The wind has left my sails.

[iwannaprettyone]

My grandpa passed away on Sunday and I cannot seem to get to a good place. I try to think of all the happy times we shared, but it makes my heart heavy. The funeral is in England and it is impossible for me to get over to attend. My dad leaves today. I hate this feeling.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/27/2008 9:30:12 AM
Author:iwannaprettyone
My grandpa passed away on Sunday and I cannot seem to get to a good place. I try to think of all the happy times we shared, but it makes my heart heavy. The funeral is in England and it is impossible for me to get over to attend. My dad leaves today. I hate this feeling.

I am so sorry. It takes time....

 

[Stephanie]

I am so sorry, Iwanna.

 

[gwendolyn]

I am very sorry, honey.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/27/2008 9:31:53 AM
Author: Lorelei

I am so sorry. It takes time....

Indeed. Don''t try to rush the grieving process Iwanna, it really is necessary.

So sorry for your loss, grandparents are such special people.

 

[sumbride]

I am so sorry. Take some time off and grieve, even if you can''t travel to the funeral.

 

[dani13]

I am very sorry, Iwanna. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

 

[Deelight]

I''m so sorry Iwanna sending you bigs hugs.
Grieving is an experience that is unique to each person it really can''t be rushed and needs to be lived through. The time will come where you get a good place it just takes some time to get there.

 

[ahappygirl]

I am so sorry. Please be extra kind and gentle to yourself. I''m sending prayers and hugs your way.

 

[pocahontas]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time.

 

[AmberGretchen]

Oh sweetie - please don''t be so hard on yourself. Grief is an incredibly intense thing, and as my sweet DH pointed out the other night, its not at all rational. You should take whatever time you need to mourn your grandfather''s passing - I know you probably still need to do the minimum daily stuff (work, etc...), but try to only do things beyond that that you are really up to doing - cancel everything else and don''t feel bad about it. If you let the grief take its natural course, you will heal faster and more soundly, but you just can''t rush it.

I''m so sorry, and will send healing thoughts to both you and your family in this time of loss.

 

[Haven]

I am so sorry for your loss, Iwanna. I hope you can take the healing time you need to grieve.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family right now.

 

[Bia]

Firstly, I am very sorry for your loss.

I think most of us have experienced losing a family member. Many of us are at an age when losing grandparents is not uncommon. I have lost both maternal grandparents in the last few years. Now my father''s father is not doing well. The sad thing is, none of them were/are very old (early 70''s). It takes a bit of time to get over the grief, but you never do fully. I am sure the wedding stuff just makes it harder--thinking about not having my grandmother at my wedding is tough. Just know it does get easier with time.

I am sorry. I always want to say the right thing but it never seems "right."

 

[arjunajane]

Iwannaprettyone, although its not the same, I can certainly relate. My Fi''s grandad passed away last week, and his mood has been of course very heavy since. He lived in Sth Africa (we''re in Australia), so I think it makes it a little harder to not be able to attend the service.
You are doing the right thing trying to remember him in his fun and positive times - I send you my condolences sweety.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Oh, Kathryn, I'm so, so sorry to hear about your Grandpa. I hope you can, in your wonderful memories of him, move to a positive place sooner rather than later.

I'm sorry you can not attend the funeral. My parayers are with you and the rest of your family.

 

[Love in Bloom]

Date: 5/27/2008 10:11:55 AM
Author: ahappygirl
I am so sorry. Please be extra kind and gentle to yourself. I''m sending prayers and hugs your way.

I fully agree with ahappygirl, be gentle on yourself. I''m so sorry about your grandpa and I hope you can find some peace soon...

 

[FireGoddess]

So sorry to hear. Perhaps you can do your own little personal remembrance for him wherever you are, since you can''t travel to England.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I''m so sorry, Iwanna, I''m thinking of you. I agree that you should have your own remembrance of him since his funeral is over seas.

 

[2Artists]

I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. That is so painful. I agree with the thought of doing something as a personal remembrance of him. I think that would be very healing and and a great way to honor him. Prayers.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Thank you all for your kind words.

Lorelei- your bunny avatar was enough to make me smile, you are so sweet.

SDL- Thank you for your prayers, I need a hug...

Stephanie & Gwen- Thank you for popping in

Ellen- It seems to be a universal truth that grandparents are the coolest part of the family growing up. My grandpa, a farmer by trade, taught me how to drive a tractor, milk cows, ride horses, haul hay and pick apples from the orchid (and so much more). People are often surprised at the diversity of interest talents I have learned from my elders.

Sum- I wish I could get away, I am going to take dad to the airport tomorrow so I don''t feel soooo helpless.

Dani- I appreciate your thoughts and prayers very much as does my family, thanks again.

Deelight- thanks for the hugs sweetie, I do need to slow down and process this...

ahappygirl- I am going home tonight and having a large glass of wine and a bubble bath...I need some pampering

pocahontas- thank you for your thoughts and prayers

Amber- Thanks for your kind words. You''re right, there is nothing rational about it. I feel like a zombie.

Haven- Thanks for your thoughts are prayers, so hard to slow down life.

Bia- Just stopping in was enough, thank you sorry about your dad''s dad, prayers to you too.

arjunajane- thank you, condolences to you and you FI at this difficult time.


again, thanks to all.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/27/2008 2:55:17 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone
Thank you all for your kind words.

Lorelei- your bunny avatar was enough to make me smile, you are so sweet.

SDL- Thank you for your prayers, I need a hug...

Stephanie & Gwen- Thank you for popping in

Ellen- It seems to be a universal truth that grandparents are the coolest part of the family growing up. My grandpa, a farmer by trade, taught me how to drive a tractor, milk cows, ride horses, haul hay and pick apples from the orchid (and so much more). People are often surprised at the diversity of interest talents I have learned from my elders.

Sum- I wish I could get away, I am going to take dad to the airport tomorrow so I don''t feel soooo helpless.

Dani- I appreciate your thoughts and prayers very much as does my family, thanks again.

Deelight- thanks for the hugs sweetie, I do need to slow down and process this...

ahappygirl- I am going home tonight and having a large glass of wine and a bubble bath...I need some pampering

pocahontas- thank you for your thoughts and prayers

Amber- Thanks for your kind words. You''re right, there is nothing rational about it. I feel like a zombie.

Haven- Thanks for your thoughts are prayers, so hard to slow down life.

Bia- Just stopping in was enough, thank you sorry about your dad''s dad, prayers to you too.

arjunajane- thank you, condolences to you and you FI at this difficult time.


again, thanks to all.

I am so glad my crazy rabbit made you smile!!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Lauren- It means alot to me, how''s the weather your way? Stormy?

Love in Bloom- thanks for the well wishes

FG- Lovely idea, thank you for the suggestion

NEL- Thank you for your thoughts

2artists- I appreciate your prayers

 

[gwendolyn]

I know I didn''t say much before but my heart really does go out to you, sweetie. I never know if it''s appropriate to talk about personal loss when someone else is going through their own grief, you know? I lost my grandmother last summer and she was one of my best friends. Time will make it easier, but never fully better, I don''t think. I''m very sorry you can''t be here in England to attend the funeral. If we could somehow swap places so you could be, I''d happily do it.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 5/27/2008 3:03:33 PM
Author: gwendolyn
I know I didn''t say much before but my heart really does go out to you, sweetie. I never know if it''s appropriate to talk about personal loss when someone else is going through their own grief, you know? I lost my grandmother last summer and she was one of my best friends. Time will make it easier, but never fully better, I don''t think. I''m very sorry you can''t be here in England to attend the funeral. If we could somehow swap places so you could be, I''d happily do it.

Honey, I completely understand and apprecitate your thoughts. Thanks again Gwen.

 

[Miranda]

Oh honey, I''m so very sorry. When my grandma passed away a few years ago I remember feeling exactly the way you do. Kinda like you will never feel happy again, huh. Like so many others have said, it takes time and soon all you will be filled with is fond memories and smiles every time you think of your dear grandpa. I''ll keep you in my thoughts.

 

[allikatac]

I''m so sorry to hear of your loss. I know it is tough, but hang in there. It will get better with time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/27/2008 2:55:17 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone

Ellen- It seems to be a universal truth that grandparents are the coolest part of the family growing up. My grandpa, a farmer by trade, taught me how to drive a tractor, milk cows, ride horses, haul hay and pick apples from the orchid (and so much more). People are often surprised at the diversity of interest talents I have learned from my elders.

You''re right, many times they are. I''m so glad you have lots of wonderful memories of him.

 

[Dancing Fire]

sorry to hear this kind of news

hang in there.

 

[princesss]

Sweetie, I''m so sorry to hear this. *big hugs* Take your time and don''t try to force yourself to do anything for a while. Focus on what you need, no matter what it is, because if it helps, it''s good.

 

[scarleta]

Ivanna: I know I am a bit late on this one but wanted to tell you how sorry I am.You need more time and your lack of attendance at the funeral should not make you feel any worse.Sounds like your grandpa was a great man and I hope that one day sooner rather than later you will be able to cherish the good memories.I am sure that your Grandpa would not wish to see you sad for too long.Thinking about you and family..