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Separated... what to do with engagement ring.

Gypsy

Gypsy

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I am not really sure what to do with my engagement ring. I was thinking of getting a colored stone cut for my halo setting. And selling the asscher. But it doesn't really garner me a lot of funds. So I am wondering what to do with it. I've just got it locked up now.

So I thought I'd ask for ideas. One note: I have a LOT of pendants and necklaces so I'm not interested in that. Otherwise, I welcome your help. Thanks in advance.
 
So sorry to hear of your situation. Wishing you the best going forward.

Might be worth posting in the For Sale section. There's a bit of a shortage on diamonds that aren't MRB due to constrained supply, so it might be worthwhile to try and sell it.
 
DejaWiz said:
So sorry to hear of your situation. Wishing you the best going forward.

Might be worth posting in the For Sale section. There's a bit of a shortage on diamonds that aren't MRB due to constrained supply, so it might be worthwhile to try and sell it.
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I have it listed on Loup Troope. But you are right. I can list it on Pre-loved now that I'm not trade! So... gonna do that.

I really want a sapphire three stone ring. There is an oval sapphire I have my eye on. It's just not as big as I want. It's 8.8 x 6.8. And I don't want a halo. I am afraid I'll have DSS because I wear a size 8.5 on my right hand.

I'm thinking of two lab diamonds on the side. With G Cal certs.

In this setting; https://www.instagram.com/p/CSdBNEkAO7K/

Or maybe do this setting and sides instead: https://www.instagram.com/p/CJROHYYn6vE/
I am just considering if I want to sell my asscher to fund it.
 
I'm sorry to hear this, Gypsy. (((Hugs)))

But wait... you aren't with Wink anymore?
 
ecf8503 said:
I'm sorry to hear this, Gypsy. (((Hugs)))

But wait... you aren't with Wink anymore?
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No, I posted in Hangout about everything. The separation changed my financial reality. So... I had some hard choices I had to make and one of those, unfortunately, was leaving Wolf-CBI.
 
Gypsy said:
I have it listed on Loup Troope. But you are right. I can list it on Pre-loved now that I'm not trade! So... gonna do that.

I really want a sapphire three stone ring. There is an oval sapphire I have my eye on. It's just not as big as I want. It's 8.8 x 6.8. And I don't want a halo. I am afraid I'll have DSS because I wear a size 8.5 on my right hand.

I'm thinking of two lab diamonds on the side. With G Cal certs.

In this setting; https://www.instagram.com/p/CSdBNEkAO7K/

Or maybe do this setting and sides instead: https://www.instagram.com/p/CJROHYYn6vE/
I am just considering if I want to sell my asscher to fund it.
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I really like the second setting with an oval. It would make sense to sell the asscher to fund it. However, and I don’t mean to get personal, if you thought there was any chance of a reconciliation down the road, you might regret selling your engagement stone. Guess it depends too on how sentimental you are about the diamond.
 
do you have to change out the asscher? Can you just reset it? If the stone doesn't give you issues about the end of your marriage, why sell it at what may be a loss? Can you make a three stone out of it, or do you definitely want a sapphire? or could you do a toi e moi with the asscher and a sapphire? I don't recall the size of your asscher so not sure it that's a possibility.
 
Would the asscher work as the centre of a 3 stone, with sapphire sides?
 
MGR: Chance of reconciliation? We were together for 22 years. I don't know how I am feeling one day to the next still. There are days I miss him so much. But then I remember that the person I am missing doesn't exist anymore. He's changed. So have I. I miss us, when we were happy. But we haven't been there in years.

But I think that even if we do, it will be have to be a fresh start. With the two of us as we are now. Not because of who we were. So I guess I'd want something new.

Lookinagain: . Just having to think through my thoughts in this thread is helpful. I think it does give me issues. My asscher is 1.09 and 5.8mm square.

I was thinking of getting it reset into something like this, but I don't think I'd wear it.
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Hi Dandi: It's only a carat, so the sapphire sides would be so small. And I'm not really into step cut three stones for some reason.
 
How about a moi et toi with a sapphire.
 
My best advice is not to rush. I know that right now, going through a separation and potential divorce, you don't think you will ever be able to wear that asscher again, but as someone who had been through it, you will will come out on the other side. You may even find that you are much happier. But it does take time to adjust. So don't rush. If you don't know what you really want to do with the stone, just hold on for a while. At some point, using it again may not bother you at all. But if you find that you want or need to sell it to fund another stone, or just to get rid of it for emotional reasons, by all means do that. Do whatever feels right for you. But don't rush.
 
Niel said:
How about a moi et toi with a sapphire.
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I don't like them on my hand. I like them on others, but when I go to wear them on my own hand, the lack of symmetry bothers me when they are not identical stones.
 
Lookinagain said:
My best advice is not to rush. I know that right now, going through a separation and potential divorce, you don't think you will ever be able to wear that asscher again, but as someone who had been through it, you will will come out on the other side. You may even find that you are much happier. But it does take time to adjust. So don't rush. If you don't know what you really want to do with the stone, just hold on for a while. At some point, using it again may not bother you at all. But if you find that you want or need to sell it to fund another stone, or just to get rid of it for emotional reasons, by all means do that. Do whatever feels right for you. But don't rush.
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Thank you for the perspective Lookinagain. I will listen to the voice of your experience.
 
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IMO as someone who has been down a similar path (we didn’t get divorced but I can’t bear to look at my old ering), do whatever feels right for you. If you are certain you want to be rid of it and having it around brings you pain, then sell. If having it tucked away somewhere out of mind and sight works for you, then do that. Don’t feel pressured to sell because of the situation and take your time to decide if you’re not sure.
Above all else, do what’s right for you and look after yourself.
 
I would sell the ring as a whole - consign if possible to avoid having to deal with the stress of it. But I'm a declutter and fresh start kind of person.
 
I would tuck it away at least for a few months, put in the safety deposit box until you are ready to bring it out again. Your preference on the design might change, or you may want to sell and start over, who knows, but putting it away for some time could help clear your mind.
 
Welcome back to this side of the PS experience! I just went and found your thread in Hangout and commented there.

I've gotten into bangles (the round kind with no opening) this year. What about setting your diamond in a bangle? You could even keep the halo as part of the design.

EDIT: Also, I remember you losing your engagement ring. Did you find it??
 
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How about if you go clean and contemporary. Sholdt has that great semi bezel with the flared cathedral shoulders.
 
I'm going to echo other posters - keep the ring, if you can bear to, and tuck it away until you're sure of what you want to do. You might find that a few months or years from now your love for the stone outweighs the emotional sentiments that were once attached to it. Been there done that. You might not. But I'm very sure that with a bit of time and space the right thing for you will come to you!
What you're going through right now is hard enough... You have no obligation to do anything with this until you're ready to and excited to ❤️
 
I just wanted to chime in and say you are not alone. I'm also separated and trying to figure out what I want to do with my rings. Hugs to you.
 
I would repurpose the stone into a bracelet/bangle of some sort.

DK :))
 
Keep it for at least a year. I gave mine away because it made me sick to even look at it after my divorce. A few years later and I wish I would have kept it.
 
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