Sooner than I think?

[Dreamgirl]

Ok, this is an update to the post I made last week:
https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/unexpected-huge-progress-yay.86158/

So I finally gave my boyfriend the SA card this weekend. I was going to cross Novo off the card, so I asked him if he would like me to cross that off because she wrote it on there before looking at the other settings. He was looking at it so I asked him "No?" he replies "vo" I didn''t get it at first so I said "No?" he says "vo" and then I got the joke and we started laughing. (that was too cute)

I ended up not crossing it off though. But he knows the other settings so its fine.

I mentioned to him that I knew this wasn''t going to happen anytime soon (I thought we had a timeline) and he replies "How do you know that?!"

I looked at him surprised because we had discussed this in the past. I said "Well I don''t KNOW but....." and he replies to me "Well, you never know...."

I had a huge smile on my face and could feel my heart pounding, my stomach felt funny too and he was smiling at me. I asked him again to repeat what he had just said to me and he smiled again and said "How do you know?" lol

This confused me because when we discussed a timeline of sorts a while back ago, I know I had a "general" idea but now I don''t know!!! What if a proposal is coming SOONER than I thought it was? When we discussed it before, I figured our general timeline was roughly 1.5 to 3 years from now as we are just not "there" yet and I was comfortable with that. Has he thought about it more and came up with his own timeline, I wonder? He is in the process of looking for a better job, so maybe he figures sometime after that? Or maybe he was just teasing me. I asked my Mother about it and she said maybe he was talking about the earrings we looked at and not a ring. She thinks both of us are not ready just yet for an engagement and I thought he and I felt that way too. He didn''t want to get married before 28, I thought he would propose at 28/29. I think Im over-thinking everything, help me not over-think because I can''t do this to myself!

Anyhow, I did tell him that I emailed the SA and she asked for his contact info but that I didn''t give it to her and thought I''d let him know about it. He asked me what info exactly did she want and I said I wasn''t sure so he wants me to send him the email for him to look at. So that went better than I thought it would.

Needless to say, maybe my timeline has changed without knowing it. Maybe he was just saying that to tease me. I don''t know. It was exciting to hear and Im happy about it

but I just feel a little nervous for some reason. I guess because NOW I don''t know when it will happen, or maybe because it just hit me that this may happen sooner than I thought.

 

[KCCutie]

Ah! Boys!

If my SO said anything like that I''d get pretty excited too, but I''d still think maybe he''s just playing with me. I know he''s trying to keep the suspense going but seriously does he know how insane this can make a girl? Obviously not! Try you hardest not to over analyze it for now and if you get to feeling to antsy about it don''t be afraid to talk to him about it again. Your sweetie seems to take it fairly well as long as you give him a rest between chats at least from what you''ve posted so far.

 

[Bliss]

I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU! I know we''re supposed to be voices of reason but this is just SUCH HUGE PROGRESS. I mean, it''s outstanding! And I think it will be sooner than you think! Be patient! The wheels are in motion and this is the first of many steps. But you''ve already got him interested in diamonds, talking timeline, and reaching out to jewelers... the tough part is done! Now you''re just gently guiding him through and checking in... you''re SET!

CONGRATS!!!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

KC- Thank you! He is trying to keep the suspense going. After all, he does want to surprise me! So I was thinking maybe I should calm down. He could just be throwing me off. I will try not to over analyze but since he told me this, its ALL Ive been thinking of and it is driving me nuts. I've got so many scenarios going thru my head. Thanks for your support!!!

Bliss- Ha! Funny I was thinking after he told me all this "Bliss was right, things do move faster" lol I guess even this was huge progress!!! Thank you so much for the encouraging comments! haha, h became interested all on his own after I stopped talking about it. Go figure!

Did you feel at all nervous when you knew it was coming sooner? This isn't a bad thing, right? He could just be pulling my leg and it could still happen sometime around when I figured it would 1.5 to 3 years from now, but Im still suddenly nervous when I "really" think about it. Maybe that is natural. Or maybe it is just from the past couple of weeks events. I mean really, the past 2 weeks have been such a surprise to me and maybe Im just overwhelmed with so many thoughts. Its like a giddy nervousness of sorts.

Ok, I need to breathe......lol

Oh, that reminds me I did say to him "You're just yanking my chain" but he didn't say anything, he just smiled at me.

 

[Bliss]

I think it''ll be way sooner than later. The teasing is a clue, I think! Don''t want to generalize...so close your eyes if you don''t like generalizing! But in my personal experience, guys tend to be DOERS. So once a project starts, the ball gets rolling. And at the end of this project is a sparkly!

Not to get you all riled up, but it''s really incredible how great things are rolling between you two. I''d bet money it''s way sooner than you think.

 

[Bia]

He''s probably thinking what a Tiffany-nutcase you are! But he loves you and he wants you to be happy. I wouldn''t get my hopes up for a ring tomorrow but definitely enjoy knowing that it will likely happen this year. I don''t think my BF will ask me until late summer, maybe even in the fall, but knowing that it is happening is making me crazy with excitement.

I am really happy to see all the progress being made on your end though. You deserve the best of everything!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Bliss- Thank you so much for the kind words! You think it would be sooner?

I guess we will just have to wait and see. I've got to stop thinking so much about my future because then it starts driving me nuts! I need to not worry so much. I better close my eyes!!! lol

Bia- I think he has always thought that about me! haha! If it happened THIS year I would be completely blown away by that because it is completely unexpected. Thank you for your support and kind words as well. I think you deserve the best of everything too girl! You are too kind.

By the way, I still never sent him the email from her that he asked me to send him. I asked him 2-3 times if he wanted the full emails (mine to her, hers to me) and he always says it doesn't matter. I just cant figure out if I want to send him the entire thing as I was going on to the SA about the sizes I tried on, etc.... I don't know what to do about that but Id like to finally send that to him today. Would you send him everything or just her responses?

 

[KCCutie]

I know how you feel when this started happening to me I was so over the moon I could hardly contain myself. You know one day he says "oh I don''t know maybe in 8-12 months" and the next week he says 4 months or less you can''t help but think maybe he''s joking but your heart still races!

Just keep going along like you have been, trying to keep the e-ring talk to a minimum and kinda touch base with him when he brings it up or it''s appropriate. You don''t want him to think you''re not excited about it anymore but I think it means a lot to them to know you trust them to get this done and to do it right. Of course my SO needs a little more proding than most b/c well he just forgets he needs to be thinking about it and I don''t want him to rush into a B&M the day before we move into our home b/c he forgot....but you get the idea.

If it were me I''d just send the original e-mail you got from the SA that asks for his info. That''s really the one he wants to see, and sending him all your responses will just give him the opportunity to read too much into what you said....so just give him what he asked for, no need to give him more.

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Oh, so exciting!
I told you that in the other thread already - I think now that you don''t have the novo-issue anymore and found the ring you both love, I think it might happen sooner as he originally said

I am sure that he is NOT teasing you by telling it might happen sooner - that would be mean and he knows how important it is to you! so, I am convinced it won''t take too long and you''ll be posting beautiful pictures of your tiffany ring...

regarding the e-mails: I would just send him only the first mail where she asks for his contact info. (but do whatever you feel confortable with - as I don''t know what''s written in the other e-mails I''m not a great help on that

)

 

[Dreamgirl]

Because both of you said to just email him what she said, maybe I should do that. I just didnt know if he should see what I had to say about how I now love this ring and why, how I loved the wedding band to go with it, and diamond size preferences about how I didn't like this size but I liked that size. I think he knows these things, but I was curious if I sent this info to him, that he would remember these things (i.e. mainly size preference).

I still didn't understand what kind of info she wanted to store for us. Just contact info or info on the rings we looked at. Because I already told her the sizes I liked, so if she stores that info, I would think she would plug that into his contact info if she collected both.

KC- I know, its so exciting! To think a few months ago he hit me with "Why do you talk about this all the time, your obsessed!" to this?!? Its INSANE I tell you! lol I just cant figure out why I feel nervous about it. But then I was thinking last night that before any major event happens in my life, I tend to get a little nervous or worried sometimes so maybe its just the same. Our original timeline seemed good because we want to be more "set" for life as far as a better jobs etc. Maybe since he finally finished college he has been thinking about it more or something and is possibly changing his mind as far as when he sees this happening. As a woman though, how do you know you are "really" ready for this step? I mean I want to marry him and everything, I just didn't picture it happening sooner than we originally discussed. It was however a generally speaking time. I worry too much about silly things, I need to not worry and I will be fine! lol Obviously if he asked me whenever the time is, Id say yes!

Ms.Dreamy- Oh this makes me so giddy like a school girl! haha! Reading your posts makes me feel like I have butterflies in my stomach. Im so happy we looked together and the Novo issue has ended. I can't believe EVERYONE who has replied thinks he will pop the Q sooner than I originally thought. That means if you ladies think it will happen sooner, then maybe it will! Ahhhhh!

You know whenever it happens either sooner or later, I would for sure post pictures! lol

All of you ladies are so incredibly wonderful and supportive reading my long posts and giving your thoughts. I just love this PS community.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Alright, I thought about it and sent him only her replies. But Im not too sure it makes sense when shes replying to my emails that he didn''t see. In the email to him, I told him that if he wanted to see what I had to say to her, to let me know and Ill send him the whole thing. I sort of feel like maybe I should have sent him the whole thing now though because I hope he doesn''t mis-interpret anything she wrote to me. lol

I checked my sent mail box and it says he read it but he hadn''t said anything to me yet about it. I guess Ill see if he says anything tonight.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Aw, this place is slow today.

So I think I better not say anything to him unless he brings it up first since it was his idea to send him the email. I was thinking on asking him if what I sent was enough (her responses only) but I don't know that I should ask him that.

 

[ringshopper2008]

dreamgirl,
maybe it''s just because it''s a message board and you''re enjoying the conversation, but maybe you don''t need to think about it so much. what if you just kick back & enjoy the ride from here? you''re pretty confident it''s going to happen, shaboy knows what ring to get ... so what else is there to fret about? right?
I think your work is done!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Your right, I don't need to think about it so much. He will tell me if he wants the rest of it. I just needed to hear it from someone else rather than myself.

(Im also very bored at work) lol so my mind wanders. Thanks!

 

[cakeny]

Date: 6/5/2008 3:15:22 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
Your right, I don''t need to think about it so much. He will tell me if he wants the rest of it. I just needed to hear it from someone else rather than myself.

(Im also very bored at work) lol so my mind wanders. Thanks!

It''s harder to wait once you know it IS coming, isn''t it? Hang in there, the day will come!!

 

[purrfectpear]

Unless boyfriend is a clueless tool, I''d say that it''s sometime between soon and a year and a half. I don''t think he would have been so teasing if he was serious about it being 3 years from now.

Or maybe he is a clueless tool

Lord knows, he wouldn''t be the first guy to put his foot in his mouth.

I would put it out of my mind then think how genuinely surprised you will be when it does happen

 

[Dreamgirl]

Well, surely he is not a tool and is quite smart (though sneaky sometimes!) So maybe then it will happen sooner than I thought. I think you are possibly right, why would he say the things he says if it was to happen 3 years from now? Obviously he has put more thought into it than I was originally thinking. Im also now guessing anywhere within a year and a half from now based on all the little things he keeps saying to me.

Of course, I don't want to get my hopes up too high..........

I like the idea of putting it out of my mind so that I will be surprised. If only I could do that!

Thanks

 

[Dreamgirl]

UPDATE:

A few days ago, I told my boyfriend that I have been thinking about the 2 ring settings we looked at in Tiffany's last month and I decided that he has exquisite taste and I would really truly love to have either ring. I told him that I've decided to let him choose which ring one day because I was so impressed on the styles he liked for me, so I know it would be beautiful, I know he wants to surprise me and I think it would be more fun and I would be more surprised if I didn't actually know which one he would get for me. I was so happy we looked together that day, and I had come to these conclusions after thinking about it. I really think I would prefer something that he chooses on his own for me because it would be more of a gift from the heart and I think it would have more meaning because it would be the one he chose just for me. He said "GOOD! Now you don't have to worry anymore." lol He was really surprised I said that and seemed quite happy about it.

I told him, the only thing is that I would love for it to be a certain size and in platinum. lol His reply was "sure...." lol (and he knows I would love to have a Tiffany, and I think he may end up getting a Tiffany one day because he likes those 2 settings so much and now has the SA card!) Oh, then I also mentioned that maybe we could always look again sometime because we only saw 1 RB with tapered baguettes and he didn't say no! Of course, I wont "make" him ever look again. It would all be his doing and not mine. He did say something about how he would maybe "have to see and compare" more sizes on my hand!

I feel much better about the whole thing and all because we looked together and I feel I would honestly rather have something "he" pictures on my hand instead of me telling him which style to get me. He's right, I don't have to worry anymore. About this anyway. lol! And I will try my best not to worry about it any longer. Plus, I think I am now looking forward to what he may choose someday. I love wondering...which one will it be? Or he could discover another one if we visit and look at rings again. Probably not but who knows!? Oh this is too exciting! The wondering!!!!!

 

[KCCutie]

Exciting for sure! I''m so glad you feel more at peace with this now.

To show him you''re totally serious I would try with all your heart not to bring this up again. He has proven to you that he has good taste and you trust him...just remind yourself of that and try to enjoy the ride.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Oh, right! Yes, I plan on not saying anything else. I think I got everything out of my system now that I needed to, I think the situation is in a very good place right now and I don't want to jeopardize that. I'll let him bring up the topic the next time.

Thanks KC!

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Oh, I''m so happy for you! You guys are finally on the same page - yay! hm, tiffany setting with or without baguettes - I love them both

Now you really don''t have to worry anymore. And if he needs your nice little fingers again in the tiffany store for size comparision - HE will ask you! Oh, I''m so excited for you

 

[Bliss]

Oh boy... sounds like you two are getting veeeeerrry cloooooose!

Can I say I told you so?

YAY!

 

[Dreamgirl]

I KNOW!!!!! lol!!! YAY!!!!!!!

They are both sooooo pretty. I noticed the RB with baguettes is pretty much the Tiffany Setting. It still has that knife edge to it. Only difference is that its 4 prongs with baguettes vs 6 prongs without baguettes. OOOOOH I would love either one. Now my only problem is containing all this excitement of....what will he get me, what will he get me!!!!

He once pointed to the RB with pear side stones Tiffany setting (when I was trying to show him settings a while back ago) but didn''t look at it in the store. Maybe he saw it in the store and thought he didn''t like it after all but liked the baguettes instead. Who knows. But that is a lovely setting as well!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 6/11/2008 4:35:54 PM
Author: Bliss
Oh boy... sounds like you two are getting veeeeerrry cloooooose!


Can I say I told you so?

YAY!

Well it sure is something to be excited about isn't it!!!! YAY!

I feel so good about this and I just know he will make the right choice whenever that may be!