Should I sell this stone?

[blue_diamonds]

Ok here's why I'm on the fence. The stone was purchased about a year ago by me for my then girlfriend. She and I have broken up but have been off and on, and when we last split up, about two weeks ago it looked final. I know that I shouldn't hold onto the past and shouldn't relate the stone to the actual relationship, but the stone was also the first stone that I have purchased, for a woman or not. So, I want to sell it because I could use the money, but don't know if I should or not?

Not looking for relationship advice but if anyone has been in this scenario before please let me know how you went about resolving it. Leave the past in the past and sell? Or hold onto it because it was my first stone?

Btw- it was a pink tourmaline, .42 points nice sparkle nice color, round shape.

 

[pregcurious]

I think you can hold onto it yourself, but you can't give it to another woman. We're sensitive about these things

 

[emmmme]

Do you feel good when you look at it? Or does it upset you? If it's the latter - sell it.

 

[Lady_Disdain]

I think you can hold onto it yourself, but you can't give it to another woman. We're sensitive about these things

He could give it to me. I wouldn't mind it.

You say you want to sell the stone. Is there any reason for you to keep it? I can't even remember the first stone I bought and I have no particular attachment to it, obviously.

 

[LD]

Is there any reason why you couldn't give it to your ex-girlfriend? If it was a gift to her then why not let her keep it. It would be a lovely gesture.

If not, if you've got any hesitation don't do anything until some time has passed and you definitely know what to do.

 

[tara3056]

At the risk of being a downer, you said it is a .42 carat pink tourmaline. I'm assuming you didn't mean 4.2 carats! If it was written correctly, then that is quite small, and tourmaline isn't (generally) a particularly expensive stone to begin with ... so I'm not sure you'd be able to get much for it by selling it, particularly on the secondary market. I'd expect a pink tourmaline of that size (unless it's something more special, like a rubellite, or *maybe* with a unique origin, like California) to go for less than $100.

So, I think I'd let the ex-gf keep it, as a generous gesture of the lengthy history you've had. Alternatively, I'd keep it for myself OR gift it to a female relative (not love interest! You can't re-gift gemstones or jewelry purchased for one woman to another without risking trouble if the future gf ever found out!)

 

[ChrisA222]

What Tara said....

but if I had to guess...its a typo? 4.2ct maybe?

 

[blue_diamonds]

It is .42, and if she deserved it she would have had it and we wouldn't be x's to one another. Enough about her and the past relationship. I am not expecting to make a profit from it, it was not the most expensive stone, but it was my first stone purchased. I see a pretty little stone when I see it, but not the best times. So far, giving it to a relative seems to make the most sense. I don't know who would even purchase it, so I guess grandma can get it. Thanks.

 

[Lady_Disdain]

That sounds like the best solution. Lucky grandma!

How about getting the stone set before giving it to her? You can get a very affordable silver setting (pendant or ring, as you prefer) from Stuller or one of the other casting houses.

 

[LD]

blue_diamonds - it doesn't matter how big it is. It was bought because you love it so value is irrelevant. I think you've found a great solution and will be able to see it when you want. So the best of all worlds!

 

[chrono]

You would not come even close to recouping what you paid for the tourmaline so gifting it to a family member is best.

 

[pregcurious]

Giving it to your grandma is really sweet. I love that.

 

[colorluvr]

I agree about gifting the stone. It's kind of a "passing it forward" thing and will remove any bad feelings about the stone (IMHO) and instead of thinking negative/sad thoughts when you think about it (or see it) those thoughts will be replaced with the smiles you get from your grandmother when she receives it as a gift. Totally a win/win.