single girls at reception

[janinegirly]

i have a lot of friends who are single who will be attending the wedding. All of FI''s friends are married or have serious girlfriends (even the divorced ones--it must be so much easier for guys!). I''m inviting my single girlfriends with guests, but most of them are not dating anyone so I think they''re likely to come alone. Should I invite some single guys? I feel bad that they may just be sitting at a table together (about 11 of them!) and no one to dance with..
I''m not that close with my single guy friends anymore (for obvious reasons) so wasn''t planning on inviting them, but not so sure now.

 

[labbielove]

Unless you were to invite them otherwise (sound like you wouldn''t) I would not.
I understand you worrying about them (i have similar concerns about my single 20 something niece/nephew and my older sister) but it is your wedding, not a blind date event!

They will be happy to be there celebrating with you,etc. and besides, when I was single at friends weddings (often), I had more fun dancing with girl/guy friends in a big group instead of one on one anyway- especially if they don''t know them beforehand it would be a bit awkward.

Knowing how much weddings cost, no way.
It is extremely thoughtful of you to invite them ''with guest'' as it is

 

[decodelighted]

It''s probably CHEAPER and MORE FUN to hire a handsome dance instructor or two to attend your reception and get the dancing going!!!!!!!

LOTS of people in the NYC area are doing that now ... even for country weddings! And the single gals LOVE LOVE LOVE it (at least they LOOK like they do in the pictures I''ve seen -- *blush*).

I have to say -- I''ve ATTENDED those weddings where all the girls are single and the guys are married and it is T-E-N-S-E. I remember dancing with some 10 year old boys and wanting to SHOOT MYSELF. GREAT idea to "fix it"!!!!

 

[havernell]

Do most of those 11 single women know at least one or two others in the group? If so, I would guess that they''d be just fine hanging out together for the night. Personally, I''d rather let loose and dance it up with my close girl friends than dance with some guy I''ve just met... Plus, what happens if you invite all these guys but the two groups stay seperate the whole night? You can''t force them to dance together after all. It''s a sweet thought on your part, but I think your girlfriends will be just fine together.

If you want to try to play matchmaker with your girlfriends and some of these guys you know then introduce them before the wedding. Who knows, if things go well maybe a few of them will bring the guy as her guest!

 

[JenStone]

I love Deco''s idea!!! Also, like havernell said, sometimes it''s much more fun to hang out and dance with a group of girls rather than having to worry about guys.

 

[janinegirly]

it''s true that it''s not a blind date event and my girlfriends will probably be just fine dancing with each other or mixing it up with other groups of people.

how about seating though?I dont'' want to have a table full of single girls--and reading through etiquette it says never sit one or 2 single people at a table full of couples. hmm..doesn''t leave me much for options..

 

[Pandora II]

Table plans are one bit where i don''t bother too much about etiquette - yes and this from a girl who consults Debretts Correct Form on a daily basis!

Just seat people with people you think they will have fun with. Certainly don''t worry about trying to do girl, boy, girl, boy if you have odd numbers on a table. I do tend to split couples up - both on the same table but not next to each other, which makes it better if you are mixing in some single people!

 

[Mara]

if the single girls all know each other and are friendly then i would imagine they'd be happier dancing with each other and clustering together than with some random guys...for me personally i wouldn't be that into the whole dance instructor thing because it's a wedding...and more really about the bride and groom and their loved ones celebrating 'with them' kind of thing. but yeah if the girls don't really know each other then it might be awkward and could use some fun icebreakers for dancing possibly, but otherwise i'd say let the girls cluster together and do their own thing, they might just appreciate the time alone to hang out with no pressure (and dish on all the wedding outfits hehee).

 

[laine]

You could also split the single girls into two or three tables (especially if they don''t all know each other), with 4 girls and two couples at a table. That was you wouldn''t have any girls feeling left out at an all couple table or girls feeling funny at the all single table. However, if all 11 girls are close friends (and maybe not so close to others), so ahead and seat them all together, they''ll probably have more fun!

 

[diamondfan]

I agree with Labbie. If you would not have included the single guys, do not do it. You are not turning your wedding into date city. However, if you allow them to come with a guest, then maybe they will include a male pal they like so they are not alone. If they have no one, they can come alone, it is one night of their life and they will be fine I would hope...it is nice of you to worry but to invite with a guest gives them the option, which they might not take.