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Lauren8211

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FF just left for 5 days to go to Chicago for work.

I''m way bummed. I never realized how attached we were until he left this morning and I cried.

He''s only gone til Thursday!!

I''m pathetic!
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That is hard!! HUGS to you.

I am not a lady in waiting, but this might lessen your pain somewhat: I haven't seen my hubby for 3 weeks and it'll be four weeks before I see him again.

I know I know, not much of a consolation. Just wanted you to know, separation is not easy, no matter how long.

You're not pathetic, at all!! I've been crying buckets!!

HUGS again.
 
Five days will fly by! And soon he''ll be back! (but yes it''s hard and I feel for you! I''m not a LIW but the BF and I are apart for the entire summer (10 weeks) and about 6000 miles apart
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So major hugs!
 
Ohhh my goodness, how do you handle it?? I''m freaking out over 5 days, I have no idea how you handle being away for weeks at time. That would drive me crazy!

I totally feel for you, can''t imagine having to deal with that.
 
It''s hard! I just finished my 6th week here (Japan) so I''m counting down the last 4 weeks (ok, to tell the truth, I started counting during week 1). Skype helps a lot! And keeping busy!

Elle, when is your FF supposed to return?
 
elledizzy, aw, is it the first time you guys are away from each other? I would go shopping!

brown.eyed.girl, where in Japan? Do you like it there? I grew up in Tokyo and my parents now live in Hokkaido.
 
Aww.

SO and I started off LDR so this was the story of my life for a long time... I thought it would go away once we lived together. But then I went back home this weekend & I was so sad to say goodbye to him on Thursday! Even though I knew we''d only be going 2 full days without seeing each other.


But I have many survival strategies:
- phone/text him. It always makes me feel much more connected to him
- pick up some girly magazines/books
- cheesey television or movies
- gym (this is great, the gym cures all I think)
- go out with your friends... preferably not to a bar setting, which can make you feel worse, but a girls movie night or out for dinner
- spa day- mani, pedi, etc at home
- clean... I''m not a huge clean freak but sometimes it''s therapeutic
 
Choro, I''m in Tokyo for the summer working, but I return (to Chicago actually!) in 4 weeks for school again. I LOVE Japan - it''s been an incredible summer so far. The people I work with are unbelievably nice and fun to hang out with, and there have been a LOT of events and trips. I was actually in Kyoto last weekend, and it was sooo beautiful (but incredibly hot!!! I invested in parasols, biore face wipes, and mosquito repellent lol, and got attacked by over-eager deer in Nara). When did you leave Tokyo?

Absolut, I completely agree with your strategies. BF and I have been apart for holidays with our various families, etc. and texting helps so much! And Shopaholic books are great for those times apart!

Elle, Another suggestion is think of things you''ve been wanting to see or do with the FF, and create a list (I love lists, sorry!) or plan a day to spend with him doing all of those as soon as he comes back, so you''ll have something to look forward to
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elledizzy, I second the idea for a Girls Night Out. Even better, a sleep over!

Brown.Eyed.Girl, I''m glad you enjoy it! I''ve never been to Nara, but it''s on my to-go list with FI. It''s one of the worst place to go to in the summer. Humid and hot
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. In the Winter it''s insanely cold. I wish you could stay until Autumn. The leaves are so beautiful...
My uncle is from Nara + Osaka, and he makes the BEST Okonomiyaki ever!! I did hear that those deers can ibe really dangerous.
I left Japan in 1999 for college in the United States. I could never work in Japan; can''t stand the workng environment
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Sorry for the threadjack elledizzy.
 
Well, FF returns on Thursday night.

I have school Monday and Wednesday night, and I work full time. Tuesday I am getting sushi with a girlfriend of mine.

I think today is the worst of the days because we usually spend Sunday together all day being lazy.

I''ve already shopped, lol! I got stuff at Victoria''s Secret, Old Navy, Express, and DSW! I made a vow to only buy things on sale, and I stuck with it. Woo hoo!

We''ve texted a couple times already so I''m doing OK, but then I just minutes where I''m bummed he''s not around. This is the first day we havent'' seen each other in almost 2 years. God, we really ARE attached!

Thanks for all of your well-wishing and suggestions. I think next on my list is deep condition my hair, paint my toe nails, and work out!
 
it sounds like you''ve got the right idea! it gets much easier after the first couple of days (at least for me). because of work and school, we''ve been in an ldr since may of last year. it gets overwhelming if you think of it all at once, but if you keep yourself busy the days go by so much faster. plus, think of how fun it''ll be when he gets back and he''s so excited to see you, too!
 
HAHAHA my poor SO would probably want to claw your eyes out if she read this.... I left her with a promise ring 3 months ago and i''ve still got 2 full months left here in Iraq. I''m betting the next cpl months will go by ALOT quicker though if i can get the real thing on her finger....
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(she wouldn''t really, she''s the sweetest thing ever....this is just a really funny story to me)
 
Elle, after almost 18 years of marriage I must say I love a couple of days with the kids and no hubby! Of course I love him, but sometimes a bit of distance is not bad. I spent the first couple years of my marriage with him in NY almost all of the time during the week, he would take the red eye to NY from LA on a Sun night and come home Fri night. I was in grad school so it was fine, I got to study and see friends and not feel like he was sitting around waiting for me, which he would not have been as he worked til 10 at night during deals.


Airman, bless you and stay safe!
 
Elle dahlink, you know I love you, but for those of us who''ve done LDRs for years, posts like this make us smile in that "oh man, you don''t even know!" kind of way.
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Sounds like you''ve got plenty to do until Thursday night, so I''m sure the time will fly by. No worries, m''dear, he''ll be back before you know it.
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Hubby and I have had to get used to being apart for our entire married life on a regular basis, we have often been apart for 2 months or more, and we had to endure being separated for over a year some time ago. Keep busy!
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I have been in an LDR also, so I know what its like to deal with that. Would NEVER want to do that again, and I give you guys props for being able to deal. However, it''s something you get used to. This is our first time spending a night apart in almost 2 years, so it was hard. If we were apart regularly, I''d be adjusted.

It''s all relative. I realize that some of you have it harder, but this is hard for me!
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Trying to keep busy!
 
Date: 7/28/2008 9:04:10 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I have been in an LDR also, so I know what its like to deal with that. Would NEVER want to do that again, and I give you guys props for being able to deal. However, it's something you get used to. This is our first time spending a night apart in almost 2 years, so it was hard. If we were apart regularly, I'd be adjusted.

It's all relative. I realize that some of you have it harder, but this is hard for me!
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Trying to keep busy!
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Sorry I in no way meant to sound unsympathetic, I reread my post and it could have come across that way - I apologise!!
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What I was trying to say and didn't make a good job of it, is that you are not alone, and that keeping busy helps! Do some stuff you enjoy, get some candy you like and chick flicks, have a manicure, treat yourself to some perfume
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, or other girly goodie - that is what I do - hehe!
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How long have you guys been together?

After 6 years, whenever he goes out of town its party time
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I call my girlfriends, have Sex and The City DVD parties, I read...oh man how I miss reading without having someone yell out "what do you want for dinner?"
 
We''re going on three years together. I was SO excited to have the bed to myself for 4 nights, but then once he left, I was so upset! I didn''t think it''d freak me out that much!

I know you guys aren''t unsympathetic! I just had to defend myself so you didnt think I was a big sissy! (Ok, I kind of am.
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You sissy you
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Date: 7/28/2008 9:10:24 AM
Author: elledizzy5
We''re going on three years together. I was SO excited to have the bed to myself for 4 nights, but then once he left, I was so upset! I didn''t think it''d freak me out that much!

I know you guys aren''t unsympathetic! I just had to defend myself so you didnt think I was a big sissy! (Ok, I kind of am.
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You are NOT a sissy, like I said, my post didn''t come across the way I meant it to! I do know how you feel, it has taken a long time for me to get '' sort of'' used to it, but I don''t like it, and count the days until he is home again!
 
Five days can feel like a lot, so I know how that is.

But try to take advantage of the alone time. When BF''s away I do all the stuff I don''t normally do with him. Rent a bunch of on-demand movies he wouldn''t want to watch. Get yummy take-out. Take my pup for just-me-and-her runs (or walks). Have my girls over for dinner and cocktails. Shopping!!! Good book & a glass of wine. Catch up on my shows...possibilities are endless.

Chin up...He''ll be back before you know it.
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