My boyfriend and I are talking about getting married eventually. We were looking through my email for something and I said oh! I want to show you something. So i pulled up a solitaire ring I sent my mother with a diamond I liked. He just looked at it and said hmmm.. I'm going to need to educate myself on diamonds before I make a purchase. Then, we were talking about his friend's ring and he said before I get you anything you should be intimately acquainted with my finances. Wha? So... a week later we are sitting down looking at bills and he said here you should probably see this anyway.. so he laid out all his finances including salary, savings, etc. and finally said.... so if I decide to make a large purchase that will deplete the funds significantly. (I was sitting there thinking okay thats out of left field!).
After I take my bar, it will be long distance again and I will miss him like crazy. However, I will not have a job until I find out of i passed my bar. He asked me to move in with him and he'd take care of all finances etc. and at first I thought it was a great idea.... But I'm worried that his parents will think I'm a free loader because I wont be able to help with rent or food. Already, he is taking care of me while I study for the bar. I did take out a loan and i have contributed almost all of it to food and expenses, but I dont think his parents know that... So they must think that I'm sort of taking advantage of him... I haven't met them yet, but already I am worried. I am meeting them in a couple of months. He wants their approval.
So, I told him my concerns and said I had thought that moving in with him until i found a job would be a good idea, but now I just don't think so unless I have a job or we are engaged. I just dont want his parents thinking badly of me and I have a job at home in another state. I would just have to give it up if I were to move in with him. Finally, he said well. let's see. Things will work out, but you do sort of have a point.
and then he said something to the terms of we will work it out. or dont worry it will all work out. Hummm...
What would you do? I will be so sad to go back to long distance with him again and not see him every day or even every week, but right now with my financial instability its better for me to live with my parents. Any thoughts?
After I take my bar, it will be long distance again and I will miss him like crazy. However, I will not have a job until I find out of i passed my bar. He asked me to move in with him and he'd take care of all finances etc. and at first I thought it was a great idea.... But I'm worried that his parents will think I'm a free loader because I wont be able to help with rent or food. Already, he is taking care of me while I study for the bar. I did take out a loan and i have contributed almost all of it to food and expenses, but I dont think his parents know that... So they must think that I'm sort of taking advantage of him... I haven't met them yet, but already I am worried. I am meeting them in a couple of months. He wants their approval.
So, I told him my concerns and said I had thought that moving in with him until i found a job would be a good idea, but now I just don't think so unless I have a job or we are engaged. I just dont want his parents thinking badly of me and I have a job at home in another state. I would just have to give it up if I were to move in with him. Finally, he said well. let's see. Things will work out, but you do sort of have a point.
and then he said something to the terms of we will work it out. or dont worry it will all work out. Hummm...
What would you do? I will be so sad to go back to long distance with him again and not see him every day or even every week, but right now with my financial instability its better for me to live with my parents. Any thoughts?
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