Jewels305
Shiny_Rock
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- May 19, 2007
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There is some news on the LIW front for me. I have been wanting to share for awhile the latest developments, but I keep feeling like it''s not big enough to post about. I''m pretty excited though, so I''ve finally decided to share...
We have been ring shopping 3 times and gone to 4 places in those trips. This past weekend I found a setting that had everything I could want and I love it. So our next step is to get the diamond, which we will be doing through this jeweler. We decided after all of the excitment of the weekend that he should tell his parents that we have been looking at rings so they know that an engagement is around the corner. We sort of felt that because they don''t like surprises, telling them once we are engaged might be too much for them to handle, even though they like me.
We were both a little hestiant about him having this conversation because we didn''t know how it would go, and were afraid that they would say we''re too young. I decided I would tell my parents also, because I like to be equal in our relationships with both sets of parents (even though we are closer with mine). I told my parents first and they were happy for us and excited, so it was great. He then told his mother (his father wasn''t home at the time, and I think he wanted to tell them separately so it would be less intimidating, haha). His mother reacted as well as we could expect, and asked a million questions. He told his dad the next day and got basically the same reaction. So overall, we feel it went well even though they weren''t excited like my parents, they just react differently. I am proud of him for enduring their many questions patiently and letting them do what they needed to in order to process this big news.
Anyway, tonight when we talked I told him that at this point, I really want him to initiate the next step and the extent to which he wants me to be involved in the next step. I think he''s going to want me to be involved in the process of choosing the diamond because he is afraid that he won''t know what he''s doing. I told him that if he wants me to go to the jewler, just invite me, and I would be happy to take a trip there. I just want to make sure that I don''t make him feel like he''s being pushed if he''s not ready to buy it quite yet. I know that he''s ready emotionally because he wouldn''t tell his parents what he did if he wasn''t, but I think parting with the money is difficult for him, and he needs to do it when he is ready.
So that''s the scoop. I am hoping I will have more to share after this weekend, but it is out of my hands now...
We have been ring shopping 3 times and gone to 4 places in those trips. This past weekend I found a setting that had everything I could want and I love it. So our next step is to get the diamond, which we will be doing through this jeweler. We decided after all of the excitment of the weekend that he should tell his parents that we have been looking at rings so they know that an engagement is around the corner. We sort of felt that because they don''t like surprises, telling them once we are engaged might be too much for them to handle, even though they like me.
We were both a little hestiant about him having this conversation because we didn''t know how it would go, and were afraid that they would say we''re too young. I decided I would tell my parents also, because I like to be equal in our relationships with both sets of parents (even though we are closer with mine). I told my parents first and they were happy for us and excited, so it was great. He then told his mother (his father wasn''t home at the time, and I think he wanted to tell them separately so it would be less intimidating, haha). His mother reacted as well as we could expect, and asked a million questions. He told his dad the next day and got basically the same reaction. So overall, we feel it went well even though they weren''t excited like my parents, they just react differently. I am proud of him for enduring their many questions patiently and letting them do what they needed to in order to process this big news.
Anyway, tonight when we talked I told him that at this point, I really want him to initiate the next step and the extent to which he wants me to be involved in the next step. I think he''s going to want me to be involved in the process of choosing the diamond because he is afraid that he won''t know what he''s doing. I told him that if he wants me to go to the jewler, just invite me, and I would be happy to take a trip there. I just want to make sure that I don''t make him feel like he''s being pushed if he''s not ready to buy it quite yet. I know that he''s ready emotionally because he wouldn''t tell his parents what he did if he wasn''t, but I think parting with the money is difficult for him, and he needs to do it when he is ready.
So that''s the scoop. I am hoping I will have more to share after this weekend, but it is out of my hands now...
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