tiny vent.. feeling bad for FI...

[rfath]

My fiance found out this weekend that the person in charge of organizing his bachelor party totally dropped the ball and doesn''t think he''ll be able to get anything together before our wedding (and then asked if it''d be okay if he had it after the wedding.. *sigh*).

I feel so bad for him. I know that he was looking forward to celebrating with his friends. He''s trying to pretend that it doesn''t matter to him, but... *I* would be disappointed! Heck, I AM disappointed for him!

So.. I''m trying to mobilize the troops (his friends) and guilt someone into organizing SOMETHING for him before the wedding. Not sure if it''ll be exactly what he wanted, and I feel weird getting involved at ALL, but.. I hate to see him disappointed.

 

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What a shame!!!! (And I think this deserves a BIG vent...

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I hope his friends get something together.....

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[njc]

That is a shame! By dropped the ball, do you mean never did anything or just decided he couldnt handle organizing?

I think it is great though that you have stepped in and are trying to get something together for him! Something as simple as a night out at the bars with his buddies is better than nothing! You''ve still got time... Good luck!

 

[BrightSpot]

That is a shame that your FI''s friend dropped the ball. I''m glad you''re stepping in to organize *something.* I think it''s ok if it''s not elaborate--just some time together with the boys before the big event would be nice.

What did you decide on for your wedding band, btw? (perhaps I missed a thread...)

 

[Rube]

A bachelor party doesn''t have to be much more than hanging out with close buddies who are thrilled that you are getting married!

I''d say it''s fine if you step in. Hopefully someone else will pick up the slack quickly, and the night out will just fall in to place.

It''s sweet that you see he''s dissapointed (and great that you are in tune enough to realize it...) I''m sure his friend just set his expectations too high, and feels he can''t do something "way out there" in time.

Good luck! I hope it happens!

 

[rfath]

Rube - you hit the nail on the head. This friend is known for his elaborate parties, but just never seemed to get it together to organize something for my fiance. It''s frustrating for me to see that he''s done so much for other people, but not this time.

Brightspot - I posted a thread in RockyTalky complimenting WF and Facets for our bands. I decided on a band that Facets doesn''t carry anymore - a 2.3mm wide eternity with teeny little channel-set rounds. I don''t have a camera with a macro lens, so I''m still trying to get pictures of my ring. I love it, though... might firey little sparkles that compliment my ring!

 

[BrightSpot]

I just found your FI''s ring--stunning! I can''t wait to see yours & how it looks w/ your e-ring. It sounds divine!

 

[aphisiglovessae]

So sorry to hear about your fiance's predicament. I think men generally don't like to show disappointment or sadness, but I think he might be disappointed that he can't have his traditional bachelor party. Who wouldn't be? I think you are a GREAT fiancee to step in and make things happen. He should thank his lucky stars he has someone that cares that much about him and his happiness. YOU GO GIRL!!

 

[rfath]

he''s told me in no uncertain terms that I may NOT plan a bachelor party for him as he thinks it''s just WRONG. So, I''ll just pull the strings and make sure someone else claims credit for it

Normally he''s a pretty sensitive guy and really obvious that he''s upset about something, but for some reason he''s determined that he should hide this from me. I know he knows that I''m not terribly fond of the whole strippper-naked girl thing... but come ON, it''s his bachelor party. I''ll survive.