take me off the list!!!!!

[leoslove730]

No, I haven''t gotten engaged, but I''ve decided that I am also not a LIW anymore either. Not that all of you ladies aren''t completely awesome (because you all are!), I''ve just opened my eyes to my current situation, and realized that I am not really a LIW. (I know that I haven''t posted much, but I''ve lurked for a while.)

Anyways, my boyfriend and I celebrated our 2 1/2 year anniversary just yesterday, when it dawned on me - holy cow, we''ve only been dating for a lot shorter time than I thought, and I recognized that my anixety I''ve felt about not being engaged yet wasn''t reflecting off of my own wants and needs, but rather off of friends and family members who had recently taken the plunge, society, having a "mid-20''s" crises (OMG I''m gonna be 26 and still no ring!!!), and my never-dying little girl desires of having the most magical wedding ever... and soon! LOL

I love my boyfriend to death. He is the only man that I have ever dated that makes me feel the way that I do when I am with him. He is absolutely amazing, and I know that he''s the one. But I''m not ready to take the plunge yet, financially and emotionally. I am so happy with the way we are right now and who we have grown into as a couple, and I still want some more time to enjoy that time that will be gone once that ring hits my finger and wedding plans must be made, which don''t get me wrong, I look forward to that day, but I love the calmness of who we are right now. I''m still in school, my boyfriend is new in his career - good things are worth waiting for, and I know that neither one of us are going anywhere. When the time comes, it will be the perfect time for both of us. Right now, I''m just going to enjoy the ride.

I wish all of you ladies luck with your future engagements and will keep you all in my prayers (that your men pop that question already!).

 

[KimberlyH]

leo,

What an insightful realization! Good for you for being so self-aware...it''s not easy to do when you''re surrounded by pressure. Your post brought a huge smile to my face. I love peple who can relish in the now! It really is an amazing place to be.

There is a Jimmy Buffett song that describes how you''re feeling that I adore:

LOVE THE NOW
Jimmy Buffett & Carrie Fisher
It''s the reason for livin''
That''s what I''m givin''
I don''t need a history lesson
To tell my why
I mean I''m in no hurry
To hustle and scurry
There''s so much to see
And life ain''t gonna
Pass me by
Tomorrow''s right around the corner
I''ll get there somehow
But I''m stuck in meantime
And I Love The Now
CHORUS
I Love The Now
(All the faces and places)
I Love The Now
(All the rats and the races)
It''s the only place I''ve ever been
It''s the only way that I know how
Don''t talk about your superstitions
Don''t talk about your cats meow
But don''t talk about tomorrow tonight
I Love The Now
It''s true we''ve got problems
How do we solve them
Better break out your thinkin''cap
And your old dunce cone
Searchin for answers like interpretive dancers
She asks me for reasons
Then tells me to wait for the tone
The whole damn world''s gone crazy
The moon is jumping over the cow
How can you help
But not love the now
CHORUS
I Love The Now
(All the ranting and raving)
I Love The Now
(All the cussin'' and cravin'')
It''s the only mess I''ve ever seen
It''s the only place where I know how
Don''t talk about your futuristic
don''t talk about your "thee''s" and "thou''s"
Don''t talk about tomorrow tonight
I Love The Now

INSTRUMENTAL

Sittin'' on g
Waitin'' on o
I''m exactly where
I want to go
CHORUS
I Love The Now
(All the pain and the pleasure)
I love the now
(All the blood and the treasure)
It''s the only circus that I know
It''s the only ring where I''m allowed
Talk about a standing ovation
Everybody take a bow
But don''t talk about tomorrow tonight
I Love The Now

 

[NYCsparkle]

it WILL happen when the time is right and you are smart to enjoy yourselves as a couple just the way you are. a lot of people put unnecessary strain on their relationships agonizing over the when and the ring. you 2 will grow together happily, because you are focusing on whats important---the relationship, not the symbol of it. enjoy...love is great the way it is!!!

 

[bee*]

fair play to you leo for coming to that decision. It definitely sounds like you''re doing the right thing for yourself and your ff

 

[ChargerGrrl]

Leo, you''re one smart gal!
Live in the moment and the future will take care of itself.

 

[kcoursolle]

Date: 4/26/2007 12:14:34 PM
Author: ChargerGrrl
Leo, you''re one smart gal!
Live in the moment and the future will take care of itself.

Great advice charger! Leo, enjoy your man and your life!!!

 

[BigSista]

You''re a very smart girl! Be yourself and don''t fold to the pressures of society. And BTW, there are lot''s of girls in thier mid 30''s that are not tripping out that they are not married. The 20''s are sooo much fun! Enjoy them and when the time is right, it''ll happen one day. We have other things we need to focus on that are muhc more important in life.

 

[kohdy]

What a wonderful attitude you have! You are definitely very mature for your age and I get a feeling that you''ll find happiness in every situation in your life! You''re so right about wanting to enjoy your relationship with your boyfriend as it is now. Why should you change anything when things are perfect the way they are? Like you said, good things are worth waiting for. Congratulations on your celebration of your life with a very special man of yours!