Sweetest thing?

[AmberWaves]

Hey guys (gals)...

Trying to cheer myself up here... What''s the sweetest thing your SO, husband, FH has done, said or showed you? Mine is this: I have a very harsh allergy to sun and Aleve (I''m a mess), on my birthday last year, I went to see the Incredibles at a special theater in L.A. with my family, BF was coaching a game so would drive up and meet us after the game. When I got to my aunt''s house, I was getting another of my freakin'' migraines. I took some aleve since I was weighing the options, brain numbing headache which causes me to lose most of my motor functions (no joke), or the allergic reaction. Aleve was all my aunt had, and I needed it ASAP). I took the Aleve and what do you know? Later, my hands started reacting- when I have this reaction, my hands (this is gross now) start to turn into huge blisters, all the fingers, the palms, even the wrists. So I can''t hold things, or do anything they hurt so bad. There is nothing I can do for it at all. So when we got home, I called in sick to work for a few days, and my boyfriend took such good care of me. After only a year together, just after moving in together a month before- he treated me like a princess, not a freak. He gave me baths, and washed my hair, made my dinner, fed me.. After that, I realized he''s the perfect man ever.

He also makes sure I have a steady diet of Excedrin.

 

[MissAva]

Oh that is quite sweet.
I think the most unexpected romantic thing V has ever done was a while ago, but I still sigh and get happy when I think about it. I was in Nashville visiting someone and V was in Northern NJ. I was not in TN of my own accord and was miserable and wanted to be in NJ with him and some of our other friends. I called him at about 10pm that night, he drove without sleeping to TN, and then took be back to NJ. He held my hand and just smiled at me the whole ride back up there.
He is always there when I need him.

 

[SoonIHope]

hehehe, that is such an incredibly cute story Amber!!!!!

But I sure am glad he keeps Excedrin around for the future! That''s awful about your allergies...but I agree, when my boyfriend is taking care of me when I''m sick and look awful is one of the times I feel closest to him. It''s easy to like people when they''re all dressed up and acting pleasant, but when you STILL stick around and love the person and take care of them when they''re a mess it really feels great.

I''ll try to come up with a good "sweetest moment" in a minute, but gotta do work now...

 

[SoonIHope]

okay work can wait a minute...

Mata, your story reminded me of when we were in college, and my spring break was the week directly after his, so we were both going to be travelling that weekend and not get to see each other in the middle. He was in Montreal (about 3 hours away from his school, which was about 3 more hours away from mine) and we talked on the phone and just agreed that we wouldn''t be able to see each other until the weekend after the weekend I got back from my spring break. So the Friday night before I''m going to leave, he calls me and is like "come downstairs." And I had no idea what he was talking about, but finally I went, and there he was! He had convinced his friends to head home 3 days early, then immediately gotten on the bus as soon as he got home so we could spend that one night together! I still had a plane to catch the next morning, so we didn''t get to see each other that much, but it just meant soooooooooo much to me that he went to all that trouble to surprise me just so we didn''t have to go another 2 weeks without seeing each other.

 

[AmberWaves]

Oh Matadora, that's so sweet. I love when he takes care of me. My allergy to the sun results in huge red welts all over my face, I told him last time it happened, "Now I know you love me". The whole week I was out with my burn he bought me all the goodies I liked, let me sleep in his bed (I wasn't living with him yet) and came with me to all the doctors appointments to figure out what my diagnosis was.. When we thought it was lupus, and the doctor said he'd call back with the test results, Paul told me every day I had to wait that I'd be fine, and it's nothing, don't worry. He looked up everything about lupus he could find, and made sure I knew the survival rates. When we found out that it wasn't lupus, but it was something the specialists couldn't figure out, he was supportive and help my hand through my biopsy, as well. He's a keeper. As long as I keep myself lathered in special sunscreen I have to get imported from Canada, I'm okay. I have to watch my skin for signs of cancer in the future though, for some reason my skin is more susceptible to burns and all that- my skin has no defense against it. But I'm not an albino, what gives? This kind of stuff makes you realize what you have.

Albicocca, that is so so kind of him!! See? There are tons of great men out there. And it looks like we have a few.

 

[caligal]

Great thread Amber- love the stories ladies! Here''s mine: For my birthday (this is 1 month into us dating), he came over and made me pancakes with strawberries for breakfast- then took me to LA to see Hairspray and an italian dinner- then we came back to my place and I opened my present (tahitian pearl necklace and matching earrings). Then he told me he was in love with me!

 

[AmberWaves]

Ya know, guys, it''s so funny that all of your stories are so sweet and about all good stuff, and mine are about being super crappy looking and miserable. Why does he put up with me? Who just happens to be sick again!!

 

[caligal]

Amber- I think it is great he does all this! Luckily I haven''t been that sick during our courtship- just little stuff here and there.

 

[Angel7]

My BF does so many thoughtful things it''s hard to pinpoint just one.
You all had such great stories, very sweet.

I think mine fall along the, he took care of me lines too.
I had ankle surgery and he was over every day helping me with stuff, helping me get around, putting up with my bad attitude, etc. Or just seeing the way he "handles" and acts with my family. He doesn''t get frustrated like I do and he is just so charming with everyone.
Or little things like when he told me he didn''t want to sell his truck, I said why it''s old you want a new one and he said, "Yea, but we had our first kiss in there." Ahhhh.

So sweet!

 

[Erin]

We had just starting dating and I was living in Chicago by myself (no roommates) for the first time - which nearly depleted me of any 'extra' cash. My parents were coming up that weekend to meet him and see the new place. I forgot to take into consideration that it was also the first time I had carpet instead of all hardwood and my rottweiler had shed ALL OVER my furniture, the carpet - it was EVERYWHERE. I called him that Saturday morning begging to borrow his full sized upright because my little dirt devil was only going to handle the furniture and it probaly wasn't going to hold the charge that long anyway.

So he shows up at my door with the his nice vacuum - specially designed for pet hair and allergens and the place looked fantastic. We all went out to lunch. My parents fell in love with him, too. The days over and we go back to my place. I said here's your vacuum back - thanks so much for letting me use it. He said, that's not my vacuum it's yours. I bought it for you on the way over here.

 

[AChiOAlumna]

Your story reminds me of how my DH & I became more than friends.

When we first met, my whole family was living in England, while I was back in California. I had a small work-related get together at my place and one of the women brought her 1-1/2 year-old son without any notice. Little did anyone realize that this kid had the Chicken Pox!! I had been exposed to the CP many times as a child, but never contracted the disease. That same night, I had met my DH for the very first time.

We slowly became friends and had gone out on a lunch date. He even worked at Disneyland and got me in for free one day. However, 2 weeks to the day after that "party," I woke up with a terrible rash all over my torso! Yep....Chicken Pox!!! I had no one to take care of me and I was confined to a 500 square-foot Bachelorette Pad/apartment for 2 weeks! My family was still in England and I was all alone. Most of my friends had either never had CP or couldn''t remember their history for CP so stayed away as a precaution!!!

My DH-to-be (who I''d only known for 2 weeks at this point) took care of me. He put calamine lotion on my back, arms, and face...he went grocery shopping for me...he brought me videos and puzzles to occupy my time. All-in-all, with the exception of work and sleep, he never left my side. Knowing this man had seen me at my worst, how could I ever live without him???

 

[SeattleSparkle]

So I have a couple of stories, one that feels like ancient history and one from September...

First the most recent:

In September, my boyfriend and I took a trip to NYC. It was the first vistit for the both of us and the first long extended trip we''ve ever taken together as well. Well, I love to shop (actually he loves to shop even more than me!) so I was in heaven. However as the week progressed, I started getting more and more pain in my shoulders. (I have really retarded shoulders that for some reason stop working when they feel like it, to the point that I can''t even lift my arms up above my head.) By midweek I was pretty much paralyzed from using my arms at all. I couldn''t sleep, and I was miserable. I was bound and determined to not let it ruin our trip though, but I couldn''t even carry my purse I was in so much pain (which you have to have to shop right?) So, I asked my bf to carry it for me. Oh, man, you would of thought I asked him to kill a puppy or something. He said absolutely not. I wanted to cry. I wouldn''t ask him to do it unless I was desperate and I had definitely gotten to that point. So we walked into, what? Our fourth H&M and he bought a few things. As we were leaving the store, he takes me aside, opens up the bag, and says, "Alright, put it in." YAY! He carried my purse and the rest of my bags for most of the rest of the trip!! So sweet.

Okay, and now a story straight out of the movies:

A little background first, my bf and I met in the Greek System. His fraternity house was across the alley from my sorority. We had been dating a month (after being "just friends" for 6 months prior.) Our 1 month anniversary was just like any other day for me, I went to school, came home and studied, and decided to take a nap (in my room that I shared with 8 other people that faced the alley.) As I started to wake up, there were a bunch of girls in my room and said, "Hun, you might want to look out the window." I get up off the futon, turn around, and find a one story high banner hanging on my bfs 2nd-3rd story that says, "____, its been one perfect month. XOXO, _______" in my favorite colors blue and yellow.

I was stunned. Wow. I was the talk of all the girls and was told how lucky I am (even by other houses that share the alley).


I still am lucky...

 

[snuga]

Wow, I don''t think I can pick just one. My boyfriend always does things that surprises me, like just last weekend I was in a bad mood and was getting ready for bed in his bathroom and feeling quite grumpy. When I got out and was ready for bed, there he was standing with a buoquet of lilies (my favorite) he had all the candles in his room lit and the lights low. He gave me a massage until I fell asleep. It was so sweet.

One of the things he has done which tops the list is him convincing his friend to drive up to my school in the middle of the night (I''m talking leaving at midnight and getting to my apartment around 5-6 in the morning) because I was having a panic attack. He was so sweet and I know that it was an inconvenience for him and his friend, but he did it anyways.

I guess we''re all pretty lucky to have such great guys!

 

[Rhapsody]

My boyfriend was always at his best when it was finals time for me. I would inevitably stress myself out so bad I''d get sick, so the friday before finals week he would give me a package with new hello kitty pens and pencils, cold medicine and cough drops and peanut butter M&Ms which for some reason I only ever wanted when I had exams. He''d stay up with me all night studying and drive me to my tests so I wouldn''t have to worry about that and after my last test he''d take me out to dinner and then go to Dave and Busters to play video games and skeeball and he''d pick me out a prize at the end of the night. My last semester of classes he played skeeball until he won enough tickets to get me this 3 foot tall Wish Bear (children of the 80s rejoice!). He even gave up his beloved laptop for me to write my final thesis on because mine kept crapping out. I think he viewed this as the ultimate sacrifice for him

 

[regalada]

I graduated from grad school at the end of August, and my closest friends and family came to celebrate with me and my fiance in Ohio, where I attended grad school but left four years ago. My fiance videotaped the entire graduation weekend, from the breakfasts to getting ready in the hotel room to the actual ceremony.

I left on a two-week graduation trip to Europe with a friend the day after graduation. When my friend and I returned, FI picked us up from the airport, cooked us dinner and asked us if we wanted to watch a movie. We were both dead tired but he insisted so much we gave in. So we sat on the couch and he played the DVD and it was the graduation video, edited into a beautiful movie with credits and all. The best part is that he set the footage of a little campus tour I gave him (of the dorm and the apartment where I used to live, my department at school and the places where I used to work) to The Beatles'' "In my Life" below:

There are places I’ll remember
All my life though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I’ve loved them all

But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more.

I was literally in tears two minutes into the video

. My friend was speechless

. It turned out he worked the entire two weeks I was gone editing the raw footage into the video, getting the right music to go with it, so that he could surprise me the day I returned from the trip.

We got engaged a month and a half after that and, boy, did I feel like the luckiest girl in the world

.

 

[anchor31]

My boyfriend has done so many sweet things for me I can''t even pick one!

One time I will always remember was even before we started dating. We''d met once and he calls me the day after I had a huge fight with my father and I was very upset. He was in-between jobs at the time and he drove up to see me at school fourty-five minutes away from where he lives. We just sat outside and talked and he went back home when I had to go back to class. Right then I knew he was a keeper!

And of course there was last term, when he took a week off from work when he finished his school, and came to spend the week with me at my campus, 6 hours away from Montréal...

He never asked me not to leave so far away for school, never asked me to come back. He even told me I was not to come back for him and jeopardise my education under any circumstances. He supports me and encourages me, and it''s truly wonderful. He knows how important this is for me and wants what is best for me.

He''s the one for me, no doubt about that.

 

[sparkly_stars]

I LOVE this topic, I was procrastinatin last night when I had to write a report and I so much wanted to read every single post.
Well, I did today.. and I loved the stories.

Starset Princess, I especially liked yours BECAUSE it seemed like such a simple story until the end, and BAM! he bought you a special vacuuM! I was like awee!! haha.
But I''m a true romantic, so every story made my day brighter!!


I can''t really even think of a story.. but the one that comes to mind is when we celebrated our one year anniversary and he had packed a bag of clothes and said he had a surprise.. we drove to the local jeweler where he let me pick whatever I wanted(within reason haha) and I got a brand new half set channel setting diamond band, he was then very secretive about where we were going... he drove us to a lovely hotel in which he got the "expensive suit" with the jacuzzi right next to the bed etc... and had candles and flower peddals set everywhere. We went out for a really nice meal.. all in all it was a great night (I had worked ALL day though, so I fell asleep a little TOO early.. but we had a great time)
I kind of enjoy the "little" things he does more though, like he gets me glasses of 7up and puts ice in it(I drink everything with ice), or he will pick me up pizza pops and lemon tarts on his way to my house because they are my favorite.. he is just a very kind person.
i love him *awe*

 

[IndiBlue]

I LOVE finding the little notes that my boyfriend leaves all over the house.

Yesterday, I found, I love you carved in the butter. Today''s my birthday so when I got out the shower, the fogged mirror said, Happy Birthday!

Aren''t boys great!?!

 

[MINE!!]

When Hubby and I were dating, my daughter got really sick one day and needed medcation. So I bought her presecription and brought them home. (DH was not living with me.. he lived across town) But she had a hard time swallowing the pills and needed to get the liquid form. BUt, at the time, I had no moeny to pay for them. I do not mean that I had no cash and needed to run to the bank, or that I was not getting paid till Thursday and had to write a check.. I mean, that I had just put the last 25$ I had in her last prescription and food was getting low (and the food bank was already closed) and light bills were threatening to turn off... It was hard time for me. But I am a proud person. She just kept getting sicker and sicker and DH called me to check on her and I was just hysterical cause I felt so helpless and just did not know what to do. Pawn shops were closed and I ripped through everything looking for just SOME sort of change. So at 1:30 in the morning he shows up at my door step with her perscription that he picked up from the pharmacy 20 minutes from where he lived. He said "I just could not let our little girl get any sicker and could not let her mommy feel any worse." I think that was the moment that I just knew that he was the person that was meant to be a family with.

It was awesome.

 

[Caribou]

What a great thread....I feel love all around.

Let me think...I have a great boyfriend, he''s very good to me (brings me flowers all the time, putting up with my whining, spoiling me) it''s hard to pinpoint one thing.....I guess the one thing I will always be grateful for is how he was in the beginning of our relationship. We actually met summer of ''04 but we both had broken up with EX''s a few months before. I wasn''t ready for a realtionship but we went out on a date and talked about our EX''s the whole time. Making for a great date

LOL. I told him I wasn''t ready for a relationship but wanted to be friends, he agreed. We talked once in a while after that but never saw each other. Then 6 months later we went out on our second date.

I still didn''t think I wanted to get involved with him for a couple reason (trust issues with men (not him), age difference, etc), so I told him that we can be friends and just see where things go. He was willing. About a month later, I told him I didn''t want him to date anyone else, even though I wasn''t sure that I wanted to be with him I just didn''t want to the competition. I thought it was a very selfish thing of me to ask but he told me he didn''t plan on it, nevering asking the same thing of me (which I wasn''t and wouldn''t). For the next 3 months he was so patient with me, putting up with my freak outs and my being warm one minute and cool the next. I think because he was so patient with me it helped us form a strong friendship, as well as, a strong relationship which is what I needed. I never imagined that when we met 2 summers ago that we would be where we are today and it''s all because of his patiences and belief in us.

 

[pebbles]

My hubby leaves notes all over too.

He gets up earlier than me so when I come downstairs with the kids it''s nice to see a note from him on the counter. Even if it says "please pick up my stuff from the cleaners", it always has a smiley face and a heart.

This sounds gross, but one thing I always remember is when I was pregnant I had the flu really bad. One night I was up at 2am totally sick. I was 8 months along so you can imagine how hard it was for me to thow up into the toilet (yuck!) He woke up came into the bathroom with me and rubbed my back and held my hair back out of my face while I was sick. He''s the kind of guy that gets really squeemish too so for him to do that was a big thing.

 

[MissAva]

This was such a great idea for a thread!

for Amber Waves!

 

[Lorelei]

I think the sweetest thing my hubby did was to make me a special bench for mixing animal feeds in my feed room. I have back problems and the bending was making it worse, out he went and designed and made this special bench just for me. I was very touched that he thought of doing this for me

 

[AmberWaves]

Ya know, I forgot one thing, too.. When we first dated in December of ''97 I came down with the flu, which spread to my lungs (I am such a sickly girl!!) and he was my boss at the time at the Jamba Juice. Well, because I was sick and we didn''t have anyone to cover my shifts at work, he worked mine and his, for two weeks straight. I couldn''t help it, I was barely conscious. He said he did it for the money, and then said, well, actually, I wanted to make sure everything was okay for you... So cute! You guys all have such cutes stories! Some of them make me wish my boyfriend was creative, too!

 

[snogirl17]

like lots of ladies on here.. he is soo sweet and does lots of little things...

it was my birthday and he took me on a surprise weekend.. all he told me was what to pack... sooo off we were... it was winter so i knew it revolved around snowboarding(one of our favorite activites).. we got to the hotel and he told me to stay in the car.. soo i did... he came back out after about 20 mins and we were off... he took me to christmas mountin and we were going to go on a private horse and sleigh ride... to a little cottage for a fire and hot apple cider. needless to say that didnt happen becuase it was colder out about 10 degrees they didnt want to bring the horses out... soo he was soo bummed. so we went back to the hotel and he made me wait outside again... he ran inside and came to get me about 10 mins later.. when i walked in the door there were rose petals everywhere and candles lit.. with a rose pillow on the bed with a note from him.. of course being a girl i saved everything... he is always super thoughtful!

plus to my friends... we all gathered for new years at our home before going bowling.. one of my friends was not feeling well and had a sore throat.. her bf didnt want to stop and get any cough drops.. sooo on the way to the bowling alley..jesse stopped for her and picked some up.. he is always thinking of others... what a sweetie!

 

[Kit]

What a wonderful thread.

MY BF is my rock and my best friend. When my dad had a nervous breakdown several Christmases ago, BF was such a support system. We had only been dating for like 8 months, at that point long distance only. He literally rearranged his holiday schedule, cancelled plans with his family. I completely fell apart, I cried endlessly on his shoulder, he stayed up with me at night, took me to the hospital with my family, was by my side for weeks, basically did anything I asked of him. And all with such a wonderful giving attitude, like it was no problem at all.

When I moved in with him many states away from all my friends and any family, I was traumatized and exhausted on moving day. He tucked me into bed and then stayed up super late, unloading the moving truck all by himself and bringing my boxes and belongings into storage and into the apartment, so I wouldn''t have to do it at all the next day.

He is out with friends tonight and just called me to tell me, I am the most important thing in his life and never to forget that. Granted, he told me many people had been buying him drinks

But still...what a sweetie. I love him to pieces!

 

[monarch64]

I think I''m a little late getting to this thread, I read through it a couple days ago when first posted and couldn''t think of a "sweetest thing!" Not because my DH never does sweet things, but because I guess he''s so good to me that not one thing stuck out in my mind, except for one I started to post but figured would bum everyone out! No, you''re not going to pry it from my dead body! Anyway, after two years of marriage we''ve been going through some rough times lately and he decided we needed a romantic weekend getaway, so we''re going downtown (Chicago) this coming weekend. We met there, I moved up here from 3 hours away in Indy to be with him, and it is very special to us. That''s not the sweet thing, though! The sweet thing is, that he is a list-writer. A constant list-writer. He doesn''t use a planner, although he has a briefcase and all that and is a very organized person at work. At home, however, he makes little lists of household things on notecard, which he leaves on the coffee table at night after he goes to bed. A few nights ago, I was up after he was (as usual) and I saw a little pile of these notecards with lists on them, which I decided to peruse in case I could help out! One of the notecards was regarding this coming weekend...it said "arrange limo service to and from house to Marriott Mag. Mile", then "arrange flowers in room", then "reserve dinner at Tavern on Rush", and so on...I was so mad at myself for being nosy, when I only meant to help! I never brought it up two days ago, after I had seen the list, but last night he informed me he would b wearing a suit and tie to dinner Saturday night. Now I have to figure out what to wear that evening on such short notice! Lol, men don''t think of these things far enough in advance! I guess my point is the sweetest thing he''s done for me now is plan this whole weekend and try to surprise me with his best ideas to make it romantic for me! Bless his little pea-pickin'' heart, as my mother says!

 

[nytemist]

Sorry to say, BF is not veyr much the romantic. He does treat me to dinner sometimes. The sweetest thing he has done, that blew me away, was sending me flowers. A couple of years ago, I went to NY for the weekend. He had to work that Saturday, so I went alone. It was our anniversary weekend as well. That Saturday morning at the hotel, I get a call from the front desk, saying I have a delivery. I was like "what? Sure it''s for me?" Knock on my door, I look through the peephole and see nothing but roses. I open the door and a staff member hands them to me saying they just came for me. He included a very heart-felt note saying how important I was and such. I sat in shock staring at them for about a half hour.

 

[AmberWaves]

It''s amazing what a bunch of flowers will do for you, isn''t it? I love getting flowers (as long as they aren''t the 7 11 variety of green carnations!

 

[SoonIHope]

Speaking of flowers, I just realized I didn''t write about the cute thing my boyfriend did a couple days ago!

We live (together) in an apartment (so the mailboxes are all together on the first floor). I always check the mail when I get home from work, but that''s always later than he gets home (my commute is 3 times as long

) so about half the time he has already gotten the mail. But he doesn''t care enough about it to commit to checking it every day (and he works from home fairly often), so I still am in the habit of checking it every single day no matter what, even though it is often nothing and if it IS anything it is either a credit card offer or a bill. So never anything fun. (This is a long prelude, sorry!)

So one day as I was approaching the mailbox thinking all bitterly about how the mail is never fun, I thought what would be the most fun thing that could be in a mailbox? And I decided a single rose, that he would just put there when he got home from work, knowing that I always check the mail afterwards. So I started thinking ooh that would be cute, I hope he does that. But then I realized after a couple days of it not happening, hey, he is NEVER going to come to this conclusion himself.

So I just told him that that was something that would be cute if he was ever interested. And he laughed at me.

And I thought that was that.

So a couple months pass and I''ve just completely forgotten about this idea, and I''m coming home in the nasty cold, checking the mail just in case, and THERE WAS A SINGLE RED ROSE INSIDE!!!!!

It like tooooooooootally made my day, and I ran up the stairs all super super excited, and then inside waiting for me was the rest of the dozen! It wasn''t for any reason or anything, he just remembered that I''d said that once a long time ago so he felt like surprising me.

I got a good one!