Snooping

[SeeShell]

Hi everyone!

I was just browsing one of my favorite websites, Post Secret

If you''ve never seen/heard about this site before, people create their own postcards, write down a secret they have, and mail it into the owner of this site. He posts some online, and creates books with them, etc. Submitting secrets appears to be a very freeing experience for a lot of people, and I think it''s really interesting to read this site every week. This week, there was one secret that I think would hit home for many of us in the LIW crowd.

Ring

 

[bubbly1126]

Aww.

 

[honey22]

Ohh! What a humbling post - I feel so dissapointed for this woman. Something just clicked inside and made me realise that if I overthink this engagement thing I too will wreck my own experience. I have been obsessed (!?) looking up my favorite diamond to see if it''s still available, thinking about how and when he will actually do it, and then even thinking when can we have the party, tell the parents, friends etc. Reading that post made me think that if I think it through too much, it won''t be a suprise and fun to think about these things when it actually happens, it will be more of like an anti-climax - ok, he has said the magic words, time to put the plans into action kind of thing!

I am going to make an effort to push it to the back of my mind, enjoy being his partner for now and who knows, maybe it will be my turn sooner than expected!

hang in there everyone!!

 

[MoonWater]

I really don''t get the snooping thing at all. I mean sure, I did it when I was a kid during xmas time, but honestly, it was lame. It really does ruin the experience.

 

[emilina22]

i actually have 2 of his books and they are such great coffee table books, super interesting i love them! i still have one more of them to buy! there are actually some very touching post cards that have been printed and some that really make you tink about things!

 

[amy_dub]

Date: 10/14/2007 10:58:49 PM
Author: MoonWater
I really don''t get the snooping thing at all. I mean sure, I did it when I was a kid during xmas time, but honestly, it was lame. It really does ruin the experience.

I agree with you MoonWater... it seems as you get older, you don''t get surprises like you use to. I hope that when I finally do get engaged, I know absolutely nothing about it. I''ve told FF I don''t want a single person to see my ring, I don''t want anyone to know (but he insists on asking the parents for their permission). I told him I want him to just randomly do it, but not on any type of holiday or significant day, because I want to be totally caught off guard.

We don''t live together and I''m rarely at his house so there''s no way for me to snoop anyway

 

[nessvan12]

I have all the Secret books and enjoy reading the site when it updates every Sunday. I feel sorry for that girl, and I too do not get the snooping thing. Anything worth having is worth waiting for!

 

[louisvgirl]

Great perspective...that will give me second thoughts about snooping

 

[bubbly1126]

Just showed BF that and before I even got done reading it aloud, I think he realized where it was going and he says, "Good, serves that girl right. Some things should really be surprises..." and gives me this look.

LoL. I don''t snoop. I just ask A LOT of questions and bug the crap out of him about presents. Haha.

 

[nebe]

I snooped for my anni earrings and I felt really crappy afterwards, so now I don''t. I''m going to know what my rings looks like (since I''m picking it out,

) but I''m not going to actually SEE it until he proposes.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

My husband is BIG on suprises. Getting them, receiving them, anything having to do with them. My e-ring was not a surprise--he originally wanted it to be, but then decided having my input was really important--but he still wanted the engagement to be. We went on a "surprise" trip and he told every single ticket agent, gate agent and customs agent what was happening, so nobody let me see my ticket and I didn''t know where in the heck we were going until we were literally about an hour away from Paris. I LOVED that it was such a surprise, at any point I could have peeked at the ticket, but didn''t want to ruin what he''d planned and it worked out really well for both of us. He got his surprise and I got a ring I loved.

I feel bad that this girl snooped and is now disappointed that she found the ring, but I hope the engagement is still amazing for her. Maybe one day she''ll laugh about how she snooped for the ring.

I''ve read post secret for several years and love it--I''ve been waiting for him to appear here in Boston and he (finally) is later this month!