Sad post

[GoingCrazy29]

Some of you may remember how excited I was that a few months ago FF''s brother and SIL announced they were pregnant and FF told me that we would definitely be engaged by the time the baby was born. I LOVE babies and was super excited about both announcements. Well we just found out yesterday that they lost the baby

. I''m so sad for them- they have tried for about a year to get pregnant and were so excited. They already have the crib and we''ve already come up with nicknames for it- and now its just gone. Its surreal and I''m so bummed, so I can''t even imagine what they are going through...

Anyway, just wanted to update. Not sure what that means for us being engaged by April, but that''s really not whats on my mind right now. So sad.

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

I am so sorry to hear this incredibly sad news. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, FF''s brother, SIL, and your entire family.

 

[Lauren8211]

Oh my goodness. That is so awful. I''m so sorry to hear that. I cant even imagine what that must feel like.

I''ll keep you and them in my thoughts.

 

[absolut_blonde]

Oh, how sad. I am so sorry to hear that.

Something similar happened to my cousin and his wife earlier this year (the baby died fairly early on in the pregnancy). However, they are expecting again now and this time things seem to be going smoothly. Doesn''t erase the pain of what happened before, of course; but I am happy to see them get the baby they wanted so much.

 

[jcarlylew]

i am so sorry for their lost

 

[PrincessDijon]

I''m sorry for their loss....it must be a very tough thing to deal with...

 

[wishful]

So sorry to hear that. How awful.

 

[dreaming of the day]

Oh how devastating, I am so sorry to hear this terrible news. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family!

 

[dragonfly411]

So sorry to hear the sad news! Dust and prayers!!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

As someone who also suffered two miscarriages, please know that I am so very sorry for your FSIL & FBIL and the loss their loss.

I wish all of you peace and comfort during this very sad time.

 

[ams0124]

I''m sooo sorry to hear that.

BF and I went through something similar when FSIL and FBIL were trying to have a baby...They had been trying for almost a year, finally got preggers...they were so excited!!! 9 weeks into the pregnancy she miscarried...It was so sad, my heart ached for them...It took them a while for them to start trying again b/c they were so dissapointed and scared that it might happen again...but once they made up their minds that they were willing to do whatever it took to have a baby...they got pregnant right away...and now we have a beautiful nephew.

Things happen for a reason, and we''re never given anything that God doesn''t think we can handle.

I''m sending positive thoughts to you and your family during this trying time. ***HUGS***

 

[Independent Gal]

Date: 9/15/2008 10:39:40 AM
Author: absolut_blonde
Oh, how sad. I am so sorry to hear that.


Something similar happened to my cousin and his wife earlier this year (the baby died fairly early on in the pregnancy). However, they are expecting again now and this time things seem to be going smoothly. Doesn't erase the pain of what happened before, of course; but I am happy to see them get the baby they wanted so much.

So sorry to hear about the miscarriages.

Many of us have no idea how crazily common this is, because so few people talk about it. But as we've learned over on the TTC/pregnant PSers board, a full 50% of fertilized eggs don't make it. HALF, people! About 30% of the blastocysts (as they're called really early when its just a bundle of cells) die within 3 weeks, then another 20% of the embryos die once you actually know you're pregnant, usually before the end of three months. Usually, it's caused by wonky chromosomes. The cells just short circuit and stop developing. But smoking, drinking, doing drugs, drinking too much coffee (like, 5 cups a day) or sustaining an injury can cause it too. As can certain hormonal issues, most of which are fixable so that you can carry to term.

Ladies, the more people realize that this is COMMON, the more women will feel comfortable talking about their loss and not feel so isolated. Statistically, MOST of us will have at least one miscarriage in our lives, even if it's before we know we're pregnant, and just think it's a wacky missed period. I'd bet that most of you past a certain age know a lot of women who've had a miscarriage, but you just don't know it because women feel too ashamed or isolated to talk about it. I think that's very sad and I hope we can learn to talk about this very natural and very sad part of reproduction more so that people know it's normal, not their fault, and that there's lots of support and empathy out there!

Going Crazy, I hope your in laws conceive again soon and that they carry the next embryo all the way to fetus-hood and then babyhood.

 

[radiantquest]

i cant imagine how they feel. i am so sorry. i wish there was something i could do, but of course there is not.

 

[vita*dolce]

i''m so sorry to hear that!! that is such sad news, my thought will be with you and yours.