T-minus 5 weeks and counting

[Rhapsody]

My ring has now been sitting on the bookshelf next to the TV for 10 weeks. The last week or so I have gone crazy, I''ve been bugging my boyfriend about it all the time and I''m starting to feel like such a harpy. My boyfriend has told me I will have it no later than our 7th anniversary, which is the middle of May, but I can''t help but feel annoyed, frustrated and disappointed because I was supposed to have the ring before the end of 2005! Argh, it makes me want to send hate mail to Tacori.

My ring has been ready since Feb 4. My boyfriend knew when it would be ready. What I am not sure of is why he didn''t start to work on proposal plan B (after the original plan was ruined by the ring being made wrong) as soon as he knew plan A wouldn''t fly? I can''t help feeling hurt that he hasn''t put more effort into getting this done in a more timely manner.

I just realized the other day that my diamond was purchased 2 weeks shy of a year ago. Although my "official" waiting started a year and a half ago at Christmas time when he promised me we''d be engaged by New Years 2006 having the diamond in the house really made me crazy. And now having the whole ring sitting 10 feet from me is driving me insane!

I still haven''t peeked though.

I keep going back and looking at the pictures I took of the diamond. I miss the little bugger!

Sorry for the rant, I already told my boyfriend how distraught I am over the whole situation but I just need some support and sympathy from people who really understand. He falls into the category of men who think "she knows its coming, why is she still so crazy?" I know the ladies here understand how frustrating it all is. Thanks for listening!

 

[jesterjigger]

OMG...I can''t imagine how hard it must be waiting for it to happen with the ring there and waiting! If my bf knows what''s good for him I won''t know if the ring is in the apt because I would not be able to handle waiting for ten weeks...I applaud your patience and wish you luck in waiting for May, if it comes to that.

 

[sk8rjen]

Rhapsody, I really hate this for you! 10 weeks of watching it when you should have had it by now just doesn''t seem fair at all. I may have said ro done someting really mean by now if it were me, so you are showing great restrain! Hang in there, the end of this wait is near...

jen

 

[Blenheim]

I can''t believe that the diamond was purchased almost a year ago! This has to be so incredibly frustrating. I''m really rooting for you. It seems like it shouldn''t be too much longer!

By the way, what does "the little bugger" look like?

 

[Rhapsody]

Thanks for the support ladies!

The last 6 months have been stupidly frustrating. Granted, a good deal of this is my fault. My boyfriend and I are both sentimental, and I didn''t really want an "engagement ring" unless it actually came at the time he proposed. I want to keep the ring he gives me at that moment the way it is forever. There will be many other rings but this one will stay as it is

So we decided we wanted to wait to be "engaged" until the ring was done. And between financial problems (running our car off the road in a snow storm) and problems with Tacori (they changed the setting I wanted but denied it and told me I was crazy) getting this ring has been quite an ordeal.

After Christmas 2004 when we set our original deadline I started looking for stones and found the PERFECT one in February. I sent it to my boyfriend and he said ok, but it would take probably a month before he had the money to buy it. Well of course it was gone when he went to actually hit the purchase button.

A few months later we had some massive car troubles and it wiped out half our ring fund along with our "car repair" fund. When the stone we bought popped up in April my boyfriend jumped on it so it wouldn''t sell from under us again. So he showed me the diamond in the 10 day return window to make sure I liked it and looked so sad to tell me he couldn''t afford the setting right now. It was too sad to imagine my poor little diamond in a box in the dark so I begged and he decided to let me set it in a temp setting and wear it as a graduation present

I''ll attach pictures of the old ring below.

So apparently the 3rd tim was a charm with Tacori, after ordering the ring in October we finally got it done right in Feb. Since then my boyfriend has been apparently working on something (he told me it would take him 8 months to source parts for the proposal which apparently wasn''t a joke

) while my ring sits on the shelf. I wouldn''t have wanetd to know when it was ready either, but I had to look at the setting to make sure it was right.

I''m really very happy that he wanted to do something special and I''m beyond excited to see what it is he''s working on, but ya know when he sits there playing video games for 4 hours I can''t help but think "shouldn''t you be working on my present buster!"

Why are the last 5 weeks exponentially harder than the 2 years leading up to that point? Oi. We''ll just have to wait and see what he has planned I guess. Thanks again for your support everyone!

 

[firebirdgold]

JEEZ!
Ok, warning: This probably is unhelpful and won''t make you feel better.

That proposal of his had better be news-worthy and eye-popping to be worth this kind of wait! I''d be absolutely furious if my guy sat on the ring for that long! Having the ring sitting by the tv for ten weeks is just cruel torture, and I''m surprised it''s not covered under the Geneva conventions! (Obviously written by men). I''d have completely lost it such a long time ago and accused him of getting cold feet and of just generally being mean.

I''m very impressed at how well you''ve handled the delay.

You are a saint for being so understanding and being patient just so he can pull off his ideal ''dream'' proposal. If it were me, I''d be thinking: he''d d@mn well better be as patient, understanding, and supportive when I start getting obsessed about how the chair covers won''t match the bm''s dresses!

sorry, need more caffeine and chocolate.

Anyway, you have our support and sympathy!

 

[ilovesparkles]

OMG my BF would nt be breathing if he did this to me. My only question is why didn''t he just hide it after you made sure it was perfect? Why put it out in plain sight for you to stare at every torturous day???? AGH! We are here for you!

 

[Rhapsody]

I try to keep in mind that this is not just about me, and I need to be mindful of what he wants too. I did have complete and total control of picking the ring so I guess it''s only fair that he gets to do his thing by making the proposal exactly the way he wants

As I said, not too long after we picked up the ring I asked him if he had any proposal ideas and he told me he had a plan but it was going to take a while. I asked how long was "a while" and he told me no later than our anniversary, so I knew from the beginning that I was in for a wait.

He didn''t hide it because some how our 700 sqft living space is like a freaking black hole and things just get sucked up and we have no idea where they go. I don''t understand it, but I have lost so many things randomly and they don''t show up again for months and months. I think having it hidden might actually make it even harder for me, I would feel like it''s a game and my OCD would kick in until I found it

Although it''s hard to have it sitting there something about it is oddly comforting as well.

Indie (I like the new name btw

), I think he''s getting very worried that the longer this takes the more my expectations will go up. He has a problem with underestimating how long things take to finish, so I don''t think he intended to have me wait this long but once he started his plan he didn''t want to back out. As I type he''s sitting in the other room working on what ever it is he''s making. I am SOOO curious. I''m actually really glad he''s doing this, it gives me a surprise to look forward to and something that really reflects him since I picked the ring out on my own.

 

[Rhapsody]

So my boyfriend was in the other room working on my "present" as he calls it. After a few hours he walks in where i was, holding a piece of plastic, paper sized, folded up accordian style like a paper fan looking sad saying "I broke it", the little fan had gotten a hole when he folded it. He also asked what kind of paints I had and said he'd have to go to the store before he could finsih it since he needed acrylic paint and I only had watercolours and oils.

Ok ladies, what in the world requires a plasticy paper fan and acrylic paint? Lets put our thinking caps on!

 

[Blenheim]

My thinking cap isn''t really helping on this one.

Unless... he decided to try to do random things around the house in the name of working on the "present," merely to confuse you?

 

[Rhapsody]

Date: 4/17/2006 1:59:26 PM
Author: Blenheim
Unless... he decided to try to do random things around the house in the name of working on the ''present,'' merely to confuse you?

He knows better than to just walk into the other room and stare at the wall to make me think he''s doing something

He;s not the type to wait for a specific date or anything, so I''m pretty sure he wont wait beyond the time it takes him to finish this.

All I can gather is that it''s something "arty" since he keeps pulling out all the paints and lining pens and it has some sort of functionality, which apparently isn''t working out the way he intended. The only hint he would give me is that it''s not working properly because things that should be straight aren''t perfectly straight

I have no idea.

I think we''re looking at about 2 more weeks wait though

I have his credit card, I think I need to go buy myself something to distract me from the wait

 

[princessv]

Date: 4/17/2006 5:19:24 PM
Author: Rhapsody

Date: 4/17/2006 1:59:26 PM
Author: Blenheim
Unless... he decided to try to do random things around the house in the name of working on the ''present,'' merely to confuse you?

He knows better than to just walk into the other room and stare at the wall to make me think he''s doing something

He;s not the type to wait for a specific date or anything, so I''m pretty sure he wont wait beyond the time it takes him to finish this.

All I can gather is that it''s something ''arty'' since he keeps pulling out all the paints and lining pens and it has some sort of functionality, which apparently isn''t working out the way he intended. The only hint he would give me is that it''s not working properly because things that should be straight aren''t perfectly straight

I have no idea.

I think we''re looking at about 2 more weeks wait though

I have his credit card, I think I need to go buy myself something to distract me from the wait

Diamond studs?! That''s what I recommend