Stressed and sad...

[Melibk]

So my wedding is August 4, and planning things were going well, but this year has just been awful. I mean a handful of unfortunate things happened this year. I have been trying to deal with it, but this last thing just is not goign to be easy.

My sister, maid of honor, who is 15 years old, was diagnosed with epilepsy this month, and she is giong through so much trying tp find the right medicine. NOt to mention my poor mom, who is trying to help with the wedding, but now is trying to deal with neurologists, etc.

I just don''t know what to do now. THe wedding seems so trivial now, and I feel bad askiig my mom for help, but I really need help, so I just keep trying to do it on my own or have my Future MIL help me.

I jsut feel so bad for my sister and mom. I think it is just such bad timing for a wedding.

Has anyone dealt with epilepsy or know someone? We need help... WE have no clue. No one in our family has ever had it or anything like it.

Any help or support would be great.

 

[luckystar112]

I don''t know much about epilepsy, but I''m sorry your family is going through that right now!

Are you having a bridal party that you could delegate some of the responsibilities to? Would you FH be able to take some of the load off of your back?

I know that it may seem overbearing right now, but your sister will be fine. I know enough about epilepsy that it is not the absolute worst thing that can happen to you. It''s still new, but your sister will be fine! I would go ahead with the wedding, and explain to other''s close to you that you are going to need some more help in these final months.

 

[monarch64]

Sorry to hear you''re sad and stressed, mel. Actually my dog has epilepsy, and I grew up with a few people who were epileptic. Once your sis finds the right medication she''ll be just fine. It''s SO not the worst thing in the world, I promise. And you know, it seems like there never is a perfect time to have a wedding, there is always something going on whether it''s family related or work related or whatever. You''ll all get through the wedding and everything will be ok.

 

[Kaleigh]

Finding the right medicine is key. I had a seizure many years ago after an illness. They diagnosed me as having Epilepsy, but it was a one time thing for me. Thank goodness. Did this come out of the blue, how many seizures has she had. The treatment today is so much better than it was when I had my seizure. I know it''s a very scary thing, so I feel for your sister and your family. With the right medicine, she shoud do very well.

 

[beachbound]

Sorry to hear this. At least they know about this and it can be dealt with. Everything will work out; it always does. In the meantime, do what you can yourself and have anyone that you can help you out!!! Don''t let it all get you down, stay positive and try not to stress!!

 

[sumbride]

My family has been having a very rough year too and we''re looking at the wedding as the "happy thing" to get us all through it. Maybe if you look at it as the dose of positivity, it will help? We can''t live our lives surrounded by sadness without having something to make it better.

Like others have said, Epilepsy, while difficult and inconvenient, is not something to fear. Is there an Epilepsy foundation that can offer education and maybe support groups? Sometimes talking to other people that have it can help with getting your mind around it.