Second Guessing Dress

[NuggetBrain]

So now I''m doing what I always do, which is second guessing my decision. This time its on my dress. My mom and the saleslady really liked it, and I liked it too, but I didn''t feel that "OMG I''m in love" moment. And I never thought I would anyways, but now I find myself looking at dresses in mags and going "oooh, that''s so pretty. I want to go try that on." We already put the deposit down on the dress. Has anybody else had this happen once they''ve bought their dress? Did you end up overcoming it?

 

[kstar512]

That is totally normal. It happens to a lot of brides. Once you found your dress is when you should stop looking at other ones. There will always be something just as nice or just as pretty. Many girls don''t have that "this is the one" moment. I certainly did not, but I am very happy with the dress I chose. There was a reason you chose the dress that you did, sometimes after a while you forget how much you loved it. Once you try it on at fittings you will probably fall in love all over again. Don''t worry about it, unless you are having serious regrets, and stop looking in magazines at other ones.

 

[Diva0413]

I actually had that happen to me. I went dress shopping with my Mom and BM. I picked up 6 or 7 dresses. There was one dress in particular (I called in "Ruffles" in a previous thread), that my Mom LOVED and the saleslady picked out so of course she loved it. I liked it, but didn''t have an OMG moment either. But when my Mom started crying, I thought it was the dress. I put half down on the dress, but the next day, I realized that wasn''t my dress. I ended up going back and picking the 3rd dress I tried on. And I loved it.

Now, with that said, I agree kstar512 in that not every woman has the "I love and have to have this dress" moment. My suggestion, if it''s possible, is to try on the dress you picked again, preferably by yourself. And see how you feel in that dress.

Hope that helps.

 

[cammy85]

I had the same exact thing as well. I liked my dress and they all looked good, however, my mom, FSIL, FMIL and associate LOVED this particular one. The price was right and consequently we ended up purchasing it. Up until the day before the wedding I was looking at other dresses (another tip - STOP LOOKING at other dresses once you''ve purchased!), and having thoughts like "what if I like something better, what if it doesn''t suit me, and I thought I was supposed to have the ''this is it'' moment with it" I finally convinced myself that I will love my dress, because the other ones I ended up liking in magazines were very similar to mine, but 2-10x the price of mine! Being on a budget definitely affected my overall choice. And seeing the reaction of my family. They must have seen something I didn''t - granted I was somwhat overwhelmed the whole time.

But, I will say, that when the wedding day came around, and I put the dress on, all my fears and insecurities vanished. Seeing myself in hair, makeup, my shoes and all my accessories - it was perfect. From that moment on, I have absolutely adored my dress, and wish I didn''t have all the hesitations I did before the wedding (so many other things to worry about!) And I want to wear it every single day!

What I''m trying to say, is that second guessing something that is a pretty substantial cost of the wedding, plus something that will be around in photographs forever is normal. Go with what you feel beautiful in, and picture yourself marrying your FH in the dress. If, however, you are really concerned and don''t like your dress anymore, that''s legitimate as well, and there is not a lot people can say that will change your mind. That''s up for you to decide.

I can''t say how to overcome it, but I can say that all of my decisions were second-guessed - veil, colored shoes, dress, etc. However, I stuck with my gut instinct, and at times, logic versus emotion, and when I think about my wedding or look at my wedding pictures, everything came to together so perfectly. I wouldn''t have changed anything.

Good luck and I hope you will learn to love your dress or find something that makes you feel amazing!

 

[ficklefaye]

hi nuggetbrain, i didn''t have the omg, this is the one, tears flowing moment with my dress either, i just tried it on and liked it a lot, part of me was expecting the clouds to part and the sun shining down on me (ok, exaggeration of course) but it didn''t happen, but i''m happy with my dress

i think it doesn''t help that it''s such a long wait until the actual dress arrives, maybe try it on again and see how you feel, i tried mine on at least two more times after i purchased it and before it finally arrived

 

[merrymunky]

With 22 days to go I am STILL second guessing my dress choice. When I put it on I KNEW it was the one for me, both my mother and I got a little glassy eyes when we said YES to the sales lady.

Since then I keep looking at pictures of my in it and wonder if I made the right choice. I think once the whole image comes together on the day I will feel much happier. But till the day I will be worrying. I am a plus sized girl and have seen many other polus size dresses that are just STUNNING since I bought mine!

 

[brendaman]

I also second-guessed my gown, but it confirmed that I picked the right dress in the first place. Many adivsed that I should "stop looking", but I didn''t listen. I looked, not just in magazines but I tried on some nice gowns in a couple of shops. I convinced myself that if I did find another gown, I would be a 2-gown bride. I even went to a Filene''s Running of the Brides (albeit not with an entourage, but by myself after work) a few days ago, but did not feel the need to try on any gowns. The urge (and high) of trying on more gowns has left me, and I am a shopper.

I didn''t feel a "this is it" moment, but thought the dress had all that I was looking for, but mind you, I had no idea what I was looking for until the 2nd shop. In a way, it''s much better if you have a size/shape which eliminates certain gowns (I''m short, so ballgowns or anything poofy were out w/me). I think brides who are tall(ish) and have a nice figure have a harder time as everything will look nice on them.

For me, looking at other dresses reminded me of why I chose my dress in the first place, and I feel lucky that i was able to find the dress so quickly.