This is very weird (vent)

[Keepingthefaith21]

The other week I received a brochure for a wedding venue in the post. I thought it was a bit odd but remembered I had been to the venue about a year ago for a wedding and thought that perhaps I had requested more information at the time. The following day, the daily delivery contained a post card from another venue. The day after that the post contained two postcard advertisements for DJ’s. Saturday’s post contained a letter which began, “Congratulations on your engagement!”. One of my friends was there with me and I pulled out the small collection of material I had received over the previous week. I explained I had no idea why I was getting these items.

We decided to phone one of the venues to see if they could explain to me how they received my name. Turns out my name and address is on a list obtained from a local wedding expo. Clearly since I am not engaged I have never attended an expo and would never ever sign up for these mailings unless I was engaged or knew a proposal was close at hand. It was obvious someone else signed me up.

We figured the person who added my name to the mailing list did so as a form of a joke or a way to prod my SO. However, I do not feel anyone else should be pushing my SO or dropping hints. I felt embarrassed when I had to show my SO the post and explain what my friend and I figured out. I didn’t want him to think I was planning a wedding without a proposal and without his input. I do not understand why anyone would do something like this. It just seems darn right cruel. I am an unpublished address so it is definitely someone I know. I just hope it was someone playing a joke which went awry and not someone trying to be mean intentionally.

Thanks for letting me vent about this. It''s been bothering me.

 

[bubbly1126]

How did he react when you talked to him about it?

Any way it could have been him who did it? Maybe he went to the expo to get information or something... or maybe he just did it to send hints your way without ever thinking it could have been him....?

Long shot... but it COULD happen.

I''m sorry you feel bad about this... if it wasn''t him then I hope it was just a mix up with someone with the same name or something... weird things do happen sometimes.

Cheer up!

 

[Independent Gal]

OK, that is just mean and inappropriate. I hope whoever did it fesses up and apologizes to you!

 

[Aloros]

That is plain out inappropriate. Talk about butting your nose in other people''s business! I hope you find out who did this and that they give you their heartfelt apologies.

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 10/15/2007 3:10:13 PM
Author: Independent Gal
OK, that is just mean and inappropriate. I hope whoever did it fesses up and apologizes to you!

Ditto!! I don''t blame you for being upset.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Totally inappropriate. Not only is it a reminder of the fact that you''re still waiting, but it could also lead to problems between you and FI (if he thinks you''re obsessed). Not to mention, it''s fraud!

 

[janinegirly]

are you quite sure this is the most logical explanation? it is very malicious of whoever it is if so! but also very pre-meditated and takes effort...to attend an expo, put your name down and just let you deal with the fallout.

i''d be furious. it also has the unfortunate effect of making you suspicious of everyone for awhile, wondering who did it!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Date: 10/15/2007 3:41:38 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
It could also lead to problems between you and FI (if he thinks you''re obsessed).

Hudson_Hawk: That was my biggest worry and exactly why I felt I had to sit with my SO and tell him what had happened. I had to practice what I was going to say so many times with my friend because I was so upset about the situation.

Bubbly1126: I''d love to think it was as simple as a name mix up. However, my first name is very unusual. In my 28 years I have never met anyone with the same spelling as my name. Most people can not pronounce it properly nevermind spell it. I have no doubt that this was intentional; I just question the motive.

I hope whomever did this would apologize. If it was poor judgment, that can be forgiven. If no one comes forward, I will suspect the intent was not innocent.

Thanks ladies, I am glad you do not think I am overreacting being upset about this.

 

[amy_dub]

KTF, I think you have every right to be mad. I would in no way find it humorous if someone did it to me. I hope your SO was understanding and realized that you were upset over it.

Just remember what goes around, comes around.. and whoever did it will get their payback. I wholeheartedly believe in Karma.

 

[luckystar112]

KTF, are you sure the only way they could have gotten your name is from a bridal expo?
The only reason I ask is because I started getting a little bit of wedding-related junk mail when FI and I went ring browsing for the first time at Robbins Bros. And then the junk mail TRIPLED when I signed up for theknot.com. (Did that happen to anyone else?)

 

[mirre]

I agree with the last poster... Maybe it was from signing up with a wedding website or if you had visited a wedding venue''s website? Or I''ve even done one of those "enter to win a free wedding dress" a couple times... if you had done anything like that they could have gotten your name that way...? Just a thought. I''d hate to think any of your friends would do it as a cruel joke but I guess things like that happen.

If it''s none of that maybe while talking with your friends you could just casually mention "Hey the weirdest thing is happening... I''m getting ''wedding junk mail'' and I haven''t even signed up for anything wedding related!" maybe while talking to them whoever did it will fess up and say "Ok it was me I was playing around!" or something like that.

In the meantime, I don''t know how much stuff you''re getting in the mail, but if you want it to stop I would call them up as you get the brochures and ask to be removed from their mailing list.

Good Luck!

 

[janinegirly]

i second/third the previous posters questions.
it just would take a lot of effort and be incredibly malicious of someone to attend an expo and put your name down.
call one of the vendors you got information from and ask specifically where/who they obtained your name..they are obligated to tell you. there are privacy laws governing this. you should be able to track it down to one overall source. and if it''s a website/expo you''ve never been too, then wow, that would bother the heck out of me too!

 

[Tuesday]

Any chance you signed up for something (seemingly) unrelated, and they shared your info? I''ve gotten burned on that one in the past. Signed up for what I thought was a contest to win a vacation, and a week later I was bombarded with telemarketing calls and mail solicitations for vacation rentals and packages.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Sadly, I have confirmed with all the venues I''ve contacted that they obtained my information from a list which was bought after a wedding expo held about a month or so ago. One of the event coordinators is going to do some more reasearch for me and find out exactly which expo it was and where it was held. From speaking with all these vedors it has become apparent to me that this was not the result of my registration with any websites.

Also, please don''t think I am insane here but I have intentionally stopped myself from registering with any wedding sites until I''m engaged. I don''t want to jinx my engagement!

I''m just putting in my "big girl pants" about the whole thing. SO and I are gathering the post together in a folder and we''re trying to see how big of a collage we can make from all this stuff. So, with a little help from his good sense of humor, we''re finding ways to laugh about it.

 

[mirre]

Well... even if it was done as a bad joke... at least you are able to find some humor to it with your SO... maybe there''s some good info in there that you could use later!