Someone''s comment about my diamond

[fabcrab]

I was having lunch with two of my friends and a girl I''ve met for the first time. My friend commented on my new Tacori halo on how much bigger it looks than my old solitaire. She went on and commented "Diamonds are evil". I understand that Blood Diamond the movie has played a role on this comment but I take a lot of offense when someone calls my ring (a symbol of love from my husband) as evil. UGH thanks for letting me rant.

And this comes a week or so after someone in my work asking whether or not it''s real or not. URGH.

 

[sera]

Ugh.

You know what comment my FI got last week about my diamond? He was telling a coworker about the custom setting being made and the coworker says, "Well, if you ever split up, I''ll buy it from you."

WHAT THE?!

People can say some really dumb things.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

You should remind her how rare "blood diamonds" are. I forgot what the % is but hopefully someone else will chime in. What an annoying comment. She is probably just jealous!

 

[Peepa]

Oh my, how rude! Some folks just say mean things to make you uncomfortable because they are jealous. I say just ignore ''em.

 

[Kaleigh]

That stinks, and also am thinking she''s jealous.

 

[coatimundi_org]

ugh. that''s just jerky. Where are people''s manners?!

 

[poshpepper]

Date: 4/7/2008 5:28:13 PM
Author: Kaleigh
That stinks, and also am thinking she''s jealous.

Ditto Kaleigh and Tacori... sounds like jealousy to me too... I would try to ignore it (although I know how hard it can be) but at least you can come rant to us

 

[Circe]

I take an unholy amount of glee in telling people whose knowledge of the industry is based solely on a single watching of "Blood Diamond" about the Kimberley Process. And Canadian mining practices. And the fact that mine''s from Russia. Petty? Yeah. But maybe they''ll think twice before they make uninformed statements in the future ....

P.S. - Sera, seriously? Ahahahaha. That has to take the cake for Worst Comment EVAH.

 

[elle_chris]

Comments like that really P**S me off.

There''s so much more involed than the miniscule % that are indeed "blood" diamonds. (I''m not making light of those that are)

Think of the people that work with them. How many would be left jobless (and in some countries starving) if the diamond market just ceased to exist. Would your friend find them another job to support themselves and their families? Doubtful.

 

[fabcrab]

Date: 4/7/2008 5:24:47 PM
Author: sera

Ugh.


You know what comment my FI got last week about my diamond? He was telling a coworker about the custom setting being made and the coworker says, ''Well, if you ever split up, I''ll buy it from you.''

WHAT THE?!

People can say some really dumb things.

REALLY?!? The nerve!!! That is seriously just plain wrong!

And it''s always moments like this when my mind goes blank and can''t think of anything witty to say back. Oh well, some people are just not worth it I guess.

 

[iheartscience]

Jealousy is a terrible thing! I personally really enjoy people who base their opinions of a subject on a Hollywood movie...hilarious.

 

[fabcrab]

Thanks guys for making me feel better. I felt just the need to vent since no one I know really understand my obsession about diamonds. It really bothers me that people automatically assume you''re materialistic or money-grubbing when you like sparklies.

 

[diamondfan]

People can be pretty lame. I am sorry you have to cope with it. Just ignore her!

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 4/7/2008 6:58:31 PM
Author: fabcrab
Thanks guys for making me feel better. I felt just the need to vent since no one I know really understand my obsession about diamonds. It really bothers me that people automatically assume you''re materialistic or money-grubbing when you like sparklies.

Well I am materialistic, soooo...they can assume that all they want about me!

 

[Lynn B]

I had two um, *interesting* experiences myself recently...

I was in the lunch line at work and someone behind me said, "Your diamond is so pretty and sparkly. Do you clean it?" I really like this person and I didn''t mean to be rude, but I''m sure I cocked my head and looked at her like she had just grown a 2nd head!!! Not, "How often do you clean it?" or even, "What do you clean it with?" Noooooo, just "Do you clean it?" I finally said, "Oh yeah... every day. Dirty diamonds don''t sparkle!" And she just laughed and laughed over that.

The second one was also at work, and someone I know said, "Oh! I just love your diamond! Then she said, "Hey, Tracy, come and look at this diamond!" So "Tracy" walks over (I don''t know Tracy) and she holds my hand and looks at my diamond and says extremely nonchalantly (like *yawn yawn, ho-hum...*, and one shade shy of bored out of her gourd), "Oh. Uh huh. Yeah. Hm."

I KNOW I looked at her like she was nuts.

People can be funny, alright!!!

 

[akmiss]

Diamonds are not evil - people are!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Siggghhhhh... I am ashamed to admit that in my past, pre-diamond obsession, I did not understand the beauty of diamonds, nor the emotional connection that people feel for diamonds, and I *may* have made comments like the one you experienced

. I said them out of ignorance, a touch of big-mouth-itis, and maybe a little jealousy too... I hope your acquaintance also said what she did out of ignorance, not malicious intent, and hopefully you won''t take it too much to heart.

DD

 

[diamondfan]

Thing, a girl after my own heart!!!

I joke. But I do have a materialistic side. If people in my life (not my closest friends but other pals) knew what I spend on crap a month, stuff I do not need in any way...well, let''s just say I do not talk about it much. I love to shop and love bling too.

I do not love what can happen with diamonds, conflict free are of course my choice. Now that we know what goes on, it makes sense...

But people who are snarky just because they can be get a big thumbs down from me.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 4/7/2008 10:24:01 PM
Author: akmiss
Diamonds are not evil - people are!

DITTO!!!!!!!!! (Don''t blame the diamonds!!!!)

 

[LGK]

Can''t say anything surprises me, what people will say. EVIL DIAMONDS!!! Lol, that is so rude but it does crack me up, it''s so dumb!

I work with antique jewelry and people are ALWAYS asking me unholy weird things about my jewelry. "Is it real?" "What''d you pay for it?" I had one woman get angry that my rings weren''t for sale. That was the most awesomely odd thing I think. She wanted to buy my engagement ring and kept asking "How much?" "Ummmm it''s not for sale, it''s my wedding set." "But how much?" Um, just because I''m standing near jewelry for sale doesn''t mean you can buy mine!

Oh, then there was the woman who serenaded my rings. That was frigging ODD. She was definitely a few fries short of a happy meal, but she kept grabbing my hands and holding them captive. Then, while pinning me there, she decided she had to sing to me because I had such lovely jewelry. It was about a year ago, I can''t remember what I did in response- probably just stared at her with my jaw unhinged in horror. I hate the unasked for hand seizure thing in general but that was the worst ever, she would NOT turn me loose.

 

[CaptAubrey]

Date: 4/7/2008 5:08:45 PM
Author:fabcrab
I was having lunch with two of my friends and a girl I''ve met for the first time. My friend commented on my new Tacori halo on how much bigger it looks than my old solitaire. She went on and commented ''Diamonds are evil''. I understand that Blood Diamond the movie has played a role on this comment but I take a lot of offense when someone calls my ring (a symbol of love from my husband) as evil. UGH thanks for letting me rant.

The next time anyone says something like that, just tell them, "A boycott of African diamonds would cause the only two representative, peaceful democracies in Africa to collapse overnight. Now that would be evil."

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 4/7/2008 11:23:42 PM
Author: diamondfan
Thing, a girl after my own heart!!!


I joke. But I do have a materialistic side. If people in my life (not my closest friends but other pals) knew what I spend on crap a month, stuff I do not need in any way...well, let''s just say I do not talk about it much. I love to shop and love bling too.


I do not love what can happen with diamonds, conflict free are of course my choice. Now that we know what goes on, it makes sense...


But people who are snarky just because they can be get a big thumbs down from me.

I''m with you df-I spend a ridiculous amount of my money on clothes and shoes...I am a bit materialistic, but I like to think I''m not obnoxious about it! I also try to avoid adding up my purchases in my head because I know it''s just too much! But I just love clothes and shoes-having them makes me happy, and fashion is really a hobby of mine. Plus it''s my job so I can''t really avoid it! And hey-at least I get a discount on most of it!

I think most people in the U.S. are materialistic whether they''ll admit it or not, and some get jealous when someone has something they want and don''t have...hence the snarky comment to fabcrab and others about their diamonds! I''ve had my fair share of snarky comments, too, and I''ve had a few comments about blood diamonds, too. I just want to tell people to do their research, because believe it or not, Hollywood movies aren''t usually based on facts! But I''m surprisingly polite in situations like that, so I bite my tongue!

 

[diamondfan]

I think some people have to have their cause du jour. It is PC to say that but if they were offered a diamond something tells me they might not think about it then, but who knows?

I wish I got a discount. I have hubby, the human calculator, adding it all up. I am really bad because I am buying very expensive stuff, and if I am buying a dressy dress I wear it once and want something new for the next party. I also love shoes and bags. Hubby cannot imagine why I need one more (or 10) lipsticks or another purse or shoes or whatever, but I am totally addicted. I do not think I go a day without some kind of shopping for myself, either in a store or on line. It is seriously nutty and the price of things now makes it even worse. Yikes. But I love fashion so much, and love putting things together. How fun that that is what you get paid to do.

 

[Circe]

Date: 4/7/2008 11:38:31 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten

Oh, then there was the woman who serenaded my rings.

This cracks me up, as I have a friend whom I can easily imagine doing this, but only because she does it to ME - I doubt she pulls it on strangers (well, I *hope*). But, yeah, what can I say? Bling makes her happy, and when she''s happy, she sings. Sometimes, she also makes chipmunk noises. I assure you, she''s eminently sane: just very susceptible to outbursts of joy. And, given the grouches occupying the rest of the thread ....

... ah, balance.

 

[sera]

Date: 4/8/2008 3:11:48 AM
Author: Circe

Date: 4/7/2008 11:38:31 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten

Oh, then there was the woman who serenaded my rings.

This cracks me up, as I have a friend whom I can easily imagine doing this, but only because she does it to ME - I doubt she pulls it on strangers (well, I *hope*). But, yeah, what can I say? Bling makes her happy, and when she''s happy, she sings. Sometimes, she also makes chipmunk noises. I assure you, she''s eminently sane: just very susceptible to outbursts of joy. And, given the grouches occupying the rest of the thread ....

... ah, balance.

Oh my goodness... that''s hilarious and disturbing at the same time!

 

[sera]

Date: 4/7/2008 5:46:22 PM
Author: Circe
I take an unholy amount of glee in telling people whose knowledge of the industry is based solely on a single watching of ''Blood Diamond'' about the Kimberley Process. And Canadian mining practices. And the fact that mine''s from Russia. Petty? Yeah. But maybe they''ll think twice before they make uninformed statements in the future ....

P.S. - Sera, seriously? Ahahahaha. That has to take the cake for Worst Comment EVAH.

I''m betting they will continue not even thinking once!

Yeah, I had to ask FI, "She seriously said that?!" Then gave her-via-him a WOTEV look

. At least we can laugh at all the STOOpid comments here and give them a virtual slap upside the head.

 

[Deelight]

Date: 4/7/2008 11:38:31 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
She was definitely a few fries short of a happy meal

LMAO I have never heard that saying before thanks for the giggle

I can''t believe people say such horrible things like others have said jealousy is a mean spirited animal. Just try t shrug it off and be happy you have sparklies beautiful enough to be jealous off

 

[bee*]

Date: 4/7/2008 10:24:01 PM
Author: akmiss
Diamonds are not evil - people are!

double ditto! Some people are just so rude!

 

[Rhea]

Date: 4/7/2008 11:38:31 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
Can't say anything surprises me, what people will say. EVIL DIAMONDS!!! Lol, that is so rude but it does crack me up, it's so dumb!


I work with antique jewelry and people are ALWAYS asking me unholy weird things about my jewelry. 'Is it real?' 'What'd you pay for it?' I had one woman get angry that my rings weren't for sale. That was the most awesomely odd thing I think. She wanted to buy my engagement ring and kept asking 'How much?' 'Ummmm it's not for sale, it's my wedding set.' 'But how much?' Um, just because I'm standing near jewelry for sale doesn't mean you can buy mine!

That's just weird. It's like asking a person working at a clothing store how much they want for their clothing. You know, I should try this! Sometimes I see great shoes on sales people and since they are selling clothing/shoe clearly they should sell the shoes off of their feet to me

I have to wonder what her response would have been if you'd asked to buy this woman's wedding set.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Two ways to deal with snarky comments

:

1. Smile your most fabulous smile and say "Thank you for sharing" (but be sure to say it like you don''t mean it).

2. Smile your most fabulous smile and say "Eat your heart out."