So does anyone else just KNOW you''re going to cry??

[chickflick]

I'm going to bawl like a baby during our wedding ceremony. I just know it. I tear up just thinking about it, and my brother is walking me down the aisle and he's a total softie so I know he'll be weepy, too, and I can't even think about my mom who is my MOH...

Any tips on how to keep from crying, or should I just let those tears of joy flow?? Forgive me if this is icky, but I don't want a snotty red nose in the pics, and I don't want to have a big honking nose blow in the middle of our vows.

Someone said to look up and breathe deeply and it will stop you from cyring. I hope it works!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Yeah. I posted a thread on this awhile ago called "irrational fear" (I think). I get teary just THINKING about it. I really, really hope I won''t though. I am going to try to think of something else whenever I feel I might lose it.

 

[diamondfan]

Chick flick! I feel your pain! Seriously, I got so choked up that my voice broke on the vows. My husband still (over 15 years later) laughs about it, but he thought it was cute! I think people would find it touching!

 

[jaz464]

I''m worried about it too. I really don''t want to cry and ruin my makeup. Holding my breath when I feel tears come on usually prevents me from crying, though you obviously can''t speak this way

 

[monarch64]

Hmmm, I thought I would be the one crying, but as it turned out, it was my husband who got choked up when I came down the aisle. You can totally read my lips saying "don''t cry!" in the DVD! Funny story: I actually had a choking fit right in the middle of the ceremony (I''d had a cold/flu the week before the wedding and was still a little "phlegmy"), and my dad had to keep popping up to wave the bee that was assaulting me away. It was really quite funny!

I think those two things really kept me from crying, I was so distracted. Just know that you have the rest of your life to cry with your husband and a couple tears or a red nose and puffy eyes can always be airbrushed out of your photos! And it''s nothing a little 5 minute powder and Visine session in the ladies'' room can''t fix right after your ceremony!

 

[LizzieC]

Yes! I''m very worried about this too! When I was a bridesmaid in my sister''s wedding a couple of years ago I pretty much cried non-stop from the second she came into the hall on my dad''s arm, through the whole ceremony & most of the reception... the first dance, dad dance, cake, etc. etc.... I think I was just caught off guard as to how emotional it would all be. So hopefully I''ll be prepared for my own wedding! I''m not any kind of cute when I cry, and we''re paying TOO much for the photographer for me to look all splotchy!

If FI holds it together then I think I''ll be okay... but if he gets choked up, then it''s all over. And vice versa I think!

 

[Mara]

i totally didn't think i would cry at all, i'm sooo not emotional.

i did get a little teary eyed during being walked up the aisle by my dad, everyone is looking at you and you are looking at him and it's just a little overwhelming and 'surreal'...anyway i was telling myself not to cry and blinking madly...

i get up to the altar and then realize i forgot to check my vows and i could only remember disjointed phrases from them. i totally panicked and started BAWLING when they said it was my turn (great, i was first). it was really funny actually but at the time i was totally freaking out. greg was patting me on the back and telling me it was alright. i mumbled what i remembered in between tears and then greg rattled off his TOTALLY EFFORTLESSLY and they were exceptional, really beautiful and from the heart.

the irony is that i was totally on him for weeks going DONT FORGET we have to say something personal in the vows and don't be LAME about it and there i was the forgetful one and he had something so eloquent already written.

go figure!! he has mega points for that one.

hehee...it's a good story for later though.

 

[FireGoddess]

Didn''t think I would cry at all...and made it to the end but the last 2 phrases of the vows...brought on the waterworks.

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 4/24/2006 10:46:43 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
Oh me me me!!!

I start staring at my ring while I''m working and I get teary.. I can''t wait.. I just am so excited about all of it!!

That comes across so clearly and I am enjoying your joy!!! Good luck!

 

[Layne]

I didn''t think I would cry and I did - only walking down the aisle. Honestly, it was less to do with the "oh I''m getting married" and more to do with all the emotions I had dealt with during the days up to that point finally being realized. I took some deep breaths and walked slowly, it passed before I got to the front of the church.

 

[Rebemdee]

Date: 4/24/2006 11:42:35 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 4/24/2006 11:01:33 PM
Author: diamondfan

Date: 4/24/2006 10:46:43 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
Oh me me me!!!

I start staring at my ring while I''m working and I get teary.. I can''t wait.. I just am so excited about all of it!!

That comes across so clearly and I am enjoying your joy!!! Good luck!

lol I know... I know.. I''m such a dork.

SanDiegoLady, I always enjoy reading your posts. You are such a bright soul and so kind to everybody, and your enthusiasm is fantastic. You are going to have a FANTASTIC wedding, despite all you have been through, because your attitude is amazing. Normally I don''t say a whole lot here, but it just struck me today how I''ve never seen a negative post from you. So I don''t think you are a dork, unless you mean it in the "cool" sense of the word!

 

[TravelingGal]

Oh definitely me. I gotta stop thinking about it, because I''ll be working out at the gym and realizing that tears are trickling down my face and everything is blurry. I''m right up there in the "dork" camp! But hey, I''m glad we are all thinking about how much we love our men and that it just pulls such emotional strings. I mean, god, wouldn''t it be horrible if this were a thread about "So does anyone just KNOW you''re going to cry when you see yourself in that loooovely dress?"

(actually, while I don''t think I''d cry when I see myself in the dress, I think my mother will...so I guess it''s all part of the waterworks package!)

 

[Dancing Fire]

my MIL and FIL was crying

but,not from happiness

they were wondering why is their daughter marrying that bum.

 

[peonygirl]

My guess is that I won''t cry because I only cry when sad. . . I''m not sure I''ve ever cried out of joy. I definitely didn''t come close to crying during the proposal. We''ll see though, I may just surprise myself!

 

[laurel_aurelia]

hmm. i always thought i''d cry during the proposal, but i didn''t. i DID cry, however, when i told my mom i was engaged.

my father passed away and thus there are certain times i''m SURE to cry -- when i''m dancing wth my uncle instead of my dad, and mostly -- right BEFORE i walk down the aisle, when i''m with my mom, because she is my rock and it will be really emotional.

i have no idea if i''ll cry during vows but it''s possible. i''m hoping the stress and everyone around me will prevent it from happening! lol

but until then.. USE WATERPROOF MASCARA!

 

[ellaila]

Funny, I was just thinking about this yesterday (not that we even have a date set yet or anything!) ... and yes, I definitely know I will cry -- no doubt about that! I cry at every wedding, no matter whose it is! -- but I''m actually more worried about getting an evil case of the giggles!

 

[SarFarSuperstar]

Hmm..I really hope I don''t cry during the wedding but if the proposal was any indication, no such luck.

I hyperventilated when he proposed. Totally surprised, caught off guard, sobbing hysterically, almost needed a paper bag kind of moment. When he got down on one knee, I yelled, "What are you doing!?" Oh man, I''m such a spaz. I didn''t even say yes for a few minutes and he kept asking, "Are you ok? Did I do it wrong?"

The weird thing is, I don''t freak out under pressure. I''m actually fairly calm and collected during moments of crisis, bleeding, etc. Let''s hope my more rational and graceful side prevails on my wedding day.

 

[laurel_aurelia]

i hit my fiance when he proposed. (not like punched, but slapped his arm i was so shocked.)

 

[regalada]

My hubby kept telling me not to cry during our Vegas wedding, but I did. I thought I''d be ok since it was the two of us and a couple of friends but I broke down and could barely say my vows.

But we had funny moments too. As we tried to repeat our vows after the minister, I started thinking I hope I remember all that she is saying, because she sure is saying a lot! My hubby was thinking the same thing, and there is a hilarious moment on the video when she asked him to say a particularly long line and he paused and looked at her like Boy, that''s a long one! It''s just hilarious.

The other funny moment is when I put his ring on his finger. His nuckles are a lot wider than his fingers so it takes a bit to get his ring on. So I pushed and pushed and pushed and finally just broke into a fit of laughter when he said he''d help me put it on.

For our upcoming wedding, he''s again asking me not to cry, he says I cannot possibly get as emotional because we will be married about 8 months by the time the DW rolls around. But we will have all the people we love there, plus I know I will cry again just thinking how my late dad missed my wedding by a couple of years.

Looking at the Vegas pictures and video, my crying does not make for the most beautiful shots, but it will be a nice memory of how momentous the ceremony was for me, and how I was so happy I had to cry. So if I cry at the DW, it''s ok, no big deal.

 

[lovelylulu]

i''m definately going to cry--i feel like it''s going to happen when i''m looking at my fiancee and saying my vows. it''s just such an important and beautiful moment, i''m certain that i''m going to be overwhelmed by all that emotion.

i''m definately going to be wearing waterproof mascara

 

[nytemist]

I posted earlier but it vanished!!!!!

Laurel- same here. My dad passed last year, so I asked my uncle if he would walk with me so he''s coming up for the wedding. If we do the father/daughter dance, I may get worked up about that.

I think my FI will cry and that might get me going. At both his sister''s weddings, he cried! I was so floored by that. I''m not much of a crier. Childhood injuries, teen angst- didn''t cry much. I didn''t even do much at dad''s funeral, just when they played taps (he was retired military) That sounds so bad!

Who knows? I just might tear up. I knew my proposal was coming at some point after the stone, but when he actually did it(and got choked up himself) and we hugged, it wasn''t until we were walking back to the car that I fell apart. Maybe because he caught me so be surprise.

 

[tanyak]

I sincerely hope I dont'' cry. I hate to cry in public. Afterward, I always feel like an idiot. And I know, your wedding can be different, but I know I''ll beat myself up afterward.

 

[sosst7]

I am glad that I won''t be the only one crying during the ceremony! I am such a sap that I totally know that I will - I cry at movies for pete''s sake! lolololol Whenever I listen to the song that we will have our first dance to (With you by Tony Terry) I already get goosebumps and start tearing up, so I know that I will be bawling. What surprised me is that I didn''t cry when he proposed, of course, I was still half asleep and didn''t know what was going on

 

[AmberWaves]

I get teary now, but it''s not because of the wedding, really. I think about my Dad walking me down the aisle, and I KNOW he''ll be crying, and the thought of my Dad actually handing me off to my fiance just makes me teary. I know it''s going to really hit me then, like I''m no longer just my Daddy''s girl, now I''m MARRIED! I am probably the hugest Daddy''s girl anyone can ever know- I hang out with my Dad more than anyone else, not counting my fiance. I would honestly rather go to the mall and dinner with my Dad than I would a girlfriend. It''s weird, I guess. I cried dropping him off at the airport a week ago- that''s how attached I am!But I also know I''m going to cry during the father/daughter dance, too. I know he''s going to bawl, the song is "Butterfly Kisses" and it was a song that teared him up before, so just imagine how it will be in this context.

 

[SoonIHope]

Oh I am sooooooo crying the whole day. I''m one of those crying at movies that aren''t even that sad kind of people!

Which sucks and makes me feel dumb, but whatever! My nose also turns bright red and runs SO MUCH so I''m not looking forward to that. My fiance is constantly shocked by how much my nose runs when I have a cold/cry because he like NEVER needs a tissue and I go through a box a day when I''m sick. Okay that was more than anyone needs to know sorry.

Also: I want to second Rebemdee''s post about SanDiegoLady! You really are the sweetest person and I''m soooooo excited for your wedding!!!! Did I tell you I teared up when you posted your vows in my "who''s officiating your wedding" thread?

[See, I told you I cry a lot!]

 

[selflove]

Well, unsolicited tears of joy have been welling up in my eyes lately all the time! So while I think I''m pretty stoic, I might cry at the wedding. I know FI might cry; he cried when he proposed and a few other times when he''s been really happy and romantic he''s cried.

My mom''s walking me down the aisle so if she cries I''ll have to try really hard not to cry myself! I cry at everyone else''s wedding''s, even those on TV, but for some reason I don''t think I''m gonna cry at my own. I think I''m just gonna be too self-conscious to have tears.

 

[chickflick]

I have to second everyone, San Diego Lady! As we say in Texas, you are just the sweetest thing, bless your heart! Thanks to everyone, too, for making me feel better about being such a crybaby!

Confession time- I cried at my niece''s graduation ceremony from nursery school. Honestly. Something about those little kids singing Sunday School songs and walking out to Pomp and Circumstance- total Kleenex moment. If I cry at that I have no chance with not crying at my own wedding!

 

[Caribou]

I''m not much of a cryer...well I wasn''t until I got engaged. Since then I find myself watching things like "Whose Wedding Is It Anyway" and I get all choked up while watching these strangers get married.

I think first I will be totally freaked out and nervous to where I''m going to throw up...then I think it will turn into crying especially when I see my mom bawling and my MOH.