Save the Dates & Invites question...

[karasue91]

We are planning to send out save the dates because our wedding is in Canada and we want to give our friends and family in the US plenty of time to make sure their passports are up to date, plan for the trip, etc. However, I have a lot of less-than-wealthy family who won''t be able to afford to make it, and step-family I''m not close to and wouldn''t expect them to attend the wedding. I would be more than happy if all of these people could make it to the wedding, but I just know that''s not going to happen.

So my question is, should I send out STDs to everyone we plan to send invites to? Or for the people who I know won''t make it, should I just send the invite? For those people, we are just basically using the invite as an announcement, and my mom wants us to send them the invites even if we know they won''t come.

I guess an STD to me seems like something we would send to the people we know will want to and will be able to come, and I feel like we are being presumptuous sending an STD to my step-father''s brother in Florida when I know there is no way in hell he will come.

Anyone else in the same boat or have any suggestions? Or should we just send STDs to everyone we plan to send invites to?

 

[sumbride]

I was surprised by who made the effort to attend my wedding.

Send the STDs to everyone you are planning to invite, but be cautious with anyone that may not make the list due to budget. Be sure that everyone that gets an STD ALSO gets an invite! Let them be the one that makes the decision.

 

[Independent Gal]

We sent e-mail save the dates to most of our out of town guests. We basically wrote each one individually (small guest list!) and said ''BTW, we''re getting married in XYZ town on April 13th. Mark your calendar, OK?''

It was a nice excuse to get in touch with people, but only really works if the guestlist is fairly small.

Also, I confess that the few distant cousins I''m only inviting because I really like a sibling of theirs didn''t get e-mails. Because it was so casual with the e-mails, I could get away with that! Those cousins would have found it weird to get an e-mail from me anyway.