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I just need to vent a little bit about some guest list drama.
For background: the wedding is at my fiance's hometown because my hometown is overseas and his mom is afraid of flying, and it means a lot to my fiance and his family to have a Catholic wedding at his home church. My parents have been very gracious, and are even paying for the bulk of the reception costs, despite the fact that none of my family can come to the wedding, and so they'll only know 6 people at the reception. My parents are flying from overseas for the wedding.
My fiance's family is very catholic and very large, but I wanted a guest list of under 100, so we decided to invite all of his immediate family, and aunts and uncles, but none of the kids (except those in the bridal party). Which put his family's side of the guest list at right about 50 (if we had invited all the cousins/kids, it would easily have been over 200). The rest of the guest list is largely our close college friends.
However, my fiance's sister threw a tantrum about not being allowed to bring her boyfriend's teenage son (who I hadn't met at the time) to our wedding. And so my fiance's dad was putting a lot of pressure on us to invite him, and my fiance and I decided it'd be easier to just invite him so that there wouldn't be drama with his sister, who is kind of a drama queen (she wouldn't RSVP to the wedding until we invited the kid).
But even though I know we made a prudent decision to keep the peace, I'm still miffed. I don't like it just based on principle, since we're not inviting many of my fiance's cousins due to the 'no kids' rule, but we're inviting a kid who isn't even related to us and who neither of us know. And to make me feel even worse, one of my parents' close friends can't make the wedding because they have a young child, and my parents barely have any guests at the reception (that they're paying for) as it is. My parents haven't said anything about making an exception for this couple, but I feel guilty about it since my folks are flying all the way around the world to be there. They also don't speak English really well, so they won't have many people to talk to aside from me, and their 4 friends that can make the wedding.
So yeah, just needed to vent a little. I don't regret the decision because in all honesty his sister is a little crazy, and fighting her and her parents over it wouldn't have been worth the drama. My fiance is on my side about not inviting his sister's bf's kid, but his dad was making a big deal of it, and so we decided to bend the rules for her to keep the peace.
For background: the wedding is at my fiance's hometown because my hometown is overseas and his mom is afraid of flying, and it means a lot to my fiance and his family to have a Catholic wedding at his home church. My parents have been very gracious, and are even paying for the bulk of the reception costs, despite the fact that none of my family can come to the wedding, and so they'll only know 6 people at the reception. My parents are flying from overseas for the wedding.
My fiance's family is very catholic and very large, but I wanted a guest list of under 100, so we decided to invite all of his immediate family, and aunts and uncles, but none of the kids (except those in the bridal party). Which put his family's side of the guest list at right about 50 (if we had invited all the cousins/kids, it would easily have been over 200). The rest of the guest list is largely our close college friends.
However, my fiance's sister threw a tantrum about not being allowed to bring her boyfriend's teenage son (who I hadn't met at the time) to our wedding. And so my fiance's dad was putting a lot of pressure on us to invite him, and my fiance and I decided it'd be easier to just invite him so that there wouldn't be drama with his sister, who is kind of a drama queen (she wouldn't RSVP to the wedding until we invited the kid).
But even though I know we made a prudent decision to keep the peace, I'm still miffed. I don't like it just based on principle, since we're not inviting many of my fiance's cousins due to the 'no kids' rule, but we're inviting a kid who isn't even related to us and who neither of us know. And to make me feel even worse, one of my parents' close friends can't make the wedding because they have a young child, and my parents barely have any guests at the reception (that they're paying for) as it is. My parents haven't said anything about making an exception for this couple, but I feel guilty about it since my folks are flying all the way around the world to be there. They also don't speak English really well, so they won't have many people to talk to aside from me, and their 4 friends that can make the wedding.
So yeah, just needed to vent a little. I don't regret the decision because in all honesty his sister is a little crazy, and fighting her and her parents over it wouldn't have been worth the drama. My fiance is on my side about not inviting his sister's bf's kid, but his dad was making a big deal of it, and so we decided to bend the rules for her to keep the peace.
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