how much her diamond cost. Sheesh!!!

 

[reena]

ew, that's a terrible story treysar. some people are soooo insecure. sounds like she received a beautiful ring . . . so why she trippin'?

 

[Momoftwo]

I don't remember anyone ever asking me a question like that, not even family. And I've never asked either. It seems more common with larger stones. But, the cost is just no one's business. Let's face it, if you volunteer the info, others think you're bragging, so why would you want to answer that question. Asking it is just as rude. It shows envy. Especially when comparing the ring to someone elses. Would you ask someone what they paid for anything else? I don't think so. But, there are people who think they need to know, if for no other reason to think you got taken or to say what they paid. It's just no one else's business, even family.

 

[sevens one]

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On 10/25/2004 4:27:10 PM innerkitten wrote:





Bethanying you brought up the subject of diandique and it reminded me of a something that happened to a friend of mine. She married a man that she hadn't known long, I think maybe 6 months. It was love at first sight, a very exciting relationship they were infatuated with each other from the start.
Anyway his parents weren't to happy about the fact that the couple was getting married after only knowing each other for six months. But since they owned a jewelry store they helped him with the rings.
Sadley the marriage only lasted a little over a year. many years later she and a friend brought her solitaire and band to an appraiser just to see how much it was worth. Guess what his parents had given her a cubic zarconia. Isn't that carzy.

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Wow, what a story. That was their way of getting back at them. Maybe they thought it was doomed from the get-go.

 

[sxn675]

Wow, nobody has asked me if mine was fake. Then again, I have a .97 carat stone and it's the smallest out of all of my friends, so who would ask me?

 

[twinkletoes]

horrible. it speaks volumes of his parents. i wonder if the groom knew about this? and those tacky parents don't deseve a good daughter in law. hell, their son is an adult and no one was forcing anyone - it was something they both wanted. ugh, they need to let go!

NOW who the heck would want to marry into a family like that? she should spread the word....

 

[Momoftwo]

Even if they thought it was doomed,(whatever that means) it wasn't their job to do that. Did he know it wasn't real? Did he pay as much as a real diamond would have cost him, even wholesale? That's pretty disrespectful to their son if they lied to him. Too much control. Just really pathetic. I'm sure they did their best to see that they "helped" their problems along to a divorce.

 

[Iceman]

I get tired of people asking me " How much gas does it use" and "How much did you buy the H2 Hummer for" Some people have limited thoughts. Those are the ones that can only talk about the weather when you meet.


The Iceman

 

[NYCbride]

People are sooo nosey. I would just not answer them and change the subject, it's no ones business, especially someone who you met only a few times. Absolutely no class!!!

 

[yanekie25]

That person was definitely rude. I would never ask someone that, especially someone I didn''t know. It''s like asking someone how much you make. I thought I would share my story. My boss came in my office, and of course I work, but yesterday was diamond day, and I had printouts of all these diamonds I found online on my desk, which he saw, and commented on. It''s no surprise that my bf and I will be engaged but sheesh, does your boss need to see the price and size. Not really, he may start thinking they pay you too much.

So, we get on the phone with another coworker, and I comment on him being nosy, jokingly. He then says the carat weight and price of the diamonds seen on the sheet. I was floored, but what I was even more evened floored by was my coworkers response "It''s not 3 carats, I don''t need to hear it". I was a tad offended (yes, some of my pride is attached to the size of this would be diamond), but it just further proved something I always thought: I live in a world were 3 carats are like getting 1 carat. I thought it was an NYC thing, but that girl was in Chicago. It also funny, since among my friends my 2.0ct desire has been balked at and basically looked down upon as being a waste of money. It odd to think all these folks like in the same area.

 

[fortheloveofdiamonds]

If someone told me if its not over 3 carats don''t talk to me i''d die!!! It is just ridiculous to think that someone would say that. A nice 3-carat diamond will cost more than a REALLY nice car! Sure I love big diamonds too, but I would not consider going over 2 carats. 1. 2 carats is MORE than enough and 2. 2 carats is big, 3 carats is bigger, 4 carats is gigantic!! we are not all J-Lo and I dislike society for making people think that if you "don''t got the rocks that she''s got" you are not worthy.

It is sad. Yesterday I heard a sad statistic about how a large fraction of people in Florida don''t make more than 11,000/year. That won''t even buy 3 carats...let alone food.... and then I think of the two children that I sponsor in South America whose large and extended family lives on less than $100/month..

So...if that person ever said to me, don''t even talk to me if it isn''t 3 carats. It would be my pleasure to not.... just my 0.02!

 

[KSparkles]

While the majority of people give me very nice complements on my ring, I''ve had 2 seemingly jealous women tell me "it just doesn''t look like an engagement ring to me". What?!? According to dictionary.com, an ering is "a ring given and worn as a sign of betrothal". That means it could be a plastic vending machine ring, a ruby, an emerald, a diamond, a 3-stone, a plain band, etc etc etc. I came to the conclusion that both these women were just being obnoxious and catty. Why do people say such dumb things???

 

[Diamonds4Me]

And here I thought that it was just me going through this. I live in a very small town so we had to take into consideration the area we live in as to what size diamond he wanted to give to me (I own my own business and it just wouldn''t look good if it were any bigger). I know my diamond isn''t enormous but to the majority of people here it is. There have been women that almost ripped my arm out of it''s socket to look at it and there have been women that say, "Oh, I bought one exactly like that at so and so department store for $25. Is that where you got yours?". I won''t even go into comments by family members

Why can''t people be happy for others??

 

[Nicrez]

Funny I always go the other way...I always end up complimenting people up and down about nice rings, until i notice they turn red and hide their hand... Rand has to pull me aside and explain that it may not have been a REAL diamond, and i just walk away thinking, MAN that would be nice if it WAS!!!

Actually, recently I saw a 21 year old girl with three very large stones set in a GORGEOUS plat setting with PINk princess channels....I assumed it was real and wondered how such a ring??? Well, I commented on how amazing her ring was, and it turns out it was her LEFT hand ring. A new ring she designed from her granmother''s anniversary ring she inherited and it happened that she was in the jewelery business... So it goes to show, you never know when it''s real or not, but WHO CARES????

I always just assume they are, unless they tell me where I can get the same one for under $40!!!!

Oh yeah.... HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!

 

[sdm]

I don''t mind giving all the specs, but when it comes to cost, I just tell people that the ring was a gift and I don''t know how much it cost....that usually takes care of the conversation.