Sad for my guy....

[ams0124]

My BF applied for a different job last week...he was fairly sure they would call him in for an interview (I was pretty confident too). He got an email today that said he didn''t have the qualifications that they were looking for.

He''s pretty disappointed...It would have been a much better environment then he''s currently in....

I want nothing more than to give him a big hug but I won''t see him until tomorrow...he''s at the firestation all night tonight

I know it''s life...but I hate when things don''t go his way...I just want everything to fall perfectly into place for him all the time and it''s tough to see when it doesn''t...but I guess that''s how I feel for everyone I care about.

Oh well...I guess it wasn''t meant to be...hummm

 

[prettylnpink419]

Aww Ams...I know exactly what you mean. My guy got laid off a few weeks ago from a job he had just recently started and was really enjoying...this economy just stinks. I too, hate seeing him upset.

Give your guy lots of hugs and remind him that everything happens for a reason. He probably didn''t get that job b/c there is something better out there for him. What is meant to be will be!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I know the disappointment you are both feeling (having experienced a similar situation not too long ago myself) but I look at it like that wasn''t the job for me. It wasn''t where I was meant to go. Instead, I know there is something bigger and better out there and when I stumble upon my proper path nothing will stand in my way of achieving it - I am sure exactly the same will happen to your BF!

Chin-up! Everything will fall into place. He''s a lucky guy to have someone like you who cares so much about his happiness.

 

[wannaBMrsH]

Ams - I understand your pain. When we are in love, we want the object of our afection to be happy and anything that stands in their way of happinesss is a disappointment.

Especially, in this economy, we have to be ultra-supportive of the men in our lives. My BF is currently employed at a start-up and they just secured financing for at least a little while longer.

But just this week, we sat down and had a "finance" talk. We do that from time to time to spot check our spending and so far it's working for us. I know he's been looking at rings, but I am not allowed to pick anything. (Not that I don't TRY!

) But we did have our conversation regarding how much cash reserves we have, what our "emergency" threshold is before we think of selling the house, how much equity we (or rather "he") have in our home, what the back-up plan is if we have to go to "zero" (i.e. Moving into his parents home, for how long, what kind of jobs we would be willing to take, etc.) All of this, JUST IN CASE, we BOTH lose our jobs.

This was great because it takes so much pressure off. I know exactly where we both stand and for how long we can "hold out".

Sorry for the threadjack, but hopefully, it encourages you to know that even those that have employment are in the same boat as those who are out of work right now. And we are all hoping for the best for ourselves and each other.

Best of Luck to you!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Im sorry about that.

I''ve had the same experiences myself. Its pretty tough, and sure does feel like quite a let down. But, he will get over it and find something that is just right for him. Someplace that actually wants him and makes him feel good and then eventually he will be so happy!

Sending love and support your way!

 

[ckrickett]

aw shucks that''s horrible! I''m sure he will find a good job soon tho, things "seem" to be getting better! At least he has a wicked chick like you!
But you have all the support I can give!

 

[jcarlylew82]

Ams- I am sorry for your guy! hopefully this will just make room for a better position for him!!

 

[dragonfly411]

AMS - I''m sorry to hear that, but remind him that the right thing will come along, and he can just stay positive and look forward to that. Give him a hug and tell him we''re all rooting for him

 

[princesss]

BF is going through the same thing. It''s really rough, both for him to get all of that rejection, and for me to try to keep things positive for him (without sounding like an idiot).

Just give him a hug, and help him stay as positive as he can.

 

[ams0124]

Thanks ladies for the words of encouragment.
BF is feeling much better about it. He''s thankful that he at least has a good job that pays well...especially the way the economy is right now. It''s definitely a good perspective to have!

Thanks again!!

 

[Bia]

That really stinks...

BUT there will be plenty of more opportunities for him in the future. And when one of those pans out, he might be happier that this opportunity fell through because then he mightn't have found the better one.

Life's funny like that.