saying goodbye

[SailorsSweet<3]

Hello LIWS! I''m off to bed so that I can wake up at 530 tomorrow to fly down to my SO''s. He''s leaving on his first deployment and Im probably going to need a little perking up by the time I''m back home and surfing PS on Sunday.

If I''m lukcy, I''ll still get to go see him around December - early January - but the way things are looking he''s not going to be where he''d thought he''d be a month ago, so I''m probably going to go ''til May with only email contact

. Cross your fingers that Im not a blubbering mess come Sunday morning. Maybe a little extra PS dust will lift my spirits? Thanks for reading my mini vent

Good luck to all you girls who have an inclining about youre upcoming weekend! See you next week!

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

I understand, sweetheart! My BF is a navy pilot and was stationed in Japan for three years. Now he''s back in Texas on a 3 year land tour, and I''m the happiest I''ve ever been. Hang in there! It really does get easier, and it makes the time together so much more precious that anyone can imagine.

 

[miss_flo]

Another sailor''s girl here, hang in there. We''ve survived three years of ship life and now he''s at a land unit, so it DOES get better and there will be much happier times. Have a good weekend with him, we''ll be here to support you when you''re back.

 

[blondebunny]

awww i am soo sorry!!! I cry when my BF leaves for a few days (although im better now when he leaves...) but i cant imagine going to december... maybe May without my BF...

Cry all you want though.. its not good to keep all your feelings in, good to let them out and have a good cry every now and then!! I feel so bad..

We will definitely be hear to help you through it!!

Have ya''ll considered getting a webcam?? I know its not the same.. but atleast youd be able to "see" each other... I know i always like to do that when Im not home with my BF!! Maybe it could be a sweet little surprise for your BF?? Maybe get one and give it to him before you leave??? Goodluck and have a good weekend with him!

 

[bee*]

Sorry to hear that. Sending hugs.

 

[gladyskristen]

Oh u poor dear! I know how terrible it feels to be separated from ur SO for months.

Lotsa hugs and dust to you!

 

[Lorelei]

I well know how you feel....Stay busy and look at the time apart in little chunks rather than one long dreary stretch, and be good to yourself.

 

[dcgator]

I am so sorry my dear...But, if you need to cry or vent, you know we are all here for you. It seems like there are a few sailor ladies to comfort you, and the rest of us will try our best as well.

Good luck and lots of hugs!

 

[SparklyLibra]

Lots of ((((HUGS)))) and spirit lifting dust for you Sailorsweet. I like Blondebunny''s idea of a web cam, and maybe sending and receiving care packages every (insert number here) weeks will help? I''ve never been in your position so I hope my ideas don''t sound silly, but I really hope you can find ways to help the time pass quickly.

We''re here if you need to cry, vent, yell, whatever makes you feel better.

(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

~SL.

 

[PrincessDijon]

SSH....

Sorry to hear about your SO''s deployment...I''ve been through them with XH and they are no fun!

I do agree with the webcam...it makes a world of difference!!!

 

[Dannielle]

I''m sorry SailorsSweet, I''ve never been through a deployment with FI but he had to go to Google in California for work related training for one month. That was just after we moved in together, and although we had phone and email it was really hard and was a strain on our relationship

Try your hardest to keep your chin up, do things that you love and enjoy, see your family and friends- make this time about you

Sending lots of love and hugs your way

 

[gwendolyn]

Oh, sweetie, I hope you are doing ok. I lived with a friend whose husband was on tour with the army for 14 months and got some idea then of how hard it must be in your situation. My boyfriend and I used to have to say goodbye for months and months at a time when we lived in separate countries, but it''s not really on the same level as what you''re going through. One day at a time, darlin''! *hugs*

 

[SailorsSweet<3]

Thank you everyone for you sweet messages

To answer blondebunny, sparkly, and PD - we DO webcam talk when he''s down in Virginia, but for some reason theyre not allowed to do that on the ship in their person time. I''m not sure they connect their laptops to an internet source.. I think he answers all his email on the work computers

Anyway - I said goodbye to him today and was in a surprisingly chipper mood. I''m not sure if its hit me or not... or if the initial goodbye isnt the hardest part, but I know I can spill all I want here and get some uplifting messages - which helps tons. Thanks again for all your messages girls

 

[miss_flo]

I''m glad to hear the goodbye turned out fine! DB and I joke about "the stages of deployment" and inevitably, the first week is always by far the hardest. It''s the weeping, moping, snapping stage when you refuse to readjust to being apart and hate the world for being happy while you''re not. Once you''ve cleared that hurdle, after the first month life returns to "normal." You hit a rhythm to your daily routine, find friends to fill you social void, and pick up hobbies to stay busy. And the rest is smooth sailing <3 Feel free to vent here if you need to, you''ve definitely got a wonderful group of girls ready and willing to lend a virtual hug

 

[Amanda.Rx]

Awwww... I kinda know how you feel.

You sounds like you''ve got it worse, but my BF is in Germany. I haven''t seen him in a month- and it''ll be another month before I see him again.

At least we have Skype- and can talk via web cam.

It''s tough, babe- night time is the absolute worst! You just sit on the couch, after a long day... all alone, and you''ll just want to cry.

That''s when you come and get on price scope! We''re here for you!

 

[ImpatientOne]

Aww, big hugs! My hubby has been gone for 13 months now and won''t be back until December for a total of 15 months being deployed

Hang in there! Keep yourself busy, and set little goals and milestones and the time will pass quickly!