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purelily

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Please send dust my way for a job :)

Due to the economic crisis, I was laid off from my internship two months ago. I have sent out over 120 resumes already with only 2 responses for interviews -- but the interviewers decided to go with more qualified applicants. *sigh* I thought that when I passed my bar, I would be able to find an attorney position because I have some pretty solid recommendations. Unfortunately, since I moved to a new state and have no contacts here its not been working so well. Right now, I'm just looking for anything... I have marketing, legal, medical, and customer service experience. I'm considering McDonald's but I won't be able to make up my student loan payments with that hourly... So, i'm on deferral right now.

My SO has been very patient with me and he's been taking care of me while I look, but I feel just awful constantly relying on him. My savings from my past job are almost gone and my deferral is almost up..

*sigh* I think we are getting engaged soon. In fact, my SO told me he's going to do it very soon. In a way, I'm happy he hasn't asked, because I dont want to have to worry about spending money we don't have on a wedding.
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. He has a great job, but I am feeling helpless.

Sorry, everyone. I just needed to vent. Any dust you can send my way would be excellent. Because it seems to work! :)
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Man, that''s tough. I can''t imagine graduating from college and not being able to find a job!

Just keep trying- somebody has got to hire!

Wishing you luck and offering support...
 
Thanks Amanda :) Yah, its kinda a bummer... but i''m sure it''ll get better soon :)

Again, Sorry everyone. Just needed to vent... and get it all said without putting too much extra stress on my so.
 
Lots of dust your way...


This "crisis" is hitting closer and closer to home. I am noticing it all around me, you''re definitely not alone. Keep your chin up
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and stay positive because you will find something.
 
Dust for you!
 
Thank you so much!
Yes, I know...The crisis is affecting a lot of people. Its very scary. I know that others have it a lot worse than I do... so I continue to pray that things will start looking up for everyone :) this board has really been a blessing even if it is just to see how close everyone is :)
 
I''ll be the happiness fairy:
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"Sprinkling dust from way up high
Hoping your dream job soon stops by!"
 
awww yea it''s tough out there. Hang in there and keep looking - try not to get too discouraged.

And let your honey take care of you! There may be a time when he''s going to have to rely on you and no doubt you will be glad to help! In these times you shouldn''t be ashamed to accept a helping hand. It sounds like you are really doing all you can.

And don''t let this stop him from proposing if that''s what he wants to do! Nothin wrong with having an extra long engagement and waiting to set a wedding date till you know when you''ll be able to afford it :)

Good luck!
 
When I graduated there was a bit of a downturn in my area, and I had a hard time getting a job..in any field, let alone one I had experience in. So I understand your stress. However, I know attorney''s will always be needed. It is a field where I do not see the need diminishing. I would keep at it, and if looking for a lower job just to pay the bills, maybe try a paralegal, so that you are still within your field... and maybe can get a foot in the door that way.

Sending lots of dust your way!
~DUST~
*DUST*
!!!DUST!!!
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(((((BIG HUG!))))

You are not the only one, so please do not get down on yourself. I would try tlh''s suggestion of paralegal. That will keep you in the field, and something could open up for you. Have you tried the county Clerk''s office where you are? They may have a spot open up, even if it is part-time.

***DUST***
 
Purelily, you are not alone in this "now what" stage of your life. College is over, but now you''re just floating in the land of unemployement. Many, many, many recent graduates are struggling to find work...and with this scary economic climate, it looks pretty grim. I receive about a dozen new resumes on my desk daily from truly over qualified candidates looking to take positions in reception, or as an underpaid/overworked personal assistant. It''s truly unfortunate that you worked so hard for so long, just to be so completely stuck. But, you have a valuable skill set, and I believe that there is a job out there...maybe not the best job ever...but, you''ll find it. I truthfully believe that.

But, on a really positive note, it sounds like you and your SO are really learning some important lessons about love, commitment, and support. It''s okay to ''let go'' once and awhile and be taken care of. From the sounds of your post, you''re working very hard to make it...and I''m sure you SO appreciates that very much. As far as getting engaged right now...take it one day at a time. Many brides will tell you that there is joy in just being engaged...you certianly don''t have to plan a wedding **right now** if you cannot afford it...or if you cannot wait to get married, you can elope and have an elaborate celebration later on. You have options. But, please, don''t put the wonderful aspects of your life on hold because of the glum ones...
 
purelily, I''m so sorry to hear about your news. I don''t post here normally but I was just taking a look at the other forums and your post struck a chord in me or something and I felt sad after I read it. I hope things get better for you. I would like to offer you some suggestions but I''m not sure if you asked for advice! So if not you can stop reading here! =)

Have you tried networking in your area? many bar associations and clubs offer mentor/mentee programs, take advantage of them and get as many mentors as possible and seek their advice (and possibly a job). Join clubs/associations such as women attorneys association (I made that up but I know they exist). May be this is an opportunity to seek out your dream job. What are you interested in? If you are willing to take a job with McD''s why not take a job as a paralegal/admin support in the industry that you are interested in.
 
That wasn''t a long post at all. You should see the posts I make!
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I hear you on the job thing. My FF has been searching and searching himself with NO LUCK at all. Not even one interview
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I''m sending truck loads of dust your way!!!!!!!!!! Hang in there!!!!!!!!!
 
Sending lots and lots of job dust your way purelily!

I know how tough it is for attorneys out there (well everyone really) because I see many of the people I graduated from law school with still trying to find jobs!
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It sounds like you are doing your best to find a job, but I second the networking thing, it is crucial, get out there, go to bar association events, events hosted by law schools in the area.

Also, I don''t know what market you''re in, but I know that there is pretty high demand in some of the larger markets (NY, Boston, DC, LA) for temporary attorneys. If you are in one of those markets (I don''t know how high demand is in other places) you should look up some of the temp agencies and sign up with them.

Good luck to you, and yeah, I wouldn''t put off an engagement
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, just have a longer one
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Lots of dust for you! I''m in the same situation right now (except I''m not an attorney) and it''s brutal. Have you thought about administrative/secretary type positions? I think that would be a good way to close the gap between now and your next attorney job, because you''d keep your research, writing, and customer service skills fresh.
 

I completely sympathize with you and I want you to know that you''re not alone. My boyfriend is going through the same thing as you. My boyfriend graduated from school in July and he still hasn''t been able to find a permanent job. He has sent out hundreds of applications and has only had a handful of interviews. After the interviews, it seems like they always give the jobs to more qualified applicants. He''s having a really hard time right now and he keeps saying things like, "Why did I even go to college, my degrees are useless". When he says stuff like that it makes me so sad, but I just tell him that eventually he''ll get the perfect job. He joined a temp agency and right now he has a temporary month-long job, but he hasn''t found anything permanent. The agency has lined up another interview for him tomorrow, so hopefully that will work out.



So some possible advice for you would be that maybe you could join a temp agency until you''re able to find something permanent. He joined Apple One and I think that they have offices all over the place. Good luck with your job search.

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Thank you for all of your advice and support everyone! :)
Yes, I''ve been applying to paralegal, legal secretary, and legal assistant positions ;)

I really should try networking... I will definitely look into it.

I have also joined a temp agency, not much going on around there. I know microsoft just laid off 1400 workers. so, economy is pretty tight here and there will be MANY more people looking for jobs.

I''m taking things one step at a time, but, since I''ve been sick for the past few days I promised my SO no job hunting today. <-- he thinks it stresses me out too much :-p

So, i''ll be lurking PS boards
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and napping.
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oh purelily im so sorry for you - this whole thing really sux. dont feel anxious about your engagement - enjoy it because its special regardless
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as for the wedding, you can always delay a little, its not ideal but theres no use putting yourselves under excessive pressure.


*dust**hugs* and more *dust* coming your way from me...
 
Thanks Blackpaw. For your hugs and dust! :)

Everyone's help and support has been really appreciated :) [ETA: It really makes me happy to know I have a place I can vent. and people I can turn to. ]

[ETA: I hope i didn't make things sound bleaker than they really are, but things aren't too bad. Sorry, if I did.] My parents have told me that I can move home any time I want -- my SO said a resounding no. I think i help him keep spending down because I cook most of our meals at home. ( I try to pack him lunch ;) ). I have it a lot better than a lot of people and I continue to feel blessed for having my health and family for support.

I guess its just more the tear in two of my need for independence and responsibility and my inability to quite get there. I know, everything (and I!) will be okay. it'll just take me a longer than others.

I'm not sure if anyone's been reading rockytalky, but my SO and I have been looking into an antique E-ring. I know I don't need to explain myself, but it seemed a little hypocritical to post this post after discussing e-rings :-p

I'm not sure if we are buying right now (this is entirely up to him), but it never hurts to look and bargain hunt. Plus, it keeps my mind off things. Just thought i'd explain in case everyone was wondering.
 
Date: 1/28/2009 12:58:07 PM
Author: purelily
I''m taking things one step at a time, but, since I''ve been sick for the past few days I promised my SO no job hunting today. <-- he thinks it stresses me out too much :-p

So, i''ll be lurking PS boards
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and napping.
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Sometimes you just need a break! Looking for jobs is harder than actually doing work sometimes. I actually got called for an interview on a day that I told myself to take a break from sending out resumes, so maybe it''s like reverse psychology
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I think you are so right MissKitty! :) How did your job interview go? I hope you got it! (Or something better, if it wasn''t exactly what you were looking for)

I''m thinking of doing some chanting and meditation soon which usually makes me feel a lot better. Maybe I should volunteer with an animal shelter or legal aid association. I''ll start looking into doing that while during my day off of resume sending.

I''m very excited now. Thanks everyone! :)
 
I understand how you''re feeling. I was unemployed for 9 months last year. It sucks. I now have a decent job (not what I have my degree in, mind you) and in this economy, that''s about all you can ask for.

I found my job through a temp agency (Kelly Services). I told them I was looking for a temp-to-hire position and they found one for me at an energy company. The great thing about temping is that you get to experience different jobs without actually committing to anything. Even if they can''t find you anything long term, they can always find you something that only lasts a day or two, just to get some money in your pocket. The best thing about where I am now is that it''s a really large company. So even though I don''t have my "dream job," I still have my foot in the door. And maybe someday I can transfer into the PR/Marketing department. These days, you''ve got to start at the bottom and work your way up.

There, I''ll get off my "Temping Rocks" soapbox. Good luck in your job hunt. Sending lots of dust your way!
 
Date: 1/28/2009 1:46:05 PM
Author: purelily
I think you are so right MissKitty! :) How did your job interview go? I hope you got it! (Or something better, if it wasn''t exactly what you were looking for)

I''m thinking of doing some chanting and meditation soon which usually makes me feel a lot better. Maybe I should volunteer with an animal shelter or legal aid association. I''ll start looking into doing that while during my day off of resume sending.

I''m very excited now. Thanks everyone! :)
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I think it went well! They said they''ll be making a decision this week, so I have my fingers crossed.

Volunteering is always a good idea. Especially if you end up taking on a non-attorney job, volunteer experience with legal aid is a really solid way to bolster your resume while doing a service to your community. I have a friend who did this; he worked as an accountant for a while after he passed the bar with no job prospects, and his legal aid volunteering experience not only got him contacts that led to a job, but also showed that he was truly passionate about his career.
 
GOOD LUCK, MissKitty ! I''ll be rooting for you over here!
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I feel ya purelily, I was in the exact same situation, EXACT!
We moved out to colorado and I got job, then got laid off and spent 3 months sending out what felt like a million applications. I too was told the job went to more qualified applicants
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which I HATED! Then about a week ago I got an interview and a job! I couldn''t believe it but it actually happened! I was to the point of working at mcdonalds too but I waited it out and something good came my way :) I hope the same happens for you too. *hug*
 
DEFINITELY work that networking - seriously, people are almost always happy to talk about themselves and their jobs, and you never know when a given connection might lead to an opportunity.
 
Have you tried offering to work for someone for free for a while - I''ve done that twice now (it was better than sitting at home watching TV and feeling miserable) and both times I was then offered permanent contracts by the companies.
 
Thanks for your advice pandora. Yes, actually, I was working for a company for five months for free before I realized that they were just constantly hiring free interns without actually wanting to ever hire them. I did get a recommendation though :)

I am also currently working with my friend''s company and promoting her album.

I just met with my old boss and she is planning on putting me in touch with a few people who may point me in the right direction.
 
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