Setting Question

[breanne]

Hello!

I had a question about pairing an engagement ring with a wedding band. The first photo I've uploaded IS my dream look, which I think is fairly simple to achieve. My struggle is with wanting to also have a 5 stone wedding band for special occasions.

What I love about this look is that the two rings pair together very well, no gapping/gaping. With a 5 stone wedding band, I would assume to achieve a similar look where they rest nicely against each other, the center stone must sit a bit higher? I currently have an engagement ring that is a cathedral setting and I love it. I do want to have my upgrade in a very similar setting, almost exactly like the first photo, but with the idea of wanting a 5 stone band as well, I do not know the details on how to have this custom made. Outside of the actual center stone, I think what might also be important is that the metal height on the wedding band must match the height on the engagement ring?

I have been searchinggggg for a photo of a solitaire with a 5 stone band that resembles this look, but I am having a hard time. I have attached a photo of the type of 5 stone I am considering. Now if I could only see them together, that would be a dream.

I ventured on this conversation several years ago, but I think I was too premature in my decision making process, now I am very adamant on upgrading this year. I believe someone mentioned when I had this discussion originally that they suggest using a spacer as the diamonds will damage the prongs. Is there any other way around this? As far as I have seen, any spacer actually takes away from this look.

With my first setting I didn't know what I didn't know, the ring came out beautifully, but I strongly dislike the prongs. So now I feel I have analysis paralysis and want to be sure if I have another ring made that I have covered every detail.

Thank you for any recommendations or insights!

 

[oldminer]

The shank metal height is not a major issue. That can readily be matched to both rings. The diamonds in the band will stand higher than the shank of the band. To get the diamond band as close as possible to the engagement ring, consider a diamond band with 6 or 4 diamonds so the spot where the prong from the solitaire diamond reaches the shank is not pressed against the diamond, but instead, fits in a space between the diamonds. This helps to keep the wedding ring centered to some extent, too. What you are looking for does not really need any custom making. This looks to be readily available design types.

 

[breanne]

The shank metal height is not a major issue. That can readily be matched to both rings. The diamonds in the band will stand higher than the shank of the band. To get the diamond band as close as possible to the engagement ring, consider a diamond band with 6 or 4 diamonds so the spot where the prong from the solitaire diamond reaches the shank is not pressed against the diamond, but instead, fits in a space between the diamonds. This helps to keep the wedding ring centered to some extent, too. What you are looking for does not really need any custom making. This looks to be readily available design types.

Thank youu!! That makes a lot of sense!

That was something that I forgot to write in my original post, I thought if the shank didn't have to sit higher, would it maybe have to be flushed from the side to avoid any overhang inhibiting the two bands from resting properly. Your explanation makes more sense though, to have them sit in between the diamonds of the band instead.

Clever, ha!

I think a 4 stone band wouldn't be so bad either since it might leave a bit more room on the sides where you could see the metal from both rings. I think this might add to the more uniformed look I am looking to achieve.

 

[Ionysis]

I would go with a six if I were you

 

[breanne]

I would go with a six if I were you

The shank metal height is not a major issue. That can readily be matched to both rings. The diamonds in the band will stand higher than the shank of the band. To get the diamond band as close as possible to the engagement ring, consider a diamond band with 6 or 4 diamonds so the spot where the prong from the solitaire diamond reaches the shank is not pressed against the diamond, but instead, fits in a space between the diamonds. This helps to keep the wedding ring centered to some extent, too. What you are looking for does not really need any custom making. This looks to be readily available design types.

This is Dancing Fire's ring I found, its beautiful. I hope they don't mind that I use it as an example.

If you look at the side where the last diamond is, I think part of what I am looking for is to see the two bands match? By doing this, it will give the illusion that they sit more flushly? This photo also helps to see why a 4 or 6 stone might be best, so the center stone is a bit more rested between the setting on the wedding band instead of inline with the diamond below it?

I think your suggestion makes a lot of sense, do you think having some of the metal from both bands exposed will contribute to that flushed look, or is there something else to consider?

Also, how much damage is really done?

 

[breanne]

I would go with a six if I were you

I would be open to that, do you have any reasonings why or why not?

 

[Ionysis]

The stones will be slightly smaller hence not so high on the finger. And aesthetically three diamonds peeking each side of your solitaire would, I think, look better.

 

[breanne]

The stones will be slightly smaller hence not so high on the finger. And aesthetically three diamonds peeking each side of your solitaire would, I think, look better.

Thank you! I did also consider the height of bigger stones in the band might throw off the look, so you might be right.

 

[breanne]

So, I found two good photos to illustrate my concern. Even if I were to do an even number of stones on the wedding band, I do think the basket (is that what it's called?) will interfere unless it sits pretty flush from the profile, or sits higher up?

My second concern would be because my stone will be 3-3.5 carats, I don't think moving the basket up would make sense, I think because the stone will be a fair size, it might look odd? Also with that in mind, making the basket flush from the side might not be a possibility either if the stone is a certain diameter...?

 

[Ionysis]

I think if you choose any decent designer they will be able to do this. Most people want engagement and wedding rings to sit flush. This isn’t a new issue. I think you are over worrying. Just work with your jeweller - you can explain what you want in two sentences.

 

[breanne]

I think if you choose any decent designer they will be able to do this. Most people want engagement and wedding rings to sit flush. This isn’t a new issue. I think you are over worrying. Just work with your jeweller - you can explain what you want in two sentences.

I guess my concern is that I haven't seen exactly what I want, I have scoured social media and the internet for photos to help illustrate what I want before I start the process. Most of the rings I see sit flush are channel set wedding bands, and/or the ER is not a cathedral, and/or the wedding band itself is petite that it doesn't match the width of the engagement ring.

As you can see from the second photo above, that person considered her rings flush. To me, that is not flush (if she's happy, that is obviously great!)

The photo above that one, that one sits more flush, but then again, that is not a cathedral engagement ring. I also think the basket is a bit higher up as well, which I think would look a bit odd if the diamond was a bit larger in size.

I don't doubt that it can be created, but I think I need a bit more clarity on what to ask for, and a better way to illustrate my point before I proceed. I had a really good outcome with my last jeweler, but then I ended up with prongs I really don't like. So, as per my original post, I have analysis paralysis because I don't want to skip over a small detail when it turns out to be something I strongly don't like.

 

[Ionysis]

That is exactly what CADs are for. The jeweller will send you a computer generated image which will illustrate how the rings sit together. That’s the best way to be sure you get what you need with the design. Do you know which designer you’re going with yet? Apologies if you already mentioned it up thread.

 

[breanne]

That is exactly what CADs are for. The jeweller will send you a computer generated image which will illustrate how the rings sit together. That’s the best way to be sure you get what you need with the design. Do you know which designer you’re going with yet? Apologies if you already mentioned it up thread.

I may go with my original jeweler, he was really great. I would be open to suggestions though of people who are good to work with.