PearlDahhhling
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So yesterday I was visiting my Dad in the hospital and we were on the internet trying to email a card that we made for my grandmother (his mom) and I noticed I had an email from the "MOH" who has been creating so much drama about her boyfriend, etc. There was no subject/title to the email so I figured something was up, since there''s pretty much ALWAYS some sort of title from her.
So I waited until I wasn''t with my Dad anymore and read it. Woah. Pretty much it was a super long email that said I was selfish for not letting her boyfriend come to my wedding, and that everything isn''t always about me, and that she can''t BELIEVE I was so "disrespectful" to her mother (while the email I sent to her mother was straightforward, it was DEFINITELY not rude or disrespectful). And that she isn''t going to "put up with my shit" anymore and that she''s can''t justify being a part of my wedding.
I just emailed her back a simple "Okay, I''m sorry you feel that way. Goodbye." Because I know anything more than that would give her a reason to argue and bitch. And I''m tired of that.
(Oh and just so you guys know, this was the first communication between us since the email from her mother. I never sent her the demotion letter, nor brought it up with her because after reading all your responses to it, I agreed with you all that it would cause more drama.)
So she''s out. And I''m actually totally at peace with it. I saw it coming, and I''m not surprised in the least. I''ve known that she was capable of this for a long time, I just didn''t want to think she''d do it to me, after almost 12 years of "friendship." But our friendship has been one-sided for a looong time.
She''s not the person she used to be. She smokes pot and drinks constantly, sleeps with random guys, and doesn''t really give a crap about anyone but herself. She''s not the girl I became best friends with so long ago, but I guess I was holding onto hope that she would become that girl again. But it''s a lost cause. And I''m moving on. I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
This also solves my other problem as well. I wanted to promote my bm to moh without causing any drama, and now that one moh is out, I can! I also think I''m going to ask my FI''s cousin to be my other bridesmaid. I know it''s last minute, but I actually thought about asking her from the beginning, but we weren''t very close and I already had 4 girls, so I just didn''t. I think she''ll be into it and not offended at all that it''s a last minute thing. I''ve gotten to know her better over the past few months too. And she''s family. She won''t f*** me over.
She''s done, I''m done, and it feels right.
So I waited until I wasn''t with my Dad anymore and read it. Woah. Pretty much it was a super long email that said I was selfish for not letting her boyfriend come to my wedding, and that everything isn''t always about me, and that she can''t BELIEVE I was so "disrespectful" to her mother (while the email I sent to her mother was straightforward, it was DEFINITELY not rude or disrespectful). And that she isn''t going to "put up with my shit" anymore and that she''s can''t justify being a part of my wedding.
I just emailed her back a simple "Okay, I''m sorry you feel that way. Goodbye." Because I know anything more than that would give her a reason to argue and bitch. And I''m tired of that.
(Oh and just so you guys know, this was the first communication between us since the email from her mother. I never sent her the demotion letter, nor brought it up with her because after reading all your responses to it, I agreed with you all that it would cause more drama.)
So she''s out. And I''m actually totally at peace with it. I saw it coming, and I''m not surprised in the least. I''ve known that she was capable of this for a long time, I just didn''t want to think she''d do it to me, after almost 12 years of "friendship." But our friendship has been one-sided for a looong time.
She''s not the person she used to be. She smokes pot and drinks constantly, sleeps with random guys, and doesn''t really give a crap about anyone but herself. She''s not the girl I became best friends with so long ago, but I guess I was holding onto hope that she would become that girl again. But it''s a lost cause. And I''m moving on. I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
This also solves my other problem as well. I wanted to promote my bm to moh without causing any drama, and now that one moh is out, I can! I also think I''m going to ask my FI''s cousin to be my other bridesmaid. I know it''s last minute, but I actually thought about asking her from the beginning, but we weren''t very close and I already had 4 girls, so I just didn''t. I think she''ll be into it and not offended at all that it''s a last minute thing. I''ve gotten to know her better over the past few months too. And she''s family. She won''t f*** me over.
She''s done, I''m done, and it feels right.
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