Wow... what a great fowum! I was on looking for diamond info and I saw the LIW section!
So - here''s my story in a nutshell...
My BF and I have been together for over 3.5 years. We broke up on our 3 year anniversary when he told me he didn''t know if he could ever get married (mind you, he was the first person to talk about getting married). I didn''t talk to him, text or e-mail for over 3 months. I dated other guys (2 were wanting to get married). We got back together 2 days after Xmas. In our very first conversation, he told me he didn''t mean it when he said he didn''t want to get married. I get that he''s 39 and never married, no kids, never co-habitated.
So... fast forward.... We have been talking about marriage a lot. We know we want to do it in the Bahamas. He knows I won''t give him 3 years again.
This weekend we were out and he started talking about the ring budget and asked me to put together specs for him (after I begged him not to just look at size). Saturday morning I asked him if he really wanted me to write all this down, and he said definitely.
So Saturday night we go out, have fun, have some drinks... He wasn''t platstered, but we were both drunk (no hangovers). He started telling people we are getting married in December in the Bahamas, and then started inviting them to the wedding. He told me I needed to make a guest list, etc. We then negotiated a move-in timeframe (which to me is when we will actually get married) to when my son is a Junior in HS (he is entering his sophmore year).
Sooo.... Monday rolls around and I am on cloud 9, thinking he is finally going to propose, and soon! I got in a pretty bad car accident on the way home from work Monday, so I was down Tuesday. Admittedly, he was great - was glad I wasn''t hurt, met me at the shop my car was towed to, had me drive one of his cars until I got the rental, etc. In my sad state Tuesday night, i asked him if he remembered that he invited people to our Bahamas wedding over the weekend. He says he doesn''t remember. I told him he said December (this is not me asking WHEN - just trying to jog his memory) and he said no.
I was even more upset at that point. I told him he leaves me feeling very confused. I am sure it isn''t intentional, and he apologized, but this is so upsetting. He said it means it''s on his mind, and I should be glad. I just don''t want to get strung along for 3 more years.
I really wish he would just not say anything. I mean, he says he knows I am the one and he definitely wants to marry me, but he forgets the stuff he tells people? That''s borderline cruel.
Thanks for letting me vent.....
Amy
So - here''s my story in a nutshell...
My BF and I have been together for over 3.5 years. We broke up on our 3 year anniversary when he told me he didn''t know if he could ever get married (mind you, he was the first person to talk about getting married). I didn''t talk to him, text or e-mail for over 3 months. I dated other guys (2 were wanting to get married). We got back together 2 days after Xmas. In our very first conversation, he told me he didn''t mean it when he said he didn''t want to get married. I get that he''s 39 and never married, no kids, never co-habitated.
So... fast forward.... We have been talking about marriage a lot. We know we want to do it in the Bahamas. He knows I won''t give him 3 years again.
This weekend we were out and he started talking about the ring budget and asked me to put together specs for him (after I begged him not to just look at size). Saturday morning I asked him if he really wanted me to write all this down, and he said definitely.
So Saturday night we go out, have fun, have some drinks... He wasn''t platstered, but we were both drunk (no hangovers). He started telling people we are getting married in December in the Bahamas, and then started inviting them to the wedding. He told me I needed to make a guest list, etc. We then negotiated a move-in timeframe (which to me is when we will actually get married) to when my son is a Junior in HS (he is entering his sophmore year).
Sooo.... Monday rolls around and I am on cloud 9, thinking he is finally going to propose, and soon! I got in a pretty bad car accident on the way home from work Monday, so I was down Tuesday. Admittedly, he was great - was glad I wasn''t hurt, met me at the shop my car was towed to, had me drive one of his cars until I got the rental, etc. In my sad state Tuesday night, i asked him if he remembered that he invited people to our Bahamas wedding over the weekend. He says he doesn''t remember. I told him he said December (this is not me asking WHEN - just trying to jog his memory) and he said no.
I was even more upset at that point. I told him he leaves me feeling very confused. I am sure it isn''t intentional, and he apologized, but this is so upsetting. He said it means it''s on his mind, and I should be glad. I just don''t want to get strung along for 3 more years.
I really wish he would just not say anything. I mean, he says he knows I am the one and he definitely wants to marry me, but he forgets the stuff he tells people? That''s borderline cruel.
Thanks for letting me vent.....
Amy
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