The Knot is HORRIBLE

[blondie23]

i posted this in the hangout section but it might fit better here....not sure

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I''ve been a lurker on this site for over a year and just recently got engaged. My fiance and I have decided on a destination wedding in either Mexico or Hawaii. After looking at mara''s post about hawaii and how she found her vendors through the knot, i created an account to see if i could find some good tips.

Little did I know that some of the girls on the Knot are MEAN and RUDE. They make comments to posters that are so out of line i couldn''t believe it! I was too afraid to even post in fear of getting a verbal beating.

I don''t post often, actually hardly at all, but I have never seen people act like this on PS like they did on the Knot. This forum is great!!!

AND, Mara''s posts were much more helpful than anything I found on the Knot.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I hate the knot. I''ve experienced the same thing you did. The catty remarks weren''t directed at me, but at other people who posted totally innocuous questions. I was disgusted. I only read the message boards for my state (RI) which seem to be better that the main boards but still. I think we have a nice group of people on here who are in the planning or post wedding stages. I like asking questions here.
And in addition, the knot perpetuates bad etiquette and inacurate planing and budgeting information.

 

[labbielove]

i agree,
although i''ve gotten great advice on my local board, my 9/07 "club" board, and to some extent the fall weddings board.
but whatever you do, don''t go to the etiquette board (ironic, isn''t it?)

but i did end up buying some great placecard holders from another knottie and we love them.

 

[Independent Gal]

I don't know much about the knot, but I do know that I am endlessly touched by the way the ladies (and guys!) here at PS give their time to help each other and the total strangers who pop up, support each other, cheer each other on and advise each other. Here we are from all over the world, very well off and struggling to make ends meet, younger and older, all kinds of religions, colours, and ethnicities, different professions, outlooks, etc., and the ladies here are respectful, helpful, and understanding. And they seem to help just because they take pleasure from helping.

Yes, PS is a truly great little virtual community. I admire you ladies so much!

Stick with us, Blondie. We'll look after ya.

ETA: congrats on your engagement.

 

[Fancy605]

I would advise using the knot message boards to look at tons of great pictures....but there is too much senseless negativity in the discussions for my taste. I like looking at Bios, but I don''t actually read the posts.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Haha! I HATED the knot and ran from there as fast as I could as soon as I found PS. The girls were mean and hurtful. It is just horrible there.

 

[InlovewithJHK]

I didn''t like the knot for posting (just looked at pics mostly) because they were MEAN about my husband and my age difference.... he is over 8 years older than me... It was hurtful because I just wanted some advice about wedding planning and they felt the need to insult me personally

- this wasn''t everyone but still.... PS people are MUCH nicer

 

[codex57]

The Bride World section here is quite good.

I''m pretty surprised many of the girls on the Knot are even engaged. What kinda moron would propose to those witches? It certainly explains the high divorce rate in this country.

 

[tiffanytwisted]

I found some great vendors from people on the St Louis board. But the girls on the dress board are vicious.

 

[fabcrab]

I''ve never used the knot boards. I remembered reading how mean the girls are there here in PS back when I was still a lurker.

What do you mean by them being vicious in the dress board? Do they insult brides who show them their wedding gowns?


Oh and btw PSers are amazing!!!

 

[Gypsy]

Aside from our great moderators... I think part of the reason we are so balanced is because we have a large spectrum of people on here commenting on our posts, everything from LIW to hopeful grooms to people married for 25+ years. The knot has a bunch of bridezillas focused on *ME*... it''s all about ME, ME, ME on that board... and no one to hold a mirror up to their faces and show them what they are becoming.

But here, our diversity keeps everyone focused on the REAL prize... the relationship… rather than just the ''big day''. Having a broad range of backgrounds, experiences, ages... etc. really keeps everyone grounded... AND come with the bonus of providing new, interesting and different approaches to problems.

That''s why I

you all.

 

[tiffanytwisted]

Date: 5/7/2007 6:47:18 PM
Author: fabcrab
I''ve never used the knot boards. I remembered reading how mean the girls are there here in PS back when I was still a lurker.

What do you mean by them being vicious in the dress board? Do they insult brides who show them their wedding gowns?


Oh and btw PSers are amazing!!!

They insult people who they think spent too much, or one girl threw a huge fit because she had a designer gown and someone mentioned they were her "dress twin". As if nobody else was allowed to buy the same gown!

 

[fabcrab]

Ok I just got back from the KNOT forums to check what everyone is saying. WOW. Those girls are absolutely HORRIBLE. I really can''t believe it. These girls seriously sound like they''re still in high school and are no where near the level of maturity needed to be engaged/married. YIKES!!

 

[zoebartlett]

I''ve read a few of the FAQs just to see what advice Carly would give. I''ve also checked out my local board which actually has been helpful. I''ve posted about a few specific places we''re thinking of using for our wedding and reception. I''ve gotten some great replies, and I have to say, it''s great that there are those out there who know of these places (some have attended weddings there or are using them for their own weddings). Other than that though, I find the site very hard to navigate my way through. It''s too busy in my opinion and I feel sensory overload whenever I check it out. Not to mention the site is SOOO slow. I prefer PS A LOT more.

 

[janinegirly]

the knot is a very mean place on some boards..especially "planning and etiquette". on other boards (local ones) it''s much more civil.

a few times i put on my armor and venture over to "planning and etiquette" (when i have a straight etiquette question) and without fail, I''ll get a few very helpful responses..but THEN a nasty person will pop on and twist my question, and blast me and basically insult me for daring ask such an unBELIEVABLE question. And it''s always someone who is clueless on etiquette (b/c then they wouldn''t respond with such trash). When someone''s like that, just give it back! But yup,...that board is full of bitter and angry people who just seem to dislike other women! Stick here

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Okay, personal story time...My bf was married for 3 years prior to meeting me and was actually in the process of getting divorced when we met. His ex basically LIVED on the knot when she was planning their wedding (3 yr engagement). She did not take his moving on very well and has taken every opportunity to try to make my life difficult. This ranges from vandalism to verbal abuse to email/myspace stalking. Funnily enough (though not surprising) she was a regular member of the planning and etiquette board while planning and still is!!!

Considering the manner in which she handled this life transition and the conflicts it has entailed (with no grace, class, or dignity) it''s no surprise to hear that she''s a longtime member of those boards. I do find the irony of someone like this posting on an etiquette board incredibly funny however.

We don''t have a bio and we''re not registered on the knot.com because of this. Honestly, I''m afraid she''s going to show up at the wedding and make an a$$ out of herself in her attempt at ruining the day.

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 5/7/2007 9:24:02 PM
Author: zoebartlett
I find the site very hard to navigate my way through. It''s too busy in my opinion and I feel sensory overload whenever I check it out. Not to mention the site is SOOO slow. I prefer PS A LOT more.

I had no idea they had a forum until this thread. Then I went to go search for it. Typing "forum" or "message board" into their search engine does nothing. Maybe I am just dense, but I finally found it by clicking the little link at the bottom of the page. Not sure if I ever would have known it was there. (Then again, there is probably a huge link that pops right out at me that I am just not seeing.)

The only other thing I hate about the knot is that when searching through the gowns on the site it won''t let you look at the back! It has a link to click to see the back of the dress, but it''s right next to the "detail" button, and whenever you click it you just see the detail.

Ooh...one more thing. I also don''t like their wedding budget thing. I don''t like the fact that you can''t remove anything from the list and allocate the money somewhere else. If you CAN do that, I haven''t figured it out...which only adds to how un-user-friendly the site is. Maybe the etiquette girls run the whole site and this is their secret way of making sure no newbies or trolls come. lol.

 

[Jas12]

the knot overwhelms me and is soooo slow!
luckystar--you are not the only one who can''t find the forums--i had trouble too, and that is reason enough to stay away!

 

[zoebartlett]

It''s funny because for a site that is supposed to be there to help people, it just frustrates me more than helps, and apparently I''m not the only one. I haven''t read any negative posts yet but I also don''t check out the site too often. When I do, it''s just to browse through my local board, which so far seems pretty tame.

 

[redfaerythinker]

I''ve never looked at the knot message boards... never knew they were there... I think it''s nice for looking at pictures and such and I found my dream engagement ring on that site so I an''t hate it too much. I think you just need to take it for what it is and just ignore the message boards... leave the catty girls to their own devices!

 

[kathyinjapan]

The Hawaii board was a good resource to me during my planning as the girls there are friendly and they provided good recommendations and reviews for vendors.

Other than that I don''t really care for the rest of the site, way too much advertising, etc