Should I stop sneaking peeks at the ring?

[junepatient]

It''s in the drawer. I work from home... We got it Sunday and I''m waiting waiting, waiting for the proposal.. Anyone who''s lived in the house w/ the ring, will it put a damper on getting it when I finally do? Or is it ok to keep peeking and giggling?

 

[jkil0313]

Oh God I hope it is okay. I JUST got mine from the fedex man. It is in my car right now (I can see my car from my window) but my BF is going to hide it from me in our room til he is ready. I have already googled how to open a fedex box without anyone noticing (Horrible I know, but you girls understand the torture) but since I know my boyfriend would ask if I tampered with the box and If I say no he can read me like a book and know I am lying I decided just to wait til he goes to work tomorrow and maybe scope the place out.

I want to see simply because we have a small return period, and while we are going to get it appraised this week to make sure everything is alright, I don''t need a piece of paper to tell me it is and I will love it. I need to see it. but I know I wont until that period is up and so now I have to trust him. Which is hard cause I did all the research and picked it out, I just want to see my final product.

So for me it wouldnt ruin anything I already have a general idea of what it looks like anyway, just not together. But I think it depends on the person.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 3/4/2008 11:30:00 AM
Author: jkil0313
Oh God I hope it is okay. I JUST got mine from the fedex man. It is in my car right now (I can see my car from my window) but my BF is going to hide it from me in our room til he is ready. I have already googled how to open a fedex box without anyone noticing (Horrible I know, but you girls understand the torture) but since I know my boyfriend would ask if I tampered with the box and If I say no he can read me like a book and know I am lying I decided just to wait til he goes to work tomorrow and maybe scope the place out.

I want to see simply because we have a small return period, and while we are going to get it appraised this week to make sure everything is alright, I don''t need a piece of paper to tell me it is and I will love it. I need to see it. but I know I wont until that period is up and so now I have to trust him. Which is hard cause I did all the research and picked it out, I just want to see my final product.

So for me it wouldnt ruin anything I already have a general idea of what it looks like anyway, just not together. But I think it depends on the person.

Naughty naughty!!! Hahaha I laughed at my desk when I read that. I can''t say not to, because I know I would too...ack. Try not to go crazy though. Get outta that house!

 

[LegacyGirl]

I''m in the same situation. I just picked mine up last night (I wore it in the car on the way home and wore it until I went to bed shhhhhh

) I left it in the bathroom for him to see. BF came home around 2am and this morning it was moved!! He even took the GIA papers from the drawer!! I need to keep myself busy because I feel like I''ll be searching the house for it!!!

 

[Raspberry]

Um, I can''t exactly judge since I took pictures of mine and posted pics too.

 

[sklingem]

I can''t believe you ladies are so sneaky ... now I realize to what lengths I will have to go to hide that ring once I get it ... (more men should look into this thread! lol)

 

[designchica]

If it were me, I''d peek at it every chance I couuld. But since its not me, I can tell you to stop peeking and let him surprise you!!

 

[choro72]

Date: 3/4/2008 9:14:23 PM
Author: designchica
If it were me, I'd peek at it every chance I couuld. But since its not me, I can tell you to stop peeking and let him surprise you!!

Hahaha, you crack me up!!

sklingem, Well, you're already married so I detect minimal anxiety from your wife

Not that she will be less thrilled. She is probably more secure than I am

 

[junepatient]

So I think he''ll propose this weekend sometime. So, I''ll treat this like a diet. I peeked twice today and tried it on. Tomorrow I can only peek once. Thursday I can try it on agiain and then no more until Monday when I should be wearing it legit.

We are but animals if not for self imposed peep rules.

 

[emilina22]

your too cute...just dont get caught...

pssst..is it pretty???

good luck with this weekend!!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Yes ... well maybe?

My ring is still with the jeweler and while it was still a diamond and a setting, I used to have visitation rights and believe me I took advantage of them, however, now that they are one ... I have been denied these rights.

I will not be allowed to see my ring until I am proposed to. While it is frustrating b/c I CANNOT wait to see it ... it also makes it kind of fun with all the anticipation and everything.

This being said, I said ... stop peeking ... or maybe not.

 

[surfgirl]

No, you should not be snooping or trying rings on until they are presented with the proposal.

 

[honey22]

My man is sneakier than yours clearly

He has locked mine away in the safe!! And hidden the keys!! And hidden the safe code!! So, I would have to find the code (I know where he hides that), then the keys, and then I would need to actually know how to use those things, which I don''t.

He is so sure of my inability to open the damn thing, he let me have a go the other night - he is right, can''t get the damn thing open.

Oh well, I will just have to be patient. He let me takes pics for another member here who was looking at similar bands, and it just felt wierd and naughty on my finger. Like tasting the forbidden fruit I guess. I felt like an imposter! With my own ring! But, as my baby points out, it''s not actualy mine ....yet. He has a lovely diamond ring that he may give me in the future

He is such a meany!!!

The safe has actually come in very handy this past year! I have been losing weight (55 pounds down so far!!!) and I make him hide chocolate in there if he has any in the house for me. He isn''t allowed to let me have it unless it''s Saturday (or I have PMS, then he knows better not to let me into it). It''s fantastic!! I really can''t get into it, and trust me, there have been times when I could have willed the damn thing open in order to get the chocolate out! Yummmmmmmm chocolate..........

 

[Deelight]

Date: 3/5/2008 12:30:41 AM
Author: surfgirl
No, you should not be snooping or trying rings on until they are presented with the proposal.

I agree I love to know things as much as the next person but I don''t think it is a good idea

 

[LegacyGirl]

Date: 3/4/2008 10:44:07 PM
Author: junepatient
So I think he''ll propose this weekend sometime. So, I''ll treat this like a diet. I peeked twice today and tried it on. Tomorrow I can only peek once. Thursday I can try it on agiain and then no more until Monday when I should be wearing it legit.

We are but animals if not for self imposed peep rules.

I like this idea haha!

 

[Mara]

Nahh why bother?! You''ve already seen it so just keep peeking. It won''t diminish the excitement at all...and I''m sure it would make him happy to know that you''ve been making eyes at it before you got it because you just love it so much. Keep at it! Maybe you should try it on!!

 

[onvacation]

June, if you''re on a diet, I say you should be on a stricter one! Take one long good look, giggle your heart out, take a deeeeeep breath, and say BUHBYE to that baby till it''s legitimately yours! I say so because YES it WILL take some of the thunder out of the proposal.

We looked for the ring together. He picked up the ring, along with a pair of earrings that he got me as an early wedding present. One day, he spills the beans, telling me that he picked up the earrings! It took me a few days to figure out that he must have the ring too, because it was the custom earrings that was keeping us from picking them up. I swear, I had no intention of seeing the ring before the proposal till then. I didn''t want to ruin it. But FI figured he could give me the earrings first, and when I saw those earrings, man, I was a hopeless case. You know how a puppy''s eyes light up when he senses a treat coming? Yeah, that was me. At every mention of the ring, my eyes glistened and I was seriously drooling. He got a kick out of that for a few days. He would ask "do you want to see it?" and my eyes would open wide and a big goofy grin pop up on my face and I''d be nodding like crazy. Then my common sense would kick in and I''d scream "no! no! NO!!!!" and run out of the room. I know I sound like a mad woman right now, but it was really that hard to fight the urge. Until one day I just had to cave in. That was because he wanted to compare the real rock with the fakie we had recently acquired. He made me stay out of the room, made a lot of ruckus as he faked finding the ring so I wouldn''t know where it was hidden, then re-opened the door. I was overblown by bling. There was just no comparison. Anyways, it was just for ten seconds the first day. A minute the next. The next day we took it outside to see it in the sunshine. He let me play with it while he was in the shower. All the while, I never DARED try it on, much less take it out of the case. And when he finally tried it on my right hand, I couldn''t get my heart to stop pounding! That''s when I realized it had gone too far. I was stealing my own thunder. I didn''t peek from then on. And I''m glad I stopped looking at it, because even with the few days of not seeing it, the proposal wasn''t as mindblowing as I thought it would be. I mean, although the proposal itself was really special, and it felt really strange to have a ring on my left fourth and all, regarding the ring it felt less like a gift than a transfer of what was always mine. The stone was a bit too familiar. And while my ring still surprises me with unfamiliar bursts of light, it didn''t have that "Hello world" surprise it did when I saw it first. I swear, my ring made me gasp the first 10 times I saw her.

Think of it this way: you''ll have all your life to look at it. The waiting part only comes once! That really helped me cut off my ring urges. (This sounds like a WWT entry, don''t it?)

 

[mayachel]

No peaking silly! Of course I''d be in just a crazy frenzied state if I knew too, but I think my guy would rather I was in a bit of anticipation waiting for the ring, and while it wouldn''t really "ruin" the surprise for me, I think that it might for him to know I''d been peaking.

 

[sklingem]

Actually I am not married (who got that idea?) As a guy who will likely propose in the future and have the ring in advance I would be very pi***d if I found out that my gf had tried or managed to look at it, especially if it was meant to be a (complete) surprise. My advice: trust your man to have made a good decision and to pick a time/day for a proposal. Don''t forget: Guys also deserve some fun in the process and they are going to shell out the big bucks!!

 

[choro72]

Date: 3/5/2008 2:36:34 PM
Author: sklingem
Actually I am not married (who got that idea?) As a guy who will likely propose in the future and have the ring in advance I would be very pi***d if I found out that my gf had tried or managed to look at it, especially if it was meant to be a (complete) surprise. My advice: trust your man to have made a good decision and to pick a time/day for a proposal. Don''t forget: Guys also deserve some fun in the process and they are going to shell out the big bucks!!

Sorry! I swear I thought I saw your first post, and you mentioned something like you are looking for an upgrade for you wife or something like that...

I''m seeing things.

 

[junepatient]

Ok ok , onvacation you convinced me. I shall peek no more. Especially now that I was joking around with him and asked when is he going to propose. (Seriously JOKING) and he says how he was telling his class today how he was planning to propose in the drive thru at Mc Donald''s TOMORROW!!!

Now I know he won''t do it there, but tomorrow is a real possibility (the whole double cross throw her off track thing) and now I feel like I don''t want it until the weekend so the proposal isn''t penciled into the workweek. Crazy, I know, but now I want to keep waiting!!!!

Slap me someone....

 

[onvacation]

Hey junepatient, how''s it going?

 

[junepatient]

You guys are so sweet. Thanks for asking. Truthfully, not so good and getting a little pissed off. He still has the ring. Nothing happenened this weekend (he doesen''t even look suspicious) and I''ve been SUCH a good LIW. I haven''t seen the thing for at least a week (but it''s still in the same place) and I haven''t said a word to him about it. (Ok random cryptic eye exercises that look like I''m having an eyes only seizure, but he just thinks I''m nuts every once in a while).

The deal is, we are getting married June 1. I am up to my ears in invitations. We have everything, meeting monthly with the minister, his bachelor party is gonna be fun for him, mine too. Sent out the STD''s. So engaged by mutual agreement last June, but both of us wanted to do the proposal thing and were finally able to get the ring. I know how he feels about me but I want to hear it and I don''t want to stuff another envelope without catching a glimpse of sparkly frosting.

The main hurry is that I''m going for the 2nd of 3 two week long business trips on Sunday and I want to have the ring during those 2 weeks away (and I want to show my coworkers who have been happy for me all along).

Yeah the workweek is packed, Yeah he can have his f-ing surprise, but I want it Saturday. Come on short engagements are cool but jeez.

 

[sandia_rose]

Date: 3/4/2008 4:03:23 PM
Author: rob09

I can't believe you ladies are so sneaky ... now I realize to what lengths I will have to go to hide that ring once I get it ... (more men should look into this thread! lol)

Hey, I'M not sneaky! My BF is not in possession of a ring and a proposal is nowhere in sight right now...but if one was:

1) I would want to be totally surprised. My BF knows what I like and I wouldn't want to be involved in any
part of the ring decision. He knows as long as the ring is an asscher or an emerald cut or is vintage/Deco, I'd
be very happy with it.

2) If I suspected that my BF bought a ring, I wouldn't snoop the house. Whenever I stay over his place,
I feel weird going into his dresser drawer to snag a t-shirt to sleep in (even though that's fine with him)!
I am a really big respector of privacy. I went for a manicure with a friend and she asked me to go into
her purse to get the $$ to pay - because her nails were still wet - and I felt weird going into my friend's
purse! I didn't even snoop on my husband when I was married - no going in drawers, wallets, nothing.

3) I have also told mutual friends that if they "know something" - NOT to tell me.

I'm not sneaky! I WANT TO BE SURPRISED!!!

I was previously married and my ex did not surprise me. He insisted that I pick out my own engagement ring or I wasn't getting one, period. I also knew exactly when I was getting it - again, because he came right out and told me. That totally wrecked the experience of a proposal for me, so for once in my life, I'd like the surprise. I'm old-school. If I wanted to know exactly when I was getting a ring and what it looked like, I'd buy it myself. Knowing beforehand, to me, wrecks part of the meaning, too (not to insult anyone who feels differently). I'm also one of the rare people who didn't know what she was having when she was pregnant. My best friend, my ex and my midwife all knew....I told them not to tell me and that I wanted to be surprised.

Bridget in Connecticut.