STD wording for tiny wedding

[luvthemstrawberries]

I'm doing a small family-only wedding in January, and I wanted to see how you guys think this wording works for a Save the Date. I know it's not even really necessary to send one, least of all this late in the game, but I think my grandparents will really enjoy getting one, so I'm just going to send it to everyone (all 9 people, 5 STD's total

).


Please save the date

for the intimate wedding of

Sarah & Jason

January 8, 2010

Biltmore Estate
Asheville, NC

Formal invitation to follow

(maybe a website)


I know the setup is pretty normal, but I wanted to somehow convey the small size of it, which is why I inserted "intimate." But I don't know if it sounds strange in there or not. Any suggestions are fine.

My mom asked about taking the "&" sign out and using "and" but I kind of like it how it is. Thoughts?

I got a pack of blank invitations from Swoozies here in town that I'm going to try to print them on - this is what they look like, only the cardstock is actually a darker shade of ivory instead of white - it's actually a very elegant color combination in person:

 

[SassyB]

Love it! STD''s are less formal than the invitation, so I think you can use the "&" if you want.
I love the card! I''m having a black and white wedding (this saturday!!!) so I''m a little biased

 

[mayachel]

I see nothing wrong with "intimate" and I love the detail of the card. HOWEVER, it seems like you have all the info that would be on the invitation...so I''m wondering about leaving off the estate part and just putting Ashville, NC. I see the STD as being the first impression, useful for people who need to think about travel and literally saving the date and watching the mail for the real deal invite.

 

[trillionaire]

The Biltmore Estate?!?!!

Lucky lady! How Posh!

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Date: 8/18/2009 11:54:56 AM
Author: SassyB
Love it! STD''s are less formal than the invitation, so I think you can use the ''&'' if you want.
I love the card! I''m having a black and white wedding (this saturday!!!) so I''m a little biased

Wow I bet the black and white will be beautiful!! Thanks SassyB!

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Date: 8/18/2009 12:12:18 PM
Author: mayachel
I see nothing wrong with ''intimate'' and I love the detail of the card. HOWEVER, it seems like you have all the info that would be on the invitation...so I''m wondering about leaving off the estate part and just putting Ashville, NC. I see the STD as being the first impression, useful for people who need to think about travel and literally saving the date and watching the mail for the real deal invite.

That''s very true, I haven''t really thought of that mayachel - good point! Yeah the only thing really missing is the time of day, and the wording pertaining to my parents inviting... well, and the reply card. Hmm... yeah I might consider taking Biltmore off there. Thank you for the input!! It''s very appreciated!

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Date: 8/18/2009 12:54:32 PM
Author: trillionaire
The Biltmore Estate?!?!!

Lucky lady! How Posh!

Haha, yeah we just decided it for real last week, and we're finalizing the "official" part of it now! Hehe I wouldn't exactly call us "posh" people by any means

, we're about as average as it gets - but it's such a nice place, and a great deal for what we'll be getting.

Aren't you in NC too? Or am I making that up?

 

[Dogmom]

How wonderful, Biltmore! I love it, and your STD design. I need to make a trip to Swoozies!

 

[lilylover]

I think your wording and the design is great! I agree that you may want to leave out the location, since you will be putting that on the invite.

 

[katamari]

Just my thoughts, but I like "private" in this instance better than "intimate" because, to me, you could still have an "intimate" ceremony with 40-50 people, you know? I am just thinking that you send one to your grandparents, a cousin or something sees it might and be more entitled to an invitation to an intimate ceremony, but not a private one. There will never be perfect wording, unfortunately, and I have definitely over thought this as you know.

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Dogmom - Thanks! Haha yeah, Swoozie's is awesome! I didn't even know about till my mom took me to look for a bridal shower invitation we were throwing for my cousin.

lilylover - Thanks! I'll keep that in mind.

katamari - Thanks so much for chiming in! You make a good point. I'm going to think on it for a while. I just didn't know how "private" was going to come across either - it certainly does convey the situation to others who aren't invited, if they were to happen to see it. But to the people getting it, I can't decide if "private" sounds sort of like kids-in-a-secret-club sort of thing, like we're making it even more obvious to them that we're not inviting other people they know (cousins, aunts, uncles, etc.). Yeah unfortunately there isn't any perfect way to do that - I'm sure you've been through plenty of wording back-and-forth decisions also. Did you send out a STD for either of your events? If you did, I'd love to know how you worded them, if you don't mind sharing.

(Because we are planning to have a party when we get back as well, more like a month or so later, but I'd like to send out STD for that also.)

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Well, this is it! (please ignore the camera shadow... and the yuckiness that happens around the wording when you size down these photos...)

I really appreciate all the input!!

I did think about taking off Biltmore and just saying Asheville, but I decided that I wanted it to be known, since it''s a special place. If it was just at a random place in the city, I''d leave that information off. But I wanted them to go ahead and know that it was at Biltmore.

I also gave a lot of thought to the private vs. intimate thing. My mom said that when she hears intimate, she thinks of lingerie and "intimate" apparel type stuff - that''s what comes to her mind, which I sort of understand. She actually asked me to look them up in the dictionary. And "intimate" actually doesn''t even mention anything like that - it mentions things like cozy, warm, friendly, close, thorough, etc. And "private" is actually defined as exclusive, or intending something to be only for a certain group. Which is sort of true in this case, but I didn''t want other people to see this and think that I was purposefully being exclusive and leaving them out. So in the end, FI and I talked it over too, and we liked "intimate" better, mainly since it isn''t conveying that we''re trying to exclude certain people, which we''re not. We just don''t want a huge wedding ceremony - we want it to be close and personal. So hopefully this will go over ok. Haha I know it''s WAY overthinking it anyway. Oh well.

 

[katamari]

These look wonderful!

I had to google your venue (couldn''t help myself) and the black and white damask fits perfectly!

I hear you on overthinking the wording. It will happen with the invites, too. I never really thought about "private" having a negative connotation, but when I thought about it, it really could.

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Date: 8/20/2009 12:39:45 PM
Author: katamari
These look wonderful!

I had to google your venue (couldn''t help myself) and the black and white damask fits perfectly!

I hear you on overthinking the wording. It will happen with the invites, too. I never really thought about ''private'' having a negative connotation, but when I thought about it, it really could.

Thank you katamari!! I love them too - they turned out quite well! Even FI likes them! Yes, Biltmore is such an elegant place. I was so pleased with how easy it was to just find that cardstock - I even took FI with me, and he helped and everything. You could almost say he picked them, because out of the 3 or 4 I was ok with, he chose these. Haha, yay for him!

Yeah, honestly, private vs. intimate REALLY didn''t matter that much. I don''t think ANYONE who receives these is going to actually pay attention to the connotation of the words - the main point is the date, and I think they''ll set it aside after that. When you get down to it, either of the words could convey negative feelings towards people - it honestly would depend on how the person reading it perceives it. And I''ve learned (slowly, unfortunately) that I can''t prepare ahead of time for the ways people are going to react to what I say, either in person or in writing, because I''ve been totally taken off guard way to many times, especially lately in regards to wedding things - mine and other people''s, haha. Anyway... the wording I''ll probably wrestle with the most will be the STD''s and invitations for the home reception. Which will be coming along soon!

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Oh, and katamari - I''ll be sure to post lots of pictures of the wedding and such, so you can get a much better idea of what Biltmore''s actually like other than just on the website! The website is helpful, but doesn''t truly show the beauty of all the grounds and the many places to go on the estate. Haha, I can''t wait to share my own pictures, in return for all the time I''ve spent oogling and enjoying all the lovely wedding photos on PS already!!

If I can figure out a good way to resize photos at home, I can post some pictures from our wedding tour last month in my other thread - I''ll try that tonight!

 

[elrohwen]

I like how you worded it!

But I have to say, I must''ve missed some posts because I had no idea you were doing a small wedding at the Biltmore. That''s so awesome! Can''t wait to see your pics.

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Date: 8/20/2009 3:24:34 PM
Author: elrohwen
I like how you worded it!

But I have to say, I must've missed some posts because I had no idea you were doing a small wedding at the Biltmore. That's so awesome! Can't wait to see your pics.

Thanks elrohwen!

Oh no problem, I've been badly MIA for a while, trying to make it back here more often. I only made a thread this past week about how we finally chose a place and date to get married - this is it: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/i-have-a-wedding-date.123032/ I know very well how easy it is to miss the threads around here, haha, then they get buried forever. I have to go back through my posts to get updates on the threads I've posted in, because I can never remember them all!

I can't wait to do some pictures too!!!