The role of technology in modern relationships

[BrightSpot]

So, my FI & I met on Match.com, we researched & shopped for our ring on PriceScope, & now we are inviting people to our engagment party through Evite.

When we first got serious with each other, we printed up our profiles on Match to save for posterity. Now I wonder if we should do the same with the thread on our ring in SMTR & the congratulatory responses to our Evite.

Then I started wondering if anyone had started a thread about how modern technology has influenced their relationships.

Would anyone else like to share your story?

 

[elepri]

I wish we saved our match.com profiles! Similar story here, met on match, found the ring through pricescope and planned the wedding on theknot. I don''t know how people did all this before the intenet!

 

[ame]

We saved ours and my sister/friends/SIL put them into the scrapbook they made of our lives and courtship. They also saved anything ring related, etc. My knot bio, yknow. everything.

 

[Regular Guy]

Advice for going against the current would be helpful to me.

I''m associated with quite a good number of e-groups, all courtesy of Yahoo. A few I''m the moderator of, and most of those function quite normally, with their users, in the main, familiar with the environment, and we communicate functionally.

But, I''m also a member of a family club...where in the "old" days, we used to meet once a month, but as we''ve scattered ,we now meet once in 5 years. It''s for that meeting I travelled to Chicago recently. It''s charter is some 95 years. As you can imagine, some members don''t frequent computer use extensively. Still, over the last decade, a yahoo groups "announce" did develop, and news does effectively navigate for what I understand to be a majority.

With the "ad-hoc" leadership''s begrudging blessing, I recently started a yahoo groups "talk" function. It was initiated back in January, and re-kicked off the beginning of this month. Now, it has a couple of dozen members. But, it is not active.

Without "crancking" in ways I''m not even clearly imagining...anyone have any advice in encouraging communication over this medium?

Many thanks in advance for your thoughts.

 

[rfath]

My fiance and I met online (not through a dating service, just chatting) long before we met in real life. I researched rings and diamonds and found both online. I can''t imagine my life without what this technology has brought me!

 

[caligal]

We also met on Match! Now on pricescope to find rings- and I love the knot! I think technology has just expanded our options for meeting people, staying in touch, and making our lives easier for research and planning anything. Have any of you watched the ABC show "Hooking up?" It is great! All about on-line dating. Tivo records it on Thursday nights for me.

 

[JC]

Well, I met my wife the old fashioned way......in church.

It''s amazing how technology has influenced our world not too mention our relationships. I guess you could say that if the internet wouldn''t have came about that there would be many relationships from cultural aspects, to political, as well as boyfriends and girlfriends to husbands and wives that would have never been formed not too mention all of the other lists of endless possibilities. Strange isn''t it? Can you believe it, the internet created LOVE.....

.....okay, i guess that''s enough moosh

 

[Blue824]

Its really so weird to think of life pre-internet! I really don''t know anything else. I''ve had AOL since I was 10, so more than half my life at this point!

When you have some aspect of distance in a relationship I think the internet is so important! About two months into dating my bf, I left to study art history in Italy. A brief stint back in the US and I was off to study again in France. Daily emails and IM conversations were very important to us. It wasn''t financially realistic to be able to talk too often on the phone, and long conversations were expensive! (I always tease him that I gave up some very nice purses to talk to him.) I mean, I couldnt believe how much time I spent in computer labs or internet cafes or late at night in my apartment, but it was worth it in the long run. We didn''t meet online, but me through friends, and you know how college is, one AIM name gets passed along to someone else and you start casualy talking and making plans through that. It really is amazing to see what a huge role technology has played in our relationship, and all of yours.

 

[MissAva]

I meet my SO in High School he was in my Pyshics classes and my American Legal class my junior year of HS, started dating at 17. We went steady all through college and now at 22 and entering my final year in my program I dont think we coudl have done it w/o the internet. We saved so much by being able to talk on AIM and send each other e-mails. Plus we were able to compare airline ticket prices and I have found him a ton of scrabble stuff online. I am not much of a phone girl...it is akin to pulling teeth unless I am in the car. So AIM was a huge blessing for the last few years, we talk without takling. (Plus then if you are having a bad day you can read past convos and be reminded of how sweet your honey is.)

 

[Mara]

we met offline but first got to know each other through emails since it was another month or so til we could see each other again (work/travel schedules etc).

i''m the internet person in our relationship and feel more comfortable via emails and similar, i''m in sales and i do 90% of my work via email funnily enough to the chagrin of my old-school boss who still loves the phone. i did the research on PS for the rings etc and then planned the wedding almost entirely remotely since it was in Hawaii. i have no idea what i would have done or what people used to do before the internet when it came to destination weddings!! we only had to go out there once and it all went off in a great manner.

 

[JCJD]

We met in high school, my sophomore year, his junior year. Everything was fine and dandy, we really enjoyed spending time together, and then I went off 2 states (6.5 hour drive) away to college. Phone calls are expensive, but dorm room internet is free, so we spent a LOT of time on AIM and emailing each other. It was really hard with the distance, only seeing each other once every 10 weeks during the school year, but it was incredible for developing our communication! We were able to really talk about issues in our relationship (easier on the phone than in person), and he is REALLY REALLY good at knowing when "Nothing" really means nothing!

 

[MINE!!]

We met in college.. he was my prof. But I asked him out to coffee through email. About 2 months after we started dating he went to London for his sabbatical.. for about 8 weeks... we emailed each other everyday. We kept copies of them.. and reread them with each other every once in a while... it is wuite special... But... my favorite things were the handwritten letters that he sent. There is nothing like an old fashioned hand written loveletter that you can hold...