stressed and becoming impatient
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wakingdreams53
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*DUST*
This may seem to be a very anti-LIW sentiment, but this is the man you're going to spend the rest of your life with. It's incredible that you're so certain that he's the one. There's already an unconscious engagement, you're just waiting for the beautiful proposal and ring.
Not to say that those things don't matter, but in the great scheme of things, you're so incredibly lucky already! Patience is a virtue, but love is not. Bask in the almost-engaged glory, because these are the last moments you'll ever be someones "girl friend" !
It's kind of like kids wanting to be a "double digit," when really, you're only a single digit for 9 years of your life, then you're a double for 90!
As the great Wayne Dyer would say, "Just be."
You'll be engaged soon and before you know it, you'll find all of this pre-engaged anxiety a thing of the past. Perhaps you'll even laugh about it.
Good luck Rose Dust!!
This may seem to be a very anti-LIW sentiment, but this is the man you're going to spend the rest of your life with. It's incredible that you're so certain that he's the one. There's already an unconscious engagement, you're just waiting for the beautiful proposal and ring.
Not to say that those things don't matter, but in the great scheme of things, you're so incredibly lucky already! Patience is a virtue, but love is not. Bask in the almost-engaged glory, because these are the last moments you'll ever be someones "girl friend" !
It's kind of like kids wanting to be a "double digit," when really, you're only a single digit for 9 years of your life, then you're a double for 90!
As the great Wayne Dyer would say, "Just be."
You'll be engaged soon and before you know it, you'll find all of this pre-engaged anxiety a thing of the past. Perhaps you'll even laugh about it.
Good luck Rose Dust!!
nicoleben
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maebelle
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Ugh, I feel your pain!
With having one engagement and one wedding happen in the last week, the topic of engagement has come up more often than normal. SO said two days ago he wants to wait "a long time" before getting married. I think he's trying to throw me off (he's also mentioned going ring shopping) but... its not what a girl wants to hear!
heh, We'll get through, but it doesn't mean it isn't hard
With having one engagement and one wedding happen in the last week, the topic of engagement has come up more often than normal. SO said two days ago he wants to wait "a long time" before getting married. I think he's trying to throw me off (he's also mentioned going ring shopping) but... its not what a girl wants to hear!
heh, We'll get through, but it doesn't mean it isn't hard
To pass the time I've been thinking of what I'd want for the wedding, and for the most part I don't involve him at this point but I want to know what he thinks about color schemes. Well that got me in trouble this past weekend when I was telling him about some color combinations that were on my mind, well he snapped and got angry at me for ruining the fun of proposing and wedding planning. So needless to stay tensions are pretty high....
So now I'm just trying to keep my cool and my thoughts on planning away from him. Better to just wait to get his opinion than risk another incident like that again.
So now I'm just trying to keep my cool and my thoughts on planning away from him. Better to just wait to get his opinion than risk another incident like that again.
Seattle SC
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I'm right there with you!
I try to not bring anything "wedding" up to the BF for periods of time, in an attempt to not drive him crazy..though it doesn't always work. We always have a good laugh whenever the "window shopping" Coor's commercial comes on TV though.
It helps to keep yourself distracted with other things, though I don't think posting all the time on here would be too helpful! Maybe something that takes your mind off anything wedding related..this time of year can certainly be tough!
I try to not bring anything "wedding" up to the BF for periods of time, in an attempt to not drive him crazy..though it doesn't always work. We always have a good laugh whenever the "window shopping" Coor's commercial comes on TV though.
It helps to keep yourself distracted with other things, though I don't think posting all the time on here would be too helpful! Maybe something that takes your mind off anything wedding related..this time of year can certainly be tough!
peach_tea_for_me
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I was just at that point last week. Feeling like WHEEEENNNNNNN will he finally do this? I was secretly very cranky about it. Then he proposed Thursday and I thought, wow, that anxiety and impatience was for nothing! When you do get engaged, there is nothing that feels like this. It will happen and you every frustrated bone in your body seems silly in comparison. Hang in there...it's coming!
titian23
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I completely understand your pain. Every special occasion that comes up I think - OK maybe this is it! He's just gone back to his last year at University so we are long distance (again) for the next 9 months and I'm going to see him on my birthday. I've really been hoping it will be then but the other day he said to me " I thought I knew what I was getting you for your birthday but I changed my mind, I saw something yesterday that's perfect!" I think he thought he was being sweet, letting me know that he is putting thought into my gift. Unfortunately all I thought was - sigh, guess it's not going to be at my birthday then. Now I'm hoping for Christmas LOL 
Hang in there - it's coming!
Hang in there - it's coming!
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